Aikido and Seduction

Even though I promised the Best Seduction Blog Article ever written, and it is forthcoming, it’s not quite ready yet. And besides … I’m a bit of a tease, in case no one has noticed yet.

So instead, I offer you this teaser. Cuz the theme of the Best Seduction Blog Article ever written is going to be how Aikido martial arts principles can help you get the girl. Which means it makes sense to get into the Aikido background stuff now.

In one of the all-time classic relationship e-books, Homer McDonald talks about applying the jiu-jitsu wrestling technique to “use the strength, energy and weight of his opponent to his own advantage.”

Anyway, this guy I’ve been spending some time with practiced aikido for, if I remember right, about nine years. From the little he told me, I was very intrigued and found this on Wikipedia yesterday:

Aikido (合気道, aikidō?) is a Japanese martial art developed by Morihei Ueshiba as a synthesis of his martial studies, philosophy, and religious beliefs. Aikido is often translated as “the Way of unifying (with) life energy” or as “the Way of harmonious spirit.” Ueshiba’s goal was to create an art that practitioners could use to defend themselves while also protecting their attacker from injury.

Aikido is performed by blending with the motion of the attacker and redirecting the force of the attack rather than opposing it head-on. This requires very little physical energy, as the aikidōka (aikido practitioner) “leads” the attacker’s momentum using entering and turning movements. The techniques are completed with various throws or joint locks. Aikido can be categorized under the general umbrella of grappling arts.

Aikido derives mainly from the martial art of Daitō-ryū Aiki-jūjutsu, but began to diverge from it in the late 1920s, partly due to Ueshiba’s involvement with the Ōmoto-kyō religion. Ueshiba’s early students’ documents bear the term aiki-jūjutsu. … Today aikido is found all over the world in a number of styles, with broad ranges of interpretation and emphasis. However, they all share techniques learned from Ueshiba and most have concern for the well-being of the attacker.

Ok, so I’m already fascinated because of the “concern for the well-being of the attacker.” Can we say non-violent communication?! But it gets better:

The term dō connects the practice of aikido with the philosophical concept of Tao, which can be found in martial arts such as judo and kendo, and in more peaceful arts such as Japanese calligraphy (shodō), flower arranging (kadō) and tea ceremony (chadō or sadō). The term aiki refers to the martial arts principle or tactic of blending with an attacker’s movements for the purpose of controlling their actions with minimal effort. One applies aiki by understanding the rhythm and intent of the attacker to find the optimal position and timing to apply a counter-technique. Historically, aiki was mastered for the purpose of killing; however in aikido one seeks to control an aggressor without causing harm. The founder of aikido declared: “To control aggression without inflicting injury is the Art of Peace.” A number of aikido practitioners interpret aikido metaphorically, seeing parallels between aikido techniques and other methods for conflict resolution.

Understanding the rhythm and intent of the attacker?! Blending with the other’s movements for the purpose of controlling their actions with minimal effort?! ok, can we say seduction?

Controlling aggression without inflicting injury. The Art of Peace. Again, non-violent communication.

Omg, this stuff rocks.

After Ueshiba left Hokkaidō in 1919, he met and was profoundly influenced by Onisaburo Deguchi, the spiritual leader of the Ōmoto-kyō religion (a neo-Shinto movement) in Ayabe. One of the primary features of Ōmoto-kyō is its emphasis on the attainment of utopia during one’s life. This was a great influence on Ueshiba’s martial arts philosophy of extending love and compassion especially to those who seek to harm others. Aikido demonstrates this philosophy in its emphasis on mastering martial arts so that one may receive an attack and harmlessly redirect it. In an ideal resolution not only is the receiver unharmed but so is the attacker.

Doesn’t this all resonate with the pickup artist community motto of “leave her better than you found her”? This is the heart of seduction, the heart of conflict resolution, the heart of loving kindness.

Aikido training is mental as well as physical, emphasizing the ability to relax the mind and body even under the stress of dangerous situations. This is necessary to enable the practitioner to perform the bold enter-and-blend movements that underlie aikido techniques, wherein an attack is met with confidence and directness. Morihei Ueshiba once remarked that one “must be willing to receive 99% of an opponent’s attack and stare death in the face” in order to execute techniques without hesitation. As a martial art concerned not only with fighting proficiency but also with the betterment of daily life, this mental aspect is of key importance to aikido practitioners.

And this, to me, sounds like the state of nimbus that PUAs talk about.

Well, obviously I need to learn more. Do I have any aikido practitioners out there in the audience who care to enlighten me further?

Kisses :-)

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  1. Chris | Martial Development says:

    I met a martial arts instructor in Vancouver, who decided to apply martial arts principles to his relationship coaching business. I understand he has been quite successful–the last time I saw him, was on the front page of the Life section in the Seattle Times.

  2. Well, now you guys really have my imagination humming … the possibilities are endless.

    Actually the truth is that I was a little bit of an ugly duckling turned swan myself, so I know what is possible in this area.

    Lots of women are actually hiding their true glory and beauty, just waiting for it to be revealed and appreciated.

    Just like turning chodes into playas :-)

  3. Anonymous says:

    fat/ugly girl project isn’t that bad an idea. just don’t promise them goldmines.(hotties like me). but if I were an UG(am I glad I am me) I guess some ‘pointers’ could only help.

    this is great…let the fatties/ugs take the comparatively hotter guys of the market. that means less competition for me :-)

    ~ quick

  4. Ha forreal …. that would be a dope reality show. In any case, I’m a skeptic, and really doubt that you can turn a 200 + lb type of girl into a hot seductress that can compete with the skinny bimbos of the world. That’s just not the kind of world we live in. Cheers to your project tho!

  5. Lo, you are such a smart ass… Can’t you see that we have the makings here of a really awesome reality show?? ;-)

  6. Erika: Good luck with the fat girl project.

  7. Wow, thanks for the awesome comments, guys.

    Lo, I wouldn’t want to get my head up in the clouds now would I? ;-) Not to be cocky, but I bet I could turn a chubby girl into a hard-core seductress at this point in my learning. Tyler teaches you guys that looks don’t matter for men, and I have come to conclude that they matter almost as little for women. Hotness is an energy.

    Quick, thanks for another good laugh. You remind me of someone. And yes, I think you really have something there — there’ve been lots of guys who have not yet learned to enjoy the *process* of seduction and whose agenda is so obvious that it takes all the fun out of it for the girl.

    That’s one of the real keys — enjoy the process.

    Not to be all gushy about Manwhore, but … when Manwhore writes his LRs, there is so much obvious joy in the process for him. He notices and savors each little touch and mannerism. It’s obvious he loves being around the essence of femininity. That’s Presence.

  8. Anonymous says:

    lol…i suggest you keep morihei ueshiba out of this!

    i come here to read about seduction!

    well i used to practice aikido. and uhm… cant afford to fixate on end of the technique or your gonna mess things up cause you’re rushing the moves before.

    I guess the same goes for getting a girl. hahahah maybe thats why you dont get laid? are the guys you’re with rushing it too much? :)


  9. A few comments:

    The glorious ‘insights’ that Morihei Ueshiba experienced came through a thorough understanding of his body through the medium of bujutsu tanren. He’s not a navel-gazing hippie, he was a hardcore martial artist.

    Most aikidokas (I’m willing to bet your friend is part of this percentile) do the hippy thing, ‘participate’ in aikido, and think they’ve become ‘one with the universe’, when in fact, they really don’t have a clue, because they haven’t trained their body to the extent that some Chinese masters or Morihei Ueshiba have.

    I also still don’t see how seduction connects with martial arts? All seduction is is getting creating connection for the time being, so one is given the leverage to seduce the other person. The heart of loving kindness? Fat women don’t get macked on…guess they ain’t get no love.

    Anyway, interesting blog. Just wanted to stay some thoughts just so you wouldn’t get too far up in the clouds.

  10. This ties back to the idea of energy transmission.

    The flowing of motion, energy, time and space around and through a person as you encounter them (either in aikido or otherwise) is pickup.

    It’s also communication, love, living well and interconnection among all things.

  11. If you haven’t read Mastery: The Keys to Success and Long-Term Fullfillment by George Leonard. I highly recomend it. It is a short small amazing read. George Leonard was an aikido master. It is a must read for you.

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