This happened yet again last night, so I wanted to write about it.

The guys write about it a lot (for example, check out Sinn’s notes on fashion in this LR), and I KNOW peacocking works for them. I absolutely love it when guys wear bling and interesting clothes. You know how they say kids and animals are attracted to shiny and colorful things? Well, I find myself fascinated and reaching out physically to touch stuff like that. Plus it always gives an easy topic of conversation with the guy … oh, where did you get that? and he usually has a story of how he was traveling in Egypt … or there was this girl he knew … or it symbolizes some rite of passage for him, etc. Bam … all of a sudden we are vibing.

The other thing I love about peacocking is that it subcommunicates aliveness. Nice dead people conform to social conventions. Alive people are aware of what they wear and not afraid to step outside of the norms a little bit.

I spent Burning Man 2007 with a well-known PUA, and he had this awesome white furry jacket that he let me wear on the playa when we went out at night. It was SO fun to wear, it felt so cozy and warm and at the same time flirtatious. I remember playing miniature golf in it :) So last year before Burning Man 2008 I indulged in my own furry jacket, this one is pink with grey ostrich feathery looking overtones. It’s super warm, super cozy, and an absolute PEOPLE MAGNET.

Now I wear it whenever I’m feeling flirtatious and want guys to approach me. That’s what happened last night. My friend and I were standing in this wine bar not more than a couple minutes before guys were coming up to us, with hands already outstretched, asking to “pet it.”

Note: as I’ve written about before, About Being Approachable. For this stuff to work, you need to have an approachable vibe to begin with. But assuming that you do, peacocking is great for inviting approaches and easing conversation. Have fun with it!

Wow, now I’m feeling inspired to go out and find some more outrageous outfits :)