Day 6 of 111 Days of Love – Focus on the Art of Listening with Our Full Being
Most of us, if we are honest, would admit that we could do a better job of listening. We are not experiencing as much love in our lives as we would like for the simple reason that we are not really present, and not really listening.
What do we mean by listening?
Well, of course we mean listening when other people speak. True presence is a skill that we cultivate with practice. It means we need to drop our “agenda” and listen to what others are saying with an open heart and an open mind.
We are also talking about other kinds of listening.
Listening to our bodies, for example. In my 15-Week Miracle Coaching Program, I teach how to listen to the body as a metaphor. Each part of our body has messages for us, if we are listening. At one time, I experienced chronic pain over a great part of my body. Not knowing any better, I attempted to “treat” this condition with ergonomic equipment, surgery, physical therapy, and lots of pain killers.
As I moved forward on my spiritual journey and listened to the messages my body was delivering to me, my life transformed … and the pain began to disappear without requiring a bunch of special medications or procedures.
It means listening for synchronicity, those “meaningful coincidences” that we talked about in Day 1 of 111 Days of Love. Synchronicity often provides valuable guidance about our next move in life. If we are not paying attention, we miss out on those valuable clues.
Listening means tuning in to our intuition moment by moment. After my near-death experience in 2006, I began tuning in to intuition via meditation and other transformation techniques. My life began to change rapidly. I realized that I was in the wrong career on the wrong path and living a life according to other people’s expectations instead of my inner guidance. Intuition led me to learn lots of new transformation skills, create my first blog and a thriving coaching practice, quit my job, become location-independent, and make over $1 million online in a few short years.
(For those who need help honing their intuition, we highly recommend the 30-Day Powerful Intuition Challenge here.)
Listening means letting go of the past and the future, and being fully present in the now. Fully available to the messages that the Universe is always delivering to us. I sincerely doubt that Harvey the Cat would still be alive, had it not been for my deep listening to the messages I was receiving.
We will be talking a lot about Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Non-Violent Communication, during 111 Days of Love.
I love that Marshall Rosenberg compares listening to surfing … because when I tried out surfing in Costa Rica, I really loved it for exactly the reason he is describing here:
When you ride the wave [of listening with presence], the thrill is so exhilarating that you forget everything else. You live in the moment where nothing else matters, so intent on riding the wave perfectly that you and the wave become one. Pain and worry disappear, replaced by euphoria, akin to flow. Similarly, when giving empathy, you want to strive for this kind of total presence for the person you are listening to.
-Dr. Marshall Rosenberg
How much do you practice listening?
For those who want to improve their listening skills and presence, I can offer a few recommendations:
1. Start a meditation practice
2. Join our very affordable Gold membership, and tap along with hundreds of powerful transformation videos that will help you tune in to yourself on many different issues.
3. Invest in the 30-Day Powerful Intuition Challenge to super-charge your ability to listen to your intuition and the messages from the Universe.
Love,
Such great points. I do think it is important to be in the here and now.
This is so true about listening, just be still and quiet and just listen. I don’t do it as long and as often as I should, but I try to, when I can.
I love listening in everything, this make sense now.
Sounds like a great discussion.
Listening not only an art but a necessity. Educating our children to listen is very important for them to have a better future. Thanks for sharing.
Listening is a skill we should all have, especially if you’re a parent. It’s one of the things that make people feel cared for and loved.
As a spiritual advisor (in addition to blogger) who has practice and taught meditation for over 2 decades I can say this is a very good article! I love how you express yourself here and are aiming to help others. Love the photo of you surfing in Costa Rica! I have been there – it is gorgeous!
Sometimes it is hard for me to live in the now. Stopping to listen and really tune in, would help me a lot.
I am sooo not good at listening. It usually goes in one ear and out the other.