Sharing Our “Feelings” and Experiences Is Trendy – But Is It Really Helping Anyone?

problem with vulnerability

Photo I took of the view of Lake Tahoe immediately before I was hit at high speed on the slopes

Neo: What are you trying to tell me? That I can dodge bullets?

Morpheus: No, Neo. I’m trying to tell you that when you’re ready, you won’t have to.

This is Part 2 of our article series on the Keys to Understanding the Universe. If you missed Part 1, please read it first here. What I want to demonstrate in this article is how we can train our minds to optimize health and speed healing, instead of basking in our weakness and “vulnerability.” Healing is a mindset that flows from literally every thought we have. If you want to be healed, it is critically important that you train your mind to facilitate healing. And this high speed collision on the ski slopes turns out to be a powerful way to demonstrate how we can all be a lot more powerful than society ever trained us to be.

Two days ago, right after I took this photograph of our gorgeous Lake Tahoe from the top of Siberia at Squaw Valley USA, I was hit in a pretty major accident. Snow has been scarce in Tahoe the past few weeks, and with ideal spring conditions, people are skiing FAST. I was flying down the mountain on the Siberia run, which I’ve skied hundreds of times before … when I saw another skier headed straight for me. And he was skiing even faster than I was.

It was one of those bizarre moments in life when nothing makes any sense. I saw him and slowed down as much as I could in the very short time frame we had before hitting each other. In fact, I was yelling trying to get his attention, waving my arms: “Slow down, stop.” He clearly did not see or hear me. He was looking straight at me but didn’t slow down one iota. My guess is he was not present at all and was skiing essentially “blind.”

We collided directly head on at I’m guessing a combined speed of at least 60 mph. By miracle and probably deeply ingrained gymnastics training, I managed to get my head and internal organs out of the direct impact. I took the very intense blow all along the left side of my body. Left shin, left thigh, left hip, and based on the stiffness in my left shoulder today, probably left shoulder as well. I was thrown through the air, turned 180 degrees, and face planted facing the opposite direction, for a second major impact onto the hard packed snow.

For a few minutes, I was so dazed that I did not move from lying face down in the snow. Except to raise my head and say to the guy “Jesus Christ, did you not even see me? Please slow down.” Amazingly, he seemed to think the collision was my fault. Almost immediately, unlike in prior similar events in my life, my focus shifted from whose fault it was to righting the situation as quickly as possible. (About 24 hours later, I had a deja vu to an earlier life experience that was shockingly similar in its details – but we’ll get to that in a moment.)

My first thought upon hitting the ground was “I canceled my health insurance so I can’t be injured. There’s no way I’m going to a hospital.” That, my friends, probably helped a lot. Already my mindset was focused on being damaged as little as possible. It may seem unimportant but as all injury and healing is literally “in our minds” – it probably made a huge difference.

After a few minutes of racing thoughts, inchoate pain racing up my left leg and side, and feeling dazed and stunned … I decided to see if I could move my legs. Although pain was blaring through my body, I was able to move them and said to the growing crowd, “well I can move my legs, that’s a good sign right?” I moved a bit more to sitting upright and said “Yay my legs can bend – that must mean nothing is broken right?”

Someone in the crowd said “yeah for sure. I saw the whole thing. This could have been much worse.”

Yep, I knew I’d already got a miracle. I could have been killed or severely injured by an impact like that. And I wasn’t. “God is my safety in every circumstance.”

A ski patrol woman finally showed up and began asking me questions.

Her first question was “how old are you?” Lol, that was probably healing too.
In my mind I was thinking, “are you fucking kidding me? I’ve just been wiped out on the slopes at high speed and your first question is how old I am?”

“I don’t tell anyone that,” I replied. I never ask my clients that sort of question because in most cases it is entirely irrelevant to getting them healed.  And in my mind, I was thinking, “there is no way I am getting pulled into this Western medicine bizarre series of nonsensical non-healing where they are more concerned how old you are than whether you are injured.” God knows how much ski patrol was going to charge me for a sled down the hill and an ice pack. So right there and then I decided that I was going to ski down that mountain on my own two feet.

My leg was still smarting like a mofo but I managed to get to my feet and snap the skis back on my boots. The ski patrol woman followed me for half a run and then, seeing I was okay, went on her way. I felt a click in my left knee and got scared, but just reminded myself, “I do not wish to be seriously injured. God is the strength in which I trust.”

You may notice those of you who know how passionate I am about EFT tapping that I wasn’t yet doing a lot of tapping. Well, in many ways that is because I no longer have to tap physically all the time to get results. I have used tapping so consistently for so many years that my mind is trained for healing even without tapping. Conditions on the mountain were not optimal for tapping so I simply used the power of my mind to initiate the healing process.

When I got to the bottom of the mountain, I walked slowly and limping to the bathroom, where I sat on the toilet still quite stunned for about 20 minutes. And this is when I performed the next major step in healing.

I began laying my hands on all the injured parts of my body – my hip, my thigh, and my shin. I allowed Reiki healing to course through my hands. And I called upon Archangel Michael and Archangel Raphael to assist me. I then ran an “angel card” reading on my iPhone and got both Archangels appearing in one reading, confirming they had heard me and come to my aid. They were instrumental in the healing of Fritz the Cat, which you can read about here and also here.

When I felt collected enough to drive, I limped to my car. I drove toward Truckee where I have been working on my latest EFT tapping product, and stopped off as originally planned at Safeway to get groceries. Only after the trip to Safeway did I proceed to the health food store, where I picked up some arnica (if you don’t know about arnica, learn about it and try it for yourself: Learn about and purchase Arnica.)

A quick side note about arnica. I’ve learned a few tricks of the trade in my years as a healer. In my advanced version of EFT tapping, which is called Holistic Belief Reprogramming, we recognize the mind as the only source of real healing. This means that far from being an “insult,” we embrace the idea that Holistic Belief Reprogramming is a placebo. In fact, our entire intention with Holistic Belief Reprogramming is to harness and magnify the powerful placebo effect so that the mind can heal the body as quickly as possible in all situations.

Truth is, anything you reach for to heal the body is a placebo.
Western medicine is a placebo, and its effectiveness like all placebos is in the mind of the patient. What sets EFT tapping and Holistic Belief Reprogramming apart is our ability to MAGNIFY the placebo effect by removing subconscious resistance to healing.

On occasion in Holistic Belief Reprogramming, we use physical placebos as well where they have proved to be effective. Arnica is one of those placebos. They are literally like tiny sugar pills. The real source of healing is still the mind, but I would much rather reach for a $15 placebo in the form of arnica to aid in my mind’s healing of the body than reach for a placebo of Western medicine that might wipe me out financially. Western Medicine is an extremely complex and expensive placebo, and I try more and more to avoid using it whenever possible. Learn more about it here:  Homeopathic Medicine Arnica. When using a physical placebo in Holistic Belief Reprogramming, we always remind ourselves that really it is the mind that is doing the healing. This strengthens the mind so that dependence on the external is reduced. Too much to explain here. If you want to learn the advanced applications of this, please sign up for private sessions here.


18 hours after the accident, you can see my shin was split open even through all the padding of the ski boot due to severity of the impact. Yet no bruising !!

Now after purchasing the arnica, I finally drove home. More than three hours after the initial impact, I finally took the arnica and began to ice the injured parts. In the past, with an impact this severe, I would already be bruising and would probably be spending weeks in a recovery process.  In fact, I had always in life been an “easy bruiser” and I had a skiing-induced bone bruise on my hip a decade ago that took about two years to heal, I kid you not.

Amazingly, when I arrived home having received NO medical attention whatsoever, and peeled off my socks and long underwear … The evidence of the severity of the impact was obvious. Through my ski boot, the skin had been split open on my shin, and two large swellings had formed over the shin bone.  My thigh was still smarting and I could not crouch down without extreme pain.  But there was ZERO bruising. No bruising on my shin, no bruising on my thigh, and no bruising on my hip despite a small laceration there.

So fast forward a few hours … 18 hours after impact, and again two days after impact … still no bruising, as you can see in these photographs.

I was experiencing quite a lot of stiffness in my body, and practicing a few yin yoga releases went a long way toward releasing and relieving the stiffness – you can What Is Yin Yoga? and What Is Yin Yoga?.


If you look carefully, you can see a small laceration on my hip but no bruising. It did bruise a tiny bit over the next 24 hours but quickly resolved back to nothingness after I noticed it.

Now, in the wake of the incident, I began the deeper healing of the event. This included several layers:

First, what is the message of the incident?

Well, there were multiple messages and we will cover some of them here. One message was “slow down.” My life has already slowed down a lot but I still sometimes need reminders to “do less, and accomplish more.”

Another lesson here was to pay attention to what I was thinking right before the accident. I rarely get pulled into “low vibration” media events but perhaps because I flew Malaysia Airlines several times last year during my travels to Southeast Asia … I had got sucked into the story of the missing airplane and was thinking about that and other “death and anger thoughts” immediately before the crash. I was also thinking about a skier who died at Squaw Valley a few years ago. If you pay attention to your thoughts, I guarantee you will start to notice that “bad and painful things” do not happen to us “out of the blue.” They flow from our thoughts and beliefs, so by changing our thoughts and beliefs, we can change our experience.

Although my thigh was hit just as hard as my shin in the accident, as you can see no bruising 18 hours later !!  :)

Although my thigh was hit just as hard as my shin in the accident, as you can see no bruising 18 hours later !! :)

A third lesson showed up about 24 hours after the accident. I had a “deja vu” moment when I realized this accident was similar in “feel” to one that happened to me in college. In that accident, an incompetent driver made an illegal left turn into my car on an unprotected green light. He still had his foot on the accelerator after he hit me – JUST LIKE THIS MAN ON THE SKI SLOPES. It was like he never even saw me. And he got out of the car and – just like this guy – proclaimed the accident my fault even though he had clearly broken the law.

In that case, before I started on the spiritual path, I drove a broken car around and fought him in the courts for nearly a year before the judge decided in my favor and his insurance paid to get my car fixed. He also seemed to be “driving blind.”  My car was also hit on the LEFT side!  The left side represents the Feminine …  I was ALSO angry right before that accident happened!! My anger had attracted both of these unfortunate situations with unconscious men. It was like a repeat of the same incident in new form. It also reminded me of the unconscious men who have plowed over me in sexual and relationship situations, totally blind and oblivious to the impact of their actions … Well, in my method we call this a “karmic loop” and we dissolve karmic loops in my coaching programs like the 15-Week Miracle Coaching program. So now I had a good EFT tapping video topic and did some tapping on this unfortunate pattern. “I am not the victim of the world I see. I have invented the world I see.”

And I saw the parallel to our unfortunate consumption of animal products. The blind “running over” of others is exactly what we do when we enslave and kill animals for meat, fish, dairy, eggs, and other animal products like leather. The global healing implications of the incident became manifest. (Every time you choose a vegan meal, you make a difference for an innocent animal somewhere on the planet who just wants to live – Becoming Vegan.)

Alongside all these “lessons” from the incident, as my body was healing faster than it ever has before from such a severe accident

There were also lessons to share with my audience. I posted this on Facebook the next day:

So here’s an alternative approach to life. Yesterday I was hit in a pretty major high-speed accident. And I could have used this as most of us do on Facebook as a way of getting sympathy and support and “nursing” the situation. I could have emphasized my “weakness” and “vulnerability” so people would pay attention to me and send me lots of “caring” messages. Instead, I set an intention for the fastest possible healing, and the results are pretty miraculous. I’ll probably blog about it later. Sympathy is a very “cheap” high, my friends. It doesn’t get us anything we really want, and although it is a pervasive form of social “currency” … it has no real power. I invite you to set your sights higher.

And now we get to the title of this article:  the problem with vulnerability. I have noticed with this “vulnerability movement,” which people like Brene Brown have made popular … that we have a bit of a problem. It has become quite trendy to share our “wounds” and “weaknesses” in order to ingratiate ourselves with others and get attention. Some people now share their entire “death journeys” on Facebook. And I tell you the problem with this is that we are rewarding non-healing by buying in to this.

Vulnerability and being in touch with feelings CAN be empowering, but ONLY when used with a solid framework for holistic healing. For me at this point, vulnerability has one purpose and one purpose only. If I feel bad or pain about ANYTHING, it is a warning signal that there is something out of alignment in my belief system. And when that misalignment is corrected, I can expect to be returned to perfect youth, health, and immortality. If I am using vulnerability to perpetuate attention to sickness, aging, and death, then vulnerability has been hijacked by the ego and is actually working AGAINST healing. Most of our social customs work AGAINST healing, and so very few people are aware of it.

This is why recently I have been working on a brand new 30-Day Social Freedom Challenge. I can no longer with any integrity continue to participate in social niceties that are literally killing people. And so I tend to be very blunt and direct when I see instances of this on Facebook and elsewhere.

Wouldn’t it be nice if we could transform mainstream socializing into a medium for strengthening instead of weakening each other?

Wouldn’t it be nice if nobody saw any further value in pain or sympathy or death and instead focused entirely on restoring themselves and those around them to perfect health?

Can you imagine the burden lifted off everyone if we were no longer “buying in” to the idea that is is in any way “helpful” or “loving” to help someone decline and die rather than standing firm in every situation for full recovery and perfect health?

I can already imagine that world, and that is the world in which I wish to be living. Will you join me there?

After all:

Be glad today how very easily is hell undone. You need but tell yourself:

I am the holy Son of God Himself. I cannot suffer, cannot be in pain; I cannot suffer loss, nor fail to do all that salvation asks. And in that thought is everything you look on wholly changed.

A miracle has lighted up all dark and ancient caverns, where the rites of death echoed since time began. For time has lost its hold upon the world. The Son of God has come in glory to redeem the lost, to save the helpless, and to give the world the gift of his forgiveness. Who could see the world as dark and sinful, when God’s Son has come again at last to set it free?

You who perceive yourself as weak and frail, with futile hopes and devastated dreams, born but to die, to weep and suffer pain, hear this: All power is given unto you in earth and Heaven. There is nothing that you cannot do. You play the game of death, of being helpless, pitifully tied to dissolution in a world which shows no mercy to you. Yet when you accord it mercy, will its mercy shine on you.

– A Course in Miracles

And so with this high speed collision on the ski slopes, literally hit by a speeding bullet of unconsciousness … which I expect to be fully recovered from within a few days rather than weeks or months or years as in the past … we come ever closer to the fulfillment of the prophecy where these words will actually be true:

Neo: What are you trying to tell me? That I can dodge bullets?

Morpheus: No, Neo. I’m trying to tell you that when you’re ready, you won’t have to.

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