A theme is coming up that I wanted to share with all of you.
If people are getting angry with you in any area of your life, look within. It means you have uncleared guilt. If you clear the guilt with EFT, they will no longer be angry.
What is guilt? It is an incongruity. Dishonesty in any form will create guilt.
An example is if we promise someone something, expressly or implied, and don’t follow through on that promise. We are likely to feel guilt, and the person affected will likely feel anger.
One of the fastest ways to clear this kind of guilt/anger situation is to have a mediated conversation. A good non-violent mediator will usually be able to bring the two people back to a space of understanding and compassion.
It helps to understand the roots of dishonesty. When people are not fully honest in relationships, it is because there is a lack of self-acceptance.
Burning Man Guy is a good example. He promised monogamy to someone and did not deliver. You better believe that created an “ouch” for the other person in the relationship. Why was he dishonest? Because he lacks full self-acceptance. Part of him thinks that the only way women will be in relationships with him is if he promises monogamy. Part of him sees himself as a sexual healer and “wild animal” who is sexual with many women. That unresolved incongruity creates a lack of self-acceptance, guilt, and the temptation toward dishonesty. The problem is that dishonesty may get us what we think we want short term, but long term it wreaks havoc with our relationships. Far better to get in touch with the inner conflicts and express them and resolve them.
So we worked on this inner conflict with EFT, and as usual, it turns out to have roots in his early childhood. We went deep into a trance state through tapping, and I’m hopeful he’ll feel at least a partial shift in this area from here on out.
In the meantime, I told him not to bother making any promises to me, because I wouldn’t believe a word he says ;-)
Ironically, my decision not to accept any promises from him has brought me even more into the present moment. (“I have no idea what will happen tomorrow, but right now this feels like exactly what we’re meant to be doing for both of our healing. Let’s not interfere with the present moment by doing any future planning.”). Geez, I sound like a PUA. Lol :-p
I don’t suggest radical honesty as something we do “for” other people. It’s something we do for ourselves. It brings us into a degree of congruence that most people cannot even imagine. And congruence brings peace of mind, happiness, and effortless accomplishment.
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