Nothing is sexier than a man who knows what he wants

GoneSavage posted a great blog entry the other day about a speed dating event.

Suddenly, in walks this man. He’s as well-dressed as anyone else and there’s nothing special about his looks. When he enters the room, he stops, smiles, and lets everyone notice him. Then, he confidently and deliberately walks right up to the hottest girl, passionately looks her in the eyes and said “I think you’re sexy, and I just had to come meet you. No one else here really captures my interest, and I’d rather spend my time getting to know just you. Let’s go get a drink somewhere else.”

And do you know what she said? She said, “I’d love to.” And they left together.

For me, this shows the power of decisiveness.

Decisiveness is a sign of congruence. It means a man’s intentions and actions line up in a harmonious way.

By contrast, nothing kills attraction faster than wishy-washiness and indecision.

So, whether you are a man or a woman, it’s important to know what you want, and also to know that you absolutely, positively will not settle for less. That you would rather walk away than settle. Always.

This is what Project Congruence: Turning Chodes Into Men is all about. And I’m happy to report that a bunch of people have volunteered to help me with filming, editing, and participating in these new videos that will demonstrate how to save yourself YEARS of effort in becoming congruent and internally harmonized.

So that you can be the guy who walks into the club and walks out with the girl.

About the Author:

Erika Awakening is a Harvard Law School graduate and former practicing attorney. She left the rat race to become a location-independent entrepreneur, holistic life coach, blogger, speaker, healer, and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT tapping) expert. Erika Awakening is one of the world's foremost experts on eradicating limiting beliefs and lifestyle design on your own terms. Learn more about Erika Awakening

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  1. Anonymous says:

    there is a difference between manipulation and influence.

    this guy influenced the women buy appealing to her ego. in other words, he know how to handle her female psychology.

    there is no harm in having a “mating strategy”, every one needs a good structure.

  2. typo! ;)

    The last door I’ll open is don’t forget that -NOT- every woman who walks out of a club with you is under your badass mind control.

    As you were.

  3. I think there is more to how this works than just James Bond-like confidence and a nice suit.

    The other crucial key to his combination-seduction maneuver is traditional feminine-ego flattery.

    What?! Feminine-ego? Wtf is that?

    It’s the basic desire and worry women have of being desirable to men. It extends throughout her youth from how she dresses, her face, her body,

  4. hi JD,

    Anytime you’re worrying about something you did after you did it, you are thinking too much. But it’s not very helpful to say to yourself “I’m thinking too much” cuz even by doing that you’re just continuing the pattern of being hard on yourself. What’s needed is to harmonize all your inner voices, which is what my Project Congruence is all about.

    Meanwhile, the

  5. Anonymous says:

    Erika and to Everyone else;

    I noticed, I tend to take awhile to make a decision.

    Especially when ordering food.

    Such as today. With the girl I”m seeing. I asked the waitress to change my original order 2x!

    Turn off?

    Things I could do to not continue this behavior?

    Or Am I thinking to much about it?



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