Vegas Seduction, part 5: How to Escalate Sexually … :)

Welcome back to Part 5 of the Vegas Guy Seduction Series. In this article, I will explain how he seamlessly transitioned from persuading me to go back to his hotel room to how we ended up in his bed, and how he escalated sexually …

If you are just tuning in now, please read Parts 1-4 before you read this article. You can find them here:

How to Attract Women, Vegas part 1
How to Attract Women – Vegas
Part 3: How to isolate the girl
Part 4: How to pull the girl

And now .. on to Part 5, covering Sexual Escalation …

The truth is, I get this question a lot from my clients. They want to know HOW to escalate sexually and not have it be awkward. As I’m going to explain when I’ve finished the “how to” part of this series, the paradox here is that THE LESS YOU THINK ABOUT IT, THE MORE SUCCESSFUL YOU ARE GOING TO BE.

It does not work to premeditate escalation. What works is to be IN THE MOMENT. To be truly connected to the girl. That ability to tap in to the emotional plane where all of us are connected is something I rarely find in men. I do know how to teach guys to do this, but they are not going to learn it in traditional bootcamps. It’s a skill that comes from first deeply connecting WITH YOURSELF, which I teach you how to do in my Holistic Belief Reprogramming sessions.

But I digress …

Here’s an important point: It is true that Vegas Guy was leading every step of this seduction, but you must understand something subtle that most guys miss … he’s doing what I call “BARELY LEADING” … lol, do you know what I mean by that? Yes, he’s initiating almost everything that’s going on, but he’s not doing it FROM HIS HEAD, where it would come off as incongruent, miscalibrated, and disconnected.

From the very first moment, he had locked in to MY energy, and while leading, he was also keeping pace with me, metaphorically walking beside me, every step of the way … if I wasn’t quite where he was, he backed up a little bit to give me the space to continue to follow his lead … because of this, I never had a “state break.” I never felt uncomfortable at a level that I would end the interaction.

This is seduction where it has become a true ART FORM.
It’s a beautiful and seamless dance that feels absolutely MAGICAL. And it cannot be described in any satisfying way to someone who has not experienced it for himself.

It is impossible for you to do this unless you have something I talked about at the 21 Convention … massive amounts of EMPATHY. I can teach this to you if you hire me as your coach. Very few guys have it. Very few coaches know how to teach it.

Anyway … back to the story …

Vegas Guy and I walked about ten minutes or so back to the Bellagio, where he was staying. We talked the whole time. I don’t remember anything we said. I do remember feeling very comfortable, turned on, and in the moment. :)

When we arrived at his room, he did not jump on me immediately. No, no, no, he’s a master. Despite the fact that we had very little time, he didn’t rush it. He drew this all out very deliciously.

He sat in a chair by the window of the room, with a stunning view of the Bellagio fountains. If you’ve never seen them, they spray far, far into the air on a timer like geysers, and they glisten with the multi-colored lights that are all around the Vegas strip. It was magnificent. He pulled me onto his lap, and we talked some more. He said he already had me figured out, my “fear of intimacy.” It was a “warm read,” and the way he said it, it resonated with me, and I felt closer to him. I felt like he cared about me as a person, and wasn’t seeing me as a piece of meat …

At some point, I got up to use the bathroom, and when I came back, I sat on his bed instead of going back to the chair. He was so connected to me, that he didn’t miss a beat. He immediately got out of the chair and came to me. Seamless. He gently pushed me down on the bed and started making out with me.

Then he touched me all over, and we spent maybe close to an hour this way. He didn’t push me too hard. I never felt pressured.

He touched just right, it felt amazing.

(For those who don’t know me, I am basically celibate. I have never had a one night stand or a same night lay, EVER. And I don’t ever intend to … for me, seduction is not something to be rushed, it is something to be savored. One of the myths of the pickup community is that you can have sex with any girl the same night, and that is not true. It’s impossible with me. If he had pushed me too hard or too fast, I would have left. Fortunately for me, he was very sensitive to this and allowed our escalation to progress at a pace that felt good. :) This is again what I mean by “BARELY LEADING” … let go of your agenda and track with where she is at … be present with her … it’s a hell of a lot more fun :) )

I felt like I had died and gone to Heaven. The level of connection and presence that I felt with him was like Divine Euphoria. I could have stayed in his arms forever.

Although we did not have intercourse, it was OBVIOUS to me that he would be amazing in bed. This left me super curious to experience more of what he had to offer, though I was not willing to have sex that night. I was willing, though, to continue our connection beyond this brief meeting …

All because of the level of connection I felt with him, which in truth, I had felt from the very first moment he laid eyes on me … :)

Stay tuned for how he gallantly handled the end of our brief time together … wonderful … in Part 6 …


Btw, here is my coaching page: … sign up … I will teach you how to do what he did :)

About the Author:

Erika Awakening is a Harvard Law School graduate and former practicing attorney. She left the rat race to become a location-independent entrepreneur, holistic life coach, blogger, speaker, healer, and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT tapping) expert. Erika Awakening is one of the world's foremost experts on eradicating limiting beliefs and lifestyle design on your own terms. Learn more about Erika Awakening

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  1. Christien says:

    Kevin, I could not disagree with you more…the goal is not intercourse, but connection, at least if you have a desire for anything more than physical stimulation. I have had many encounters, very deep and very intimate that were not consumated in intercourse, and they were equally fulfilling for us both.

    If you pay attention to the details of Erika’s story, you will realize the layers that have been building, the level of intimacy that has evolved, and I suspect, the level of respect that ‘Vegas Guy’ has for women… ..period…He also has respect for himself, which contributes to his self confidence, and he is not ‘needy’ either. Things could go either way, but he is committed.

    How unfortunate, especially for women, that this character is apparently so uncommon in men.

  2. Dear Erika,

    I enjoy reading your series on this “Vegas Guy” very much. It really helps in many ways since they come from a female expert perspective. Although I am not actively dating anyone, these tips will help with my relationship with women in the future…

    I was a little pulled away from the reality after reading this part (part 5). I can hardly believe that your ideal guy spent so much time and effort to get you to his hotel room, and fool around with you almost naked in his bed for a hour without intercourse…. That is just not human, not real, even God cannot do that….

    Are you a perfectionist? or you are trying to coach or train some perfectionists in this? It seems to me that your ideal guy is a perfect seduction master that can exist only in a woman’s dream or mind. :)

    Here is my question or comments about this:

    1) I wish I could master all the seduction skills you are talking about, but I know it is impossible since that will change my personality. I am who I am, and I am proud of that. If I am just trying to find my soul-mate for my life, do I really need spending so much time to learn the skills just for that special one who will be touched by my no matter what I say or what I do? After all I am not going to use them frequently after I found my soul-mate… :)

    2) If your relationship with this Vegas Guy goes well, where do you think this relationship will lead you to? A marriage, or a life-time partner? I bet he has more than two pretty ladies in his life. Given his master skills of women seduction and sensitivity, he probably could get as many pretty ladies as he wants to (that is what man is programmed to do). Therefore, it is hard for him to become a dedicated husband. Therefore, you may end up unhappy if you decide to take such a person as your husband.

    3) You did not talk too much about the importance of initial attraction he had to you, without that initial physical or spiritual attraction (or magnetism) the rest of story will be completely different…. am I right?

    4) Are you a perfectionist when it comes to important decision like dating? Your almost “perfect” photographs suggest me that way. If that is the case, you may not be able to achieve your full potential and live a happier life. Since perfectionism brings us more pain and suffering than happiness.

    Thank you for your prompt attention to my comments and questions.

    Love yours,


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