All right, we haven’t had a truly controversial article here for quite some time … not because I’ve been holding myself back, either. There just hasn’t been a topic that really inspired me lately to shake things up a bit.
But … there was a discussion on my Facebook Fan Page (which you can join here) about monogamy, fear, and A Course in Miracles, and it feels important enough for me to expand on my views here …
Please prepare yourself … many of you are going to find this article offensive … and I invite you to set aside your knee-jerk reactions (which are all just fear, pure and simple), and open your mind to a new perspective.
A Course in Miracles, which is hands down and by far the most powerful and liberating book I’ve ever encountered on this planet (and, as an honors graduate of Stanford University and Harvard Law School, I assure you that I have read a LOT of books in this lifetime), says this:
“To learn this course requires willingness to question every value that you hold. Not one can be kept hidden and obscure but it will jeopardize your learning. No belief is neutral.”
No belief is neutral. And no belief is isolated in its effects. Every belief you hold has the potential to turn your life either into Heaven or Hell. The world we see is a hologram, and any belief that fosters scarcity will turn your life into a living hell. Sometimes sooner, sometimes later …
Now, let’s talk about money first. Most people would love to have financial abundance. To have it requires letting go of the beliefs that foster scarcity. Many people do not have abundance because they have limited the ways in which money can come to them. I help people lift those limitations off of themselves. Money can come to you from ANYWHERE, at any time. And it would be absolutely absurd for anyone to say, “I refuse to receive money except from this one person or source.”
A lot of people do have that pattern in their belief system (thinking there’s only one way they can get money, and that it’s limited), but mostly at an unconscious level. When I point out to them that we can open things up so that money can come from anywhere, they usually feel relief. Because trying to get ANYTHING from just one source in this world brings fear. And fear locks abundance out of your life.
It’s as Wayne Dyer said on one of his audios … he said (I’m paraphrasing here),
“The Ocean of Infinite Abundance is there, waiting for you. You could go to the ocean with a dump truck and fill it up as many times as you want, and that ocean will never run out. And yet, instead, you go to the ocean with a thimble, and you say to yourself, ‘This is all that seems to be available to me.'”
So here’s where it gets controversial … are you ready? ;)
Monogamy is a scarcity belief. Pure and simple. It is a fear-based system based on conventional moralities that most people have never bothered to question. It is a form of hoarding, which stagnates energy and blocks the flow of love and abundance. It is a defense, which can only promote fear.
If you want to be offended by this article, ask yourself why you are offended. What are you scared of? What are you defending with these promises of exclusivity?
Because I’ll tell you, every child of God on this planet is entitled to everything. And when you promise yourself to one person and one person only, and you try to make that love “special,” you are denying my right to everything. You are denying the right of every child of God to everything. And that is based on fear. That is based on hate. It is not sustainable.
It’s the adult version of a child throwing a tantrum on the playground and telling another child, “These are MINE. You can’t play with MY toys.”
When the truth is, both children would probably have more fun if they started SHARING.
“In my defenselessness my safety lies.”
You can argue with me about this until the cows come home, and at the end of the day it will not change the fact that — as the consciousness of the world continuously shifts toward a higher vibration — monogamy is an unsustainable, fear-based system, and the sooner it is let go, the better.
“Idols are limits; they are the belief that there are forms which will bring happiness, and that, by limiting, is all attained. It is as if you said, ‘I have no need of everything. This little thing I want, and it will be as everything to me.’ And this must fail to satisfy, because it IS your will that everything be yours. Decide for idols, and you ask for loss. Decide for truth, and everything IS yours.
“It is not form you seek. What form can be a substitute for God the Father’s Love? What form can take the place of all the love in the divinity of God the Son? What idol can make two of what is one? And can the limitless be limited? You do not want an idol. It is not your will to have one. It will not bestow on you the gift you seek. When you decide upon the form of what you want, you lose the understanding of its purpose. So you see your will within the idol, thus reducing it to a specific form. But this could never be your will, because what shares in all creation cannot be content with small ideas and little things.
“Behind the search for every idol lies the yearning for completion. Wholeness has no form because it is unlimited. To seek a special person or a thing to add to you to make yourself complete, can only mean that you believe some form is missing. And, by finding this, you will achieve completion in a form you like. This is the purpose of an idol; that you will not look beyond it, to the source of your belief that you are incomplete.”
– A Course in Miracles
So I invite you to make a liberating decision today. I invite you to get present with all the FEAR and ANGER that comes up inside you when you imagine sharing your partner with the world, and I invite you to share your partner with the world ANYWAY.
I invite you to let go of your assumptions … and be surprised … ;)