Quick note about why I don’t flirt anymore …

This is a public service announcement for the dozens of guys who continue to attempt to bed me despite not offering me what I want …

The answer is NO. The answer is not going to change.

I learned very early on in this blogging process not to give things away for free. Sure, a teaser here or there, a deep enough window into what I do for my clients and myself for you to understand the value you’ll be getting. And once in a while, when guided by the Divine, a free taste.

But, in general, I don’t give things away for free for a very simple reason. We both lose. I lose because I would not be making enough money to sustain myself. And, equally important, YOU lose, because you are not going to make a sufficient commitment to anything that is free for you to reap the SUBSTANTIAL benefits of this method. It is your investment that focuses your attention in a powerful enough way to facilitate the transformation. It is your investment that keeps you committed when the inevitable ego resistance arises.

The same goes for relationships. You’re going to get a lot more attention from me if you’re contributing to me in some way. My clients get a TON of attention from me, because it is a mutually beneficial exchange of value. They invest in me, I invest in them, a deep and beneficial bond is formed, everybody wins.

If you want me to write a certain kind of article, focused on your needs, I suggest you find a tangible way to contribute to my mission. I’m always open to partnership. I’m not open to unbalanced exchanges that foster resentment. Resentment happens when one person gets what they want at the other’s expense. I don’t allow that to happen in my relationships. I’m going to be damn sure my needs get met (see prior article about “perfecting your selfishness”), and this is a huge gift to YOU because you will not have to suffer my resentment.

To those of you who are offering sex without the emotional investment that I have requested, please understand that you are offering NOTHING. Bodily pleasure has no value in and of itself. And because it would devalue both of us for me to accept your offer, I will refuse it. This is not negotiable.

The only man who can hold my interest right now is one who is ready to join in a lifetime partnership with me to teach people all around the world how to connect more deeply and transform their lives from the inside out. This means his power must be equally realized and a perfect match for mine.

If you think that you need to “know” my body in order to make this commitment to me, you are NOT my partner. If you are my partner, you will KNOW this in the deepest part of your heart, mind, and soul. It’s not an accident that we end up together. It is part of the greater plan for the salvation of the world. And that means there is ONLY one man on this planet who can fill this role, just as there is only one person on the planet (you) who can fulfill your special role in salvation.

Nothing happens by accident. It is all orchestrated by a Higher Power. The majesty of this Creation in which we live is so breathtaking that when you glimpse its Higher Order (which most people do not as yet see), you will simply stand in awe.

So please do not take it personally when I do not respond to idle flirtation, chatting, and requests for sex. I’m not interested. I’ve learned to keep my energy focused on what nurtures and supports me.

If you are my partner, you will KNOW it. And you will not need to have sex with me to know it. You will be drawn to me in a way that you cannot ignore or deny, and it will be all about the heart, mind, and soul, before it is ever about the body. In ego perception, the mind follows the body. This is the way of misery. In proper perception, the body follows the mind. This is the way of peace, joy, and prosperity.

Thanks for your understanding.

About the Author:

Erika Awakening is a Harvard Law School graduate and former practicing attorney. She left the rat race to become a location-independent entrepreneur, holistic life coach, blogger, speaker, healer, and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT tapping) expert. Erika Awakening is one of the world's foremost experts on eradicating limiting beliefs and lifestyle design on your own terms. Learn more about Erika Awakening

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  1. Mandi Langenderfer says:

    Nailed it. You are brilliant. I need you as my life coach.

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