Why 95% of guys in the community NEVER improve … don’t be a statistic

One of my clients had a MAJOR breakthrough last night.

He’s on the Erika Awakening Holistic Belief Reprogramming plus Tough Love plan :)

Until recently, he was a community statistic.  A guy who has tried what’s being offered in the community but has not seen any appreciable improvement in his results.

DJ Fuji often mentions in his talks that 95% of guys in the PUA community never get better.

Do you know why that is?

They are not addressing the real issues.

The reason my client has not previously been getting results has nothing to do with his INTELLECTUAL KNOWLEDGE  of pickup.

It has to do with the FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS that he has been avoiding his whole life.

My client intellectually understands all the techniques that are being taught.  But like a very high percentage of guys in the community, he has not been able to implement them.  He has a lot of very “rational” sounding reasons why he “can’t” implement them, but they can all be boiled down to one word:  FEAR.

And at the end of the day, the fear is not of women, or of failing, or of anything else you might think.  He has FEAR of feeling his own feelings.  Because those feelings are UNCOMFORTABLE.

In order to get results, he has to face up to loads of anger, shame, guilt, and grief (the Shadow Self), and get those feelings OUT of his vibration.   Otherwise, women can feel that crap from miles away and will NOT be attracted.

Like many of us, my client had a not-so-fun childhood.  He learned from a bunch of experiences that he was socially “not good enough.”  He also learned that being in an intimate space with a woman was a recipe for PAIN and CRITICISM.

Because of those experiences, he has a habit of AVOIDING any situation that would re-trigger those painful feelings.

The subconscious mind is always ten steps ahead of the conscious mind.  If, based on experiences from the past, the subconscious mind associates intimacy or women or talking to strangers with PAIN, it will commit all kinds of shenanigans to avoid that pain in the future.

Unfortunately, the result is that many people end up living, essentially,  IN A BOX.  Their comfort zone gets smaller and smaller, and they intellectually rationalize why they “can’t” do what other people do easily, such as approaching women or public speaking or any number of other activities that have simply become FAR TOO TERRIFYING even to attempt.

How can learning a bunch of techniques ever help a guy overcome that much subconscious FEAR?  Most guys are not even in touch with their fear, but the fear will sabotage them no matter how many techniques they learn, and no matter what they try to do.

What is the answer?


When the feelings are faced directly, especially with the help of powerful tools such as Holistic Belief Reprogramming, the FEAR will dissolve.

When the fear is avoided, it GROWS stronger.  It leads to increasingly miserable outcomes.

Yet … in the community, virtually NOBODY has a system that helps guys erase their fear AT ITS ROOT in the subconscious mind.

Except me.  Holistic Belief Reprogramming will erase the fear.

And then guys don’t need pickup techniques anymore.  Once they have tuned into their intuition and become FEARLESS, the right thing to do and say in EVERY SITUATION will simply come to them, without having to think about it.

It’s the best kept secret in pickup, because I am the ONLY person offering it.

With me standing by your side, we will directly face every fear that you have, apply HBR, and watch the fear dissolve.

Your results will be FAR faster than any “outer game” method can achieve on its own.

I’m really thrilled for my client.  He got a result last night that he has NEVER been able to get before.  I give him a lot of credit for taking a big step out of his comfort zone despite his FEARS.

And guess what happened when he got his new result?  Did he feel all good feelings?  NO.  Along with the feelings of accomplishment came to the surface a lot of very UNCOMFORTABLE feelings.

So I said to him this morning, “Yep, see, that’s why you haven’t been getting the results you say you want.  Those feelings you are feeling right now are EXACTLY WHAT YOU HAVE BEEN AVOIDING.”

Fortunately, he has me by his side to help him dissolve every negative feeling that arises.  We simply keep peeling off layers of the emotional onion.  We knock fears down, one domino at a time.  One limiting belief at a time.  And as we do that, he will continue to see RESULTS THAT NO OTHER SYSTEM ON THE MARKET CAN GET FOR YOU.

Don’t be a community statistic.  Sign up for my free 7-day video course today.

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About the Author:

Erika Awakening is a Harvard Law School graduate and former practicing attorney. She left the rat race to become a location-independent entrepreneur, holistic life coach, blogger, speaker, healer, and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT tapping) expert. Erika Awakening is one of the world's foremost experts on eradicating limiting beliefs and lifestyle design on your own terms. Learn more about Erika Awakening

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  1. Cool article. I’m glad you were able to help your client succeed. One interesting thing about fear is how it can be helpful in some situations and not helpful in others. For example, fear is helpful when presented with a legitimately dangerous situation and quick action is needed. Fear can be damaging when it freezes you or prevents you from taking action.

    • Erika Awakening says:

      Thanks for the comment. I do see fear as useful also, but with a slightly different perspective than you.

      There is no real basis for fear, so when we feel fear, we know that limiting beliefs are operating. By getting in touch with our fear, we can often tune in to what those limiting beliefs are.

      And then using Holistic Belief Reprogramming (https://www.erikaawakening.com/coaching), we can erase those limiting beliefs, which will in turn erase the fear, and which will make previously “dangerous” situations safe again.

      Magic :)

  2. Excellent! Way to go both of you! Can’t wait to share more results on my end also…
    I’m introducing HBR to a number of people.

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