Welcome back to Part 8 of the Vegas Guy Art of Seduction Series
In this article, I am going to start talking about one of the Four Pillars of Mastery, which is CONNECTION (EMPATHY). This is the missing link for so many guys in their ability to attract and keep women. To master the art of seduction, it is absolutely essential to learn empathy.
If you are just tuning in now, please read Parts 1-7 before you read this article about the fine Art of Seduction. You can find them here:
How to Attract Women, Vegas part 1
How to Attract Women – Vegas
Part 3: How to isolate the girl
Part 4: How to pull the girl
Part 5: How to escalate sexually
Part 6: How to end the encounter so she wants to see you again
Part 7: How to continue leading and deepening after the first encounter
If you’ve been reading this blog for a while, you have heard me speak before about something called EMPATHY. Often I use the term Non-Violent Communication or NVC.
Perhaps this didn’t sound like the most glamorous part of the art of seduction, and perhaps you thought I was just giving you the “girl” perspective that’s not really “how it works.” That’s why, later in this article, I’m going to share with you what Vegas Guy himself told me about how he seduces women …
But first, let’s make sure we are on the same page … what is empathy anyway?
From my perspective, it means “tuning in” to an emotional frequency where all living creatures are connected. This may sound a little “woo woo,” but it really isn’t. It literally is training yourself to tune in to this frequency just like you would a radio station, and when you are tuned into it, you can literally feel what other people are feeling … when you get advanced with this … this is what is called Being an Empath.
To break it down a little more, here is a definition that I like from the official Non-Violent Communication website:
With NVC we learn to hear our own deeper needs and those of others. Through its emphasis on deep listening—to ourselves as well as others—NVC helps us discover the depth of our own compassion. This language reveals the awareness that all human beings are only trying to honor universal values and needs, every minute, every day.
NVC can be seen as both a spiritual practice that helps us see our common humanity, using our power in a way that honors everyone’s needs, and a concrete set of skills which help us create life-serving families and communities.
The form is simple, yet powerfully transformative.
4 Steps of NVC:
Through the practice of NVC, we can learn to clarify what we are observing, what emotions we are feeling, what values we want to live by, and what we want to ask of ourselves and others. We will no longer need to use the language of blame, judgment or domination. We can experience the deep pleasure of contributing to each others’ well being.
Now here’s the thing: So often when I work with my male clients one-on-one or at conferences where I am a speaker, guys tell me they are trying to “figure out” the seduction thing. What should they do? What should they say? As if there is some magic bullet of words or deeds that is going to “solve” this problem for them …
And there isn’t. What will solve this problem for you is NOT your logical mind. In fact, it’s because these guys are stuck in their logical minds that they are not having success with women.
What WILL solve this problem for you are the FOUR PILLARS OF MASTERY, which I talked about in my speech at the 21 Convention. One of those four pillars, and you will never become a master without it, is EMPATHY/CONNECTION.
Well, I can tell you about this all day long, but you may not really believe that Masters of the Art of Seduction are actually using it. Maybe it sounds like I’m talking about “feminine intuition,” etc. etc.
Now, I had never told Vegas Guy my take on the art of seduction. But after he seduced me the night I told you about in parts 1 to 7 of this Series, I had to know …
What was his perspective on what he was doing? He obviously was no newcomer to seduction, because a guy does not develop that level of mastery out of nowhere …
(Yeah, he’s not a newcomer, it turns out he has hooked up with at least 1000 women, but I digress … :)
So this is what I learned about his take on the Art of Seduction:
Vegas Guy doesn’t call it “pickup.” He calls it “glamouring a woman,” as in, what Vampires do, lol :)
Of course I was very intrigued what he meant by “glamouring,” so I asked him.
He said: “Putting each woman in that place of euphoria and safety.”
Notice how those are not “logical” words. He’s not applying a technique or strategy. He’s not “figuring it out.” He’s finding an EMOTIONAL SPACE with a woman.
I asked him how he does that, and this is what he said:
“Glamouring is defined differently for each person. It’s like sensing what their needs are and meeting them.”
Wow, NOTICE how close what he said is to the NVC definition of empathy that I quoted above. “We learn to hear our own deeper needs and those of others.”
Eureka! Lol :) Really, guys, if you skip this step — and most pickup teaching does skip this step — there is NO WAY you are going to be able to get the consistent results that Vegas Guy gets.
Now, you may be curious then, as I was, what need Vegas Guy saw in me that he stepped up and met that night. And I asked him that.
“You didn’t really have a need. Your desire not expecting it to be met was to be fascinated by someone which is what it would take for you to be swept off your feet.”
Bingo. Right on the money :) And that my friends, is the fine art of seduction in a nutshell.
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