From separate bedrooms and separate finances to harmony and miracles

Healing the Separation Between the Masculine and Feminine – Miracle Results from the 30-Day Sexual Abundance Challenge and the 15-Week Miracle Coaching Program

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What magic can happen when we heal our past traumas?

A great big thank you to those of you who commented on our post yesterday, Sex for Purposes of Healing. Today we are turning one of those comments into a new article, to celebrate just how magical it can be when you take responsibility for healing the trauma in your life.

Just because we haven’t been blogging for a while doesn’t mean we haven’t been creating miracles! In fact, I want to begin sharing some blog articles about my star student, client, and customer CJ. She was a “referral” from her aunt who passed away. I kid you not. Her aunt who had passed over guided CJ to my websites and originally to my 30-Day Powerful Communication Challenge. And I feel the deepest sense of honor in having a spiritual healer who has passed over send me my ideal client and customer.

Anyway, when CJ first found me, she and her husband were financially “separated.” As you can see from her testimonial below, they were also separated in other ways. CJ and I have been working together in private sessions for over a year now. She also committed to many of my 30-Day Challenges, including the 30-Day Sexual Abundance Challenge.

We have cleared out a lot of trauma over the past year. We have cleared childhood traumas and we have cleared traumas like rape and sexual assault. We have cleared a whole lot more than that. And as we did so, CJ began to experience miracles … financial miracles, relationship miracles, brand new career and life purpose miracles, and so much more.

In fact, she went from separate bedrooms and separate finances, to relationship and money miracles left and right!

This is the sexual healing and relationship healing miracle, in CJ’s own words:

What you stated here in the blog in regards to being triggered and him not running away and your freaking out come to a bare minimum level is exactly why I am so thankful and grateful for my husband! He and I have been together for almost 24 years and we have gone through some roads that would cause most a divorce (and almost did at one point which resulted us getting a financial separation for almost 15years). Parenting and financial beliefs didn’t align for us at all during this period of time.

In efforts to make this long story shorter, he and I have stayed committed to each and our marriage through it all! (Our happiness and the healing in ourselves and our marriage is a true testament to the meaning of love and commitment!)

At the beginning of me doing the 30 day sexual challenge [ed. clarification – she is talking about the 30-Day Sexual Abundance Challenge at ], we were sleeping in separate bedrooms. Yes separate bedrooms for almost a week. You see he isn’t at all involved with energy work or HBR; although I think intuitively he is and he just doesn’t know it yet. Anyway, most would think oh my gosh they are sleeping in separate rooms they must have some big problems and most would run away; however I knew this was a huge trigger for me and like you say we are never healed alone.

Well keeping all of this in perspective I intuitively knew (after a lot of tears and getting the Ego under control if you will which was a challenge in itself) I had to do some searching and tune in to myself as well as continue doing the 30 day sexual challenge where I finally was able to have some big shifts. As a result, we were sleeping in the same bed and communicating with each in a way we haven’t done so in years, including our financial separation is now a void as if this year and great healing has taken place.

I know this whole process could NOT have happened if I didn’t meet you, do your challenges, have our sessions and have the basic fundamental understanding of how energy work works from my aunt and more importantly the commitment and the will to keep the commitment with my husband and our marriage as well as the commitment to HBR and myself.

I truly hope this guy brings you true happiness Erika! (As I write this I’m filled with goosebumps all over my body and tears of hope for you and your journey with this guy). Never judge a book by its cover. Sometimes the ones you think are going to be good turn out to be the best.
Keep doing what your doing!

Love you! Cheers!

– C.J.

You hear that? From separate finances and separate bedrooms to marital harmony and amazing communication and connection.

You too could go from separate bedrooms (conflict between the masculine and feminine) to miracles and harmony

CJ’s result is not unusual. I have helped a lot of people through Holistic Belief Reprogramming clear childhood and sexual trauma, attract their soul mate, repair marriages, transition into exciting new life purposes, and so much more.

So if you’ve been on the fence, let CJ’s miracle (this is one of many miracles she has experienced working with me and my products) be the inspiration you need to get started today with the 30-Day Sexual Abundance Challenge here.

And if you want to make an even deeper commitment, email me to get started with the phenomenal 15-Week Miracle Coaching Program today.


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Sex for purposes of healing

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Oh the sadness of losing Harvey the Cat has touched my face for sure … and … I’ve still got it.

Well, hello everyone. Did it grab your attention to talk about sex for purposes of healing?

It has been a long while since I wrote anything here. You might say that I’ve been in a looooooong gestational period … you know the kind where a petite woman gives birth to a blue whale … and umm .. it takes a while to get there.

Forgive me as I am feeling a bit rusty on the blogging side of life. Even this photo is from a previous article. I have new photos to upload! They are not uploading. I am in touch with tech support! Haha.

This photo is good though because I took it one of the nights I was hanging out with the same guy we are about to write about here. Hmm, he needs a name. Let’s call him Neo. Just for kicks.

If you missed the previous posts about Neo, you can go back to The Return of Tantric Dating here.

There has been no consummation yet. When we talked about tantric dating being slow, apparently we meant it.

I’m very intrigued though by the idea that a relationship would be neither full blown “romantic,” nor platonic, nor “friends with benefits.” Nope, he and I are now talking very explicitly about sex for purposes of healing.

Why do I feel optimistic about this?

Because so much healing has already happened in this relationship and without physical contact for the most part. Neo seems to have healer intuition, even though he has an engineering background and works in sales. He has a knack for triggering me in exactly the right ways to bring old, deep traumas to the surface to get healed. And he does what no man before him has had the strength of character to do … he stays connected with me even if I freak out, even if I want to run away … so much so that I’ve almost stopped freaking out.

I have no idea where this might lead, nor do I want to have a lot of expectations. We are in uncharted territory here. I can only say for now that I have a hunch, that we are actively talking about it, and that I’ve never had a hotter sexual connection with a man in my entire life. All of the above means that the healing potential is very high. And that is about the only thing that could entice me into having sex after years of celibacy at this point.

Baby steps here. It’s an incredible feat for me to get this blog post published tonight, albeit without the new photos I wanted to share. We will leave it at that for now …


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Reset Your Nervous System with 50 Deep Breaths

How to Reset Your Nervous System the Quick and Easy Way: 50 Deep Breaths

Reset Your Nervous System with 50 Deep Breaths

Reset Your Nervous System with 50 Deep Breaths

Phew boy … it’s been quite an intense few months, hasn’t it? Between Hurricane Harvey and the other hurricanes, the fires in Wine Country, and now the second “Hurricane Harvey” (the #metoo campaign) … plus all the crazy hallucinations that Fritz the Cat and I went through this summer as we continued the Harvey Resurrection Project …

Most of us have been pushed to our limits. Age-old collective traumas are coming to the surface to be healed. This ultimately will be a positive development. In the meantime, though, many of us have frayed nerves and hair trigger nervous systems.

Shortly after Harvey the Cat’s seeming passing almost a year ago, my nervous system was shot. I had already been in fight or flight mode pretty much continuously for over two years – beginning with the vegan debacle. Now Fritz the Cat was seemingly sick as well. I was finding it very difficult to stay present or grounded in any way.

That was when I discovered 50 deep breaths.

This 50 deep breaths is a very, very simple technique that came to me through my intuition when I noticed that I would wake up in the morning with my heart already racing, and my breath shallow, before the day even started.

It came to me to take 50 deep breaths before I even got out of bed to start the day. If I got ten breaths in and lost count because my mind was racing or wandering … I would start again at one.

Very quickly I noticed that everything changed after 50 deep breaths. Sometimes I would fall back to sleep, which was much needed. Usually my mind would become much quieter. I found that my nervous system profoundly relaxed after 50 deep breaths.

Now sometimes I will also add mantras from A Course in Miracles.

Like, if we want to use the mantra “I call upon God’s Name and on my own,” I’ll count one, two, three on the inhale, and then repeat the mantra on each exhale.

Would you like to reset your nervous system?

Try it for yourself. Next time you feel stressed out by the news or by your own life … rest somewhere quiet, close your eyes, and take 50 deep breaths. It’s a simple yet life-changing practice that can reset your nervous system in a hurry!

Let me know how it goes …


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Art of seduction: How to contain and penetrate your woman

masculine penetrationYears ago, when I was fully immersed in understanding the art of seduction, I wrote a blog article that was very popular entitled “We want to be seduced.”

That “we want to be seduced” article felt true at the time, yet it was incomplete. I left out something that was very important. Unfortunately, without that missing piece of the puzzle, relationships and seduction can quickly turn to pain instead of joy for a woman.

So it took some years sorting out what was missing from my model of seduction, mostly in solitude. Deep down, I knew I still wanted that beautiful dance of seduction, and yet it was not enough. It was so not enough that it was not worth having until I sorted out how it could be fully joyful without the pain.

Some weeks ago, after I tapped through one of the 30-Day Sexual Abundance Challenge videos that I recorded way back in 2012 … a video focused on self-connection … I got picked up on the ski lift by a guy I’d never met before.

I have been very committed to letting it play out slowly, as described in my Tantric Dating articles. Too many past mistakes that led to too much pain. Not going there again.

That said, there was a feeling very shortly after meeting this guy that “this is it – this is that elusive something that I’ve been waiting for all this time.”

Today while I was running a search on Google for the masculine and penetration, I found a pretty amazing article that describes in some ways what I’ve been trying to crystallize for myself. Here is how it describes the ideas of containment and penetration of the Feminine:

“The Primal dominant male is one who enjoys his dominance, and doesn’t view it in the context of degrading or devaluing the other person. It is simply so that he is the physically stronger or more combat-adept, or at the moment the most stable and comfortable with physical control of the situation, and so it is his pleasure to contain and penetrate the female.

“Though most men don’t have a problem with the penetration part of this exchange, in my observation and listening to many men and women talk about sex, most seem to have a problem with the containment element. This is problematic because Straight women and feminine Gay men, as well as a great many Lesbians need this generally. The Primal female or feminine needs this exponentially more. Lack of it means simply that nothing is going to happen.

“Why aren’t more men aware of this? In some cultures, it’s not a problem at all. Containment is a natural part of being close to someone. It’s only in western cultures, the embrace is missing.”

Bingo! What I described in “we want to be seduced” had the penetration element, but it unfortunately lacked the containment element that is so key to a Feminine woman feeling safe with her man and being able to open to him fully.

We see this blind spot writ large in the relationship President Donald Trump has with his wife Melania. Did you see the cringe-worthy video of them meeting the Obamas at the White House? Trump was all too ready to “penetrate” the Obamas … but he forgot to contain his woman first. He forgot to protect and include her in this momentous occasion of ceremony on the White House steps.

And he paid for it later with a cringe-worthy first dance at the inaugural ball, a wife who was clearly upset and really “not that into him.”

I see this viral video as a powerful sign to all of us how we need to heal the relationship between the Masculine and the Feminine by balancing penetration with containment.

For me, “containment” doesn’t only mean embracing her physically prior to and during sex. It also means containment by creating an emotional container for the relationship in which she feels safe surrendering to him fully. The commitment may be defined in various ways depending on the needs of the people involved, but without that commitment … oh watch out. Nothing is more terrifying than a Feminine who has been abruptly left flapping in the breeze after her deepest vulnerability.

And so I reflect again on the ski lift meeting and how this guy made such a deep impression so quickly.

He was containing and penetrating me within two minutes of meeting me, that’s how.

Let’s replay it.

What was the first thing he did as the chair lifted us off the snow?

“Are you a bar down kind of girl?” And he reached for it and pulled it down as I was saying yes.

There you go, I’m contained.

Wow, that is absolutely stunning subcommunication, don’t you think?

He’s basically asking me straight up if I’m a Feminine energy woman who wants to feel safe, protected, and contained, and doing it under the guise of something utterly sexually neutral.

Then, maybe one more minute into this chair lift ride, I was crying out in pain because my feet were cramping up in my boots.

He suggested maybe I should loosen them, that might help.

Then he leaned over, asked if I minded if he loosened them for me, and started unbuckling my boots.

He’s literally undressing me on the ski lift, within two minutes of meeting me.

This is penetration, again under the guise of something that is “not sexual.”

The subcommunication, though, was highly sexual.

And at an unconscious level where the deepest impressions are made, he demonstrated himself to be a man whose very BEING in this world is containment and penetration of the Feminine.

Cuz you can’t fake this stuff.

I’m not ready yet to share all the details of how this has translated into one of the hottest nights I’ve ever spent in bed with a guy, weeks later. The relationship is still fledgling and we haven’t yet had intercourse.

I do though point out how fast a man can start creating massive attraction with a woman by containing her and penetrating her.

As our President demonstrates, penetration is not enough. The Masculine role is to protect and contain so the Feminine can feel safe to express and play and surrender.


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The Return of Tantric Dating

Moving Deeper Into Presence and Connection with Tantric Dating

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Oh the sadness of losing Harvey the Cat has touched my face for sure … and … I’ve still got it.

Let me ask you a question … how fast do you think your life can change when you practice more Presence? Weeks, months, years … Let me tell you a story then … about how much power you can tap in to nearly instantly when you learn how to reprogram the subconscious mind …

A little over a week ago, I pulled a Holistic Belief Reprogramming video out of the archives that I had not tapped in several years. This is Day 22 of the 30-Day Sexual Abundance Challenge, and the topic is Reconnecting to Your Body.

Upon tapping this Reconnecting to Your Body video, I felt delighted to find myself in a deep pool of presence. I literally felt each part of my body breathing a sigh of relief as awareness and presence moved in and stress moved out. I felt deeply relaxed and calm after tapping the video. “Damn, that’s a powerful video, I’m really proud of that one,” I thought to myself. Then I kinda forgot about it.

Fast forward to the next day. I drove out to Squaw Valley ski resort to take a few runs on the mountain after all the glorious snow we have received this month (23 feet of glorious snow and counting, and yes I tapped for that too – you’re welcome).

I was about to take my second run, on the Red Dog lift, and was scooting forward in the short line. There was a bit of confusion, and a woman next to me yelled something like “are you going up by yourself?” I took the hint and told the guy slightly in front of me that I was hopping on with him.

And so it began.

“Are you a bar down kind of girl?” he asked me. “Sure,” I responded, and he lowered the safety bar. Somehow we started chatting.

I was, by the way, covered from head to toe, literally, with not one inch of skin showing. I mean Burka style covered, in a blizzard. I was wearing mirrored ski goggles, a helmet, a face mask, thick mittens, and many layers of heavy snow gear. He could not see my face, though he later claimed he could see my eyes a little bit. I don’t know how lol with the dark mirrored goggles. Anyway …

(One of my very first blog posts after I started blogging back in 2008 was about my ski lift experience and what it taught me about attraction and approachability … that it has very little to do with physical appearance. Take a look, it’s worth a read.)

By the time we got off at the top of that Red Dog chair maybe five or so minutes later, we had discovered a lot of common ground. I even cried in front of him, my voice breaking as I told him about losing Harvey the Cat in November. I guess he was touched by my vulnerability. And my vulnerability came from self-connection, from releasing buckets and buckets of grief over the past few months, and from Reconnecting with My Body.

Well, what usually happens with these brief connections on the ski lift is that you wish each other a good day and never cross paths again. That was about to happen here. And then it didn’t.

He had helped me unbuckle my boots on the chair, because my feet were cramping. And I forgot to re-buckle them. So he shouted to me to remember to buckle my boots.

“Oh yes, thank you,” I said. Then it looked like he would move on and disappear. Except he didn’t. He kinda slowed down. We kept moving in vaguely the same direction toward the Squaw Creek chair at the bottom of the next run. I did what I usually do … start skiing.

So did he, except he kept waiting for me. If I would get behind, he would wait. If I would get ahead, he would catch up. (Turns out he used to be a ski and snowboard instructor and probably has a lot of practice with this lol.)

Next thing I know, we are riding the lift up together again. This time we are talking about meditation and deep breathing and working from home and so much else …

Now I’m ready for my last run of the day and it seems we have said goodbye to each other. I’m halfway down Red Dog on the way to cross over the Far East where my car is. And he has disappeared entirely. I felt a little disappointed and … well, that’s snow play … you have chance encounters and then don’t see each other again.

Except then somehow when I got down to the Far East lift, there he was ahead of me. I’m still not sure how that happened. He moved toward a friend’s car and I didn’t think he was aware of my presence.

So I kept skiing through the parking lot to my car, which was the other direction. I was swishing the heavy snow off my car windows with the heavy mittens, and loading up the trunk … when I hear a voice behind me …

“Erika …”

He followed me all the way to my car to get my number. Without ever seeing my face.

That’s magnetism. That’s how fast Presence can work.

To be continued …


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