Soul Searching, Erika Style

Hey everyone,

Thanks for all the e-book title suggestions. Please keep ’em coming.

So I’m back from Vegas and Mehow’s confereence, which was quite an adventure this time because I left my wallet on the airplane and arrived with one dollar to my name. I’ll be posting some good stories about the trip here. I may also start a four-part series applying the book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz to the seduction arts. (The first of four agreements is “Be Impeccable with Your Word,” and it’s absolutely essential to being a true master of the Game. Why? Because being congruent is all about alignment, about all of your layers matching up. It’s not possible to reach that level of congruence without having integrity.)

Mainly, starting yesterday, there’s a lot of soul searching on my part, focused primarily on what I really want for my life right now. Which is something that used to get expressed by me through planning, but now that I’ve reduced my reliance on future planning, tends to turn into an intensive present moment exercise in saying yes to what I want right now and no to what I don’t want. Which means first getting clarity about what those things are. I’m talking about the big ticket items right now. If that makes any sense at all….

Carlos Xuma posted a quotation on his site this week, and I’m taking the liberty of adding it here too because it’s so important and something that still only a rare few people are doing:

“Follow the path of the unsafe, independent thinker. Expose your ideas to the dangers of controversy. Speak your mind and fear less the label of ‘crackpot’ than the stigma of conformity. And on issues that seem important to you, stand up and be counted at any cost.”

— Thomas J. Watson


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Erika Awakening is a Harvard Law School graduate and former practicing attorney. She left the rat race to become a location-independent entrepreneur, holistic life coach, blogger, speaker, healer, and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT tapping) expert. Erika Awakening is one of the world's foremost experts on eradicating limiting beliefs and lifestyle design on your own terms. Learn more about Erika Awakening

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  1. Anonymous says:

    Anyone giving false hope to a woman about a relationship needs to find another hobby! What a waste of energy! That’s like letting the bathtub run until you drain the well… In fact, it’s such a waste of opportunity to really open a woman that unless you really love her and keep her on the line for a long time… giving and then letting go and then giving more and then letting go and then giving and giving and giving and then letting go until all her former dreams are dissolved, one by one in order to replace them with dreams that are so much brighter and more beautiful that she can’t help but adore you madly.

    Now that’s a fair fight! And one well worth the energy it takes to travel through the darkness in order to find the depth of light within.

  2. Anonymous says:

    Interesting post…

    There is one thing that these so called naturals like mehow and xuma do and it is that they try to give to women the hope of a relationship maybe forming (or at least do not make it clear that no relationship will form) when they know DEEP DOWN that all they want is a weekend fling…they might be direct about their sexual intentions but they re not upfront about their expectations…

    just check out carlos xuma’s interview with Alan roger currie author of modeone:let the women know what you’Re REALLY thinking (


  3. Anonymous says:

    Hi Erika,

    About this quote:

    “Follow the path of the unsafe, independent thinker. Expose your ideas to the dangers of controversy. Speak your mind and fear less the label of ‘crackpot’ than the stigma of conformity. And on issues that seem important to you, stand up and be counted at any cost.”

    — Thomas J. Watson

    If you have a chance, check out ENTHEOGENESIS ~ AWAKENING THE DIVINE WITHIN… Note Barbara Maxx Hubbard’s statements on the development of the ego and the danger if we continue to go too much further in the direction of individuation.

    I’m not so certain that we want to continue to follow the path of the “unsafe, independent thinker” personally… I can’t agree with unsafe any longer. I feel a strong need to say that great risk is more beautifully created in a container of safety… Consider that Thomas Watson is speaking prior to the mass mind expansion that took place in the sixties.

    Another way to really say what I am getting at is best understood after watching ENTHEOGENESIS and paying close attention to the observations of Stan Groff, advocate of HOLOTROPIC BREATHWORK regarding what happened in the wake of the mass mind expansion for flower children in the sixties.

    If you take the bait and watch it… I’d be interested to hear any insights you might have about the expansions that occur in open sexuality realms… after noting the conversation about mind expansion and various nexus points discussed in the DVD…


  4. Devout Hypocrite says:

    I heard about the Four Agreements from a PUA (who most certainly did not follow #1 with me, which led to some major problems in our friendship). I’ve been thinking a lot about them, and about how if you break one, the others are affected negatively. I’ll be interested to hear your take on things.

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