Erika has decided to return to abstinence

Yes indeed, the next time will be my wedding night.

That’s how I’ll know it’s fully congruent.

Enough said. End of story.

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Erika Awakening is a Harvard Law School graduate and former practicing attorney. She left the rat race to become a location-independent entrepreneur, holistic life coach, blogger, speaker, healer, and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT tapping) expert. Erika Awakening is one of the world's foremost experts on eradicating limiting beliefs and lifestyle design on your own terms. Learn more about Erika Awakening

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  1. Anonymous says:

    “I see very few women who ultimately feel good about casual sex”

    Don’t you see anything between extremely casual zero commitment sex and no sex un5il theres a binding government document saying we’re together forever?

    You don’t have to accept the solution most of have reached on the issue… but you have to at least admit it exists:

    Have sex in committed

  2. Anonymous says:

    “I have a blog crush on gonesavage…most insightful! he gives the best advice, honest but always kind….mmmm, very sexy. i want one like that”

    Ummmm Jason…

    You need to be more subtle, my man. Kind of tipped your hand here, dude. Just a LITTLE too obvious.


    Big Daddy
    He sniffs them out…even online!

  3. Anonymous says:

    i think certain people should stop commenting anonymously on this blog, especially when they tell other people to reveal themselves, lol.

    anonymous. :)

    and while i am at it….i agree with michael, a woman flowing with her intuition is a gorgeous thing.

    A truly powerful man is comfortable in the power of a woman.

    ps, i have a blog crush on

  4. Dear Anonymous,

    I’m sorry you have interpreted this as bitterness. I assure you that it’s not.

    Entropy did not dump me, and no, I’m not going to divulge any further details right now.

    The whole “sexual compatibility” argument is a bunch of hogwash. I suggest you read the work of Tom McKnight to get a different perspective:

  5. Anonymous says:

    “I’m interested in a man with staying power, someone who envisions a joint future of adventure and contribution to the world … extending into eternity.

    Your posts have begun to take on a more bitter tone since Entropy dumped you. Understandable, as emotions are powerful things. Breaking up blows, getting dumped is even less fun.

    But marriage doesn’t mean you’re

  6. Anonymous says:

    “tired of fucking puas?”

    haha At first I thought he was using the F-bomb as an adjective.

    But, he meant it as a verb.

    Big Daddy
    Another sad, bitter cynical member of ‘the community’ I guess…

  7. Anonymous says:

    "I predict you are right … that I will make it until my wedding day."

    I agree with you Erica…and I'm sure you'll be ecstatic that you did!

    Not every girl is the same, of course.

    That's why Big Daddy exists haha

    Seriously, I remember working with some media on a Silver Ring Thing event near where I live. That's where the girls

  8. Anonymous says:

    tired of fucking puas?

  9. hey Big Daddy,

    Thanks for the support. I predict you are right … that I will make it until my wedding day.

    I’m interested in a man with staying power, someone who envisions a joint future of adventure and contribution to the world … extending into eternity.

    Someone I can count on, now and always.


  10. Anonymous says:


    This may surprise you coming from The Greatest Ladies Man on Earth but I not only support your choice….I applaud it.

    I think it’s great.

    And in this context I don’t think eating is cheating as actually having a guy INSIDE you (not just his tongue in you or him in your mouth) is a MUCH bigger thing. It’s spiritual.

    So, whatever abstinence you choose,

  11. Anonymous says:

    If you think marriage can prove anything, you are in for a rude awakening one day.

  12. Michael says:

    You’re welcome.

    Later, I’m going to stop by the Gross Realm Takeout to get something to eat and then bop over to the Subtle Realm Lounge. Maybe I’ll see you there. The afterparty is going to be at Causal, but I hear nobody’s going to be there. It’s going to be dead.

  13. Awww… Michael,

    Yes, our aliveness is like the play of light on water, constantly changing and more precious because of its fluidity.

    Thanks for that comment, I’m feeling very seen and understood.

    See ya tonight honey.


  14. Michael says:

    That’s one of the things that makes it beautiful.

    Changing her mind only as often as her intuitions and feelings change even more … can be a gorgeous thing.

  15. Anonymous says:

    wanna bet? she wont last more than 2009 before she cracks ;-)

    however I m sure she will reframe what “abstinence” is

    oh i only gave him a bj, that aint sex.

  16. Thanks, Michael. I just follow my intuition from day to day.

    BenPaul, thanks for your comment. You’ve raised a lot of intriguing questions. Right now my main focus is on deepening relationships. Indecision and wishy-washiness are barriers to that deepening. At the moment, I am seeing full commitment (not necessarily monogamy, cuz I’ve seen fully committed polyamorous relationships)

  17. Michael says:

    Weird how you can get messages from us humans about your state of abstinence. Ah, the 21st century.

    For what it’s worth, what’s really most interesting for me, isn’t the particular place you find yourself at any one point in time as you express yourself on your blog – though these entries are pretty intrinsically interesting – it’s more what happens to your perspectives and the

  18. GoneSavage says:

    “Subdue your appetites, my dear, and you’ve conquered human nature.” –C. Dickens

  19. SMoKeLioN says:

    I have some thoughts pour vous Erika, yet I think theyre better expressed through this short song:

  20. BenPaul says:

    Well, you’ve shown us quite a journey, I have to say. I hope you continue to do so.

    Can I ask, having read what you’ve written on relationships and A Course in Miracles, why you believe in marriage? And more importantly, what do you believe in, regarding marriage? Is monogamy

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