Erika’s Connection Manifesto

I didn’t feel like going out last night, so I didn’t. I rarely do anything anymore because I think I “should” do it. This week I went to a few holiday parties, and although at one level I enjoyed the festivities, I noticed a few things too....

The limits of "assuming it’s on" …

Because I do have a blog, where I can write pretty much anything I want, I am going to vent a bit about a pet peeve of mine.I feel really annoyed when (some) men assume that if a woman sends them a friendly text message or email, this is a sign of sexual interest. If...

Sex: the Electric Fence

Someone sent me a text message asking how I reconcile the last two posts (transmuting karma and tandem sarging).Easy. Either it’s the same guy for both, or it’ll be tandem sarging with last minute resistance (LMR), my specialty. There’s a lot to be...

Help wanted: Karma transmuting partner

On a slightly more serious note than yesterday … after spending the past few years transmuting my karma in pretty much every other area of my life … the final frontier awaits: sex.It seems pretty clear based on my experiences over the past six years that...