Updates and Burning Man … to Have Sex or Not to Have Sex? That is the Question.

1. In Field EFT: Tonight I coached two guys in field using What Is Holistic Belief Reprogramming?. Good stuff. I love how by the end of one of these tapping-in-public sessions, we move into this trance-like space. It’s as if the entire venue has slowed down, everything in slow motion, space between the thoughts, where there was only chatter before. And of course by then the guy has stopped caring what anyone thinks about him and is merrily tapping on his own head in public. This I love, because in this moment is the realization — even if only subconsciously — that humiliation is impossible when we stop caring what anyone thinks. (Read that sentence again – it’s profound. :-)

2. PUA Summit. Who is going to PUA Summit ? If you are going and would like to share a hotel room with me and my girlfriend, then please email me at erika.awakening@gmail.com. Is she hot? Of course. I have a thing for hot Eastern European women, especially ones who have a wonderful mischievous vibe. What can I say?

3. Burning Man.

As I mentioned before, I’ll be teaching a free two-hour workshop at Evolutionary Temple, near Center Camp, on Friday, Sept. 4, from 6-8 pm.

Now, as a testament to how powerful EFT is, a couple of months ago, I tapped on “only want to go to Burning Man if I’m going with a guy.” I did this because last year I went by myself, and although I had an amazing time and met a whole bunch of NEW guys, this year I wanted a different experience. I wanted to go WITH a guy. Or I didn’t want to go at all. But I had signed up for Burning Man, and my partner for the trip had not materialized.

Until today. When a guy I met about a year ago suggested we go together and spend a romantic night in Reno on the way.

Whoa Nellie. Be careful what you ask for because you just might get it.

There was a long texting pause (on my end). He said he sensed my hesitation. He was cool about it but wanted to know what my reservations were.

And as I simmered with it today, I realized that my reservations are mostly the shadows of past hesitations, like empty shells with the content long gone.

“But I don’t want to have sex. I’m not having sex.”

Those words came up, and I realized they had lost a lot of their power. I used to say them so powerfully, and now they sound kinda like … I don’t know … like that was a story I told myself somewhere along the way in a time I can’t put myself into anymore.

This is how EFT heals. It takes all the oomph out of our negatively charged stories. Then they collapse by themselves.

(But don’t go getting any ideas, Burning Man Guy. Lol. I’m STILL not having sex with you.)

It just feels softer now than it used to, when I say that.


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  1. SMoKeLioN says:

    Also, I noticed you didnt have an answer to my questions. Maybe intuit where to draw the line :p :p ;p ?

  2. SMoKeLioN says:

    There are a lot of different theories on how our emotions work. However to say that they are illogical is completely wrong.

    Take indignation for example. This is anger that is brought by something unjust, mean, or slighting you. To say that indignation is illogical is simply wrong. To even experience indignation you must reason that someone has wronged you.

    For a good

  3. OOh "intuition doesn't play in line drawing"

    I Love that one!

    "But what if your intuition is wrong?"

    Well you just have to trust that it's right.

    "But what if its not?"

    You just trust that it is.

    Its a whole different world out there people! Live life free!

  4. SMoKeLioN,

    This is not a logical issue.

    It's an issue of emotion, intuition, and the prophecy of salvation.

    In my coaching work, one thing has become very clear: logic is extremely limited in its usefulness.

    Intuition, on the other hand, can deliver people from suffering into healing and happiness.

    Intuition doesn't play in line

  5. SMoKeLioN says:

    Does oral count as sex?

    Does someone else using a vibrator on you count as sex?

    Is naked making out acceptable?

    Is mutual masturbation acceptable?

    My point is, how far can you go before you poison your intent with celibacy? As you know, you define celibacy for yourself.. for your person. Even then, couldnt you define it "away" on

  6. Gamer,

    How does celibacy serve me now?

    It's helping me become congruent.

    The next guy I have sex with I fully expect to give me a 100% reliable lifetime commitment. I take ownership for that by saying no to sex with any man who's not offering me that with complete conviction (and of course it needs to be mutual — we choose each other).


  7. LOOL! "I'm STILL not having sex with you"

    Am I the hot EE chick? (I'm very hot)… or is there someone else…

  8. How does celibacy serve you now?

  9. Anonymous says:

    Wow, Erika. I'm so honored to be immortalized in your blog. For those who wonder about whom has the distinct pleasure to accompany Erika to the playa, let me say I have the most profound respect for her as a person and would only have sex with her if it felt like the natural thing to do for both of us. For those who are curious, our texting went something like this:

    Erika: Are

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