This is a tongue in cheek post, because if you remember from an earlier post, I don’t believe in labels.

Nonetheless, because this seems to be a hot topic at the moment, and several friends have suggested that perhaps I am a “player” who doesn’t care about having a committed deeper relationship, I am going to address this here.

First off, I note with some humor the difference in reactions that I’m getting.

Mogul Guy (MG from earlier post) is representative of one camp. Here is a snippet of our text conversation:

Me: I might need s’more sexual healing ;-)

Him: You mean you want to have sex with a different one of my friends?

[Note: MG can’t see me at this moment, but my mouth literally dropped open. MG does have a way of putting things in the bluntest possible light.]

Me: Lol. Not necessarily. Just cuz it’s part of my life purpose to be in the seduction community doesn’t mean I am a player. You guys seem to have the wrong idea.

Him: Have you asked yourself why you have such a fascination with the PUA? I really don’t get it. I look at people for their core. ttul.

Me: So do I, goofball. …

Him: What if all I focused on was dating and attracting strippers? Would that seem odd?

Me: LMAO. Strippers need love too, Mogul Guy.

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Ok, now let’s contrast MG’s response with someone else’s perspective:

Me: btw, I’m now getting flak for hanging out with PUAs and being a “player.”

Him: LOL! The irony is amazing. You are a player, and it’s wonderful. Game respect game. You have a truckload of [guys] after you and if they can’t handle having the tables turned on them, then so be it.

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Now … I’m going to address the stereotypes about PUAs in a separate post, cuz I don’t think they are really accurate. I feel sad when I see people judging the seduction community without understanding the contribution it is making to the world.

Assuming for the moment though that my guy friends are defining “player” as someone who plays the field and is not interested in deeper connections, then I am most definitely NOT a player. I am very open to having a committed LTR. As I’ve said before, I am really intrigued by the possibility of exploring deeper emotional and physical intimacy with one partner.

I also realize that it is one of life’s great paradoxes that you are most likely to find that awesome LTR when you have an abundance mentality and lots of options. As Jeffy said over on RSDN, “If you want to get the one special girl, you have to know how to get ALL of them.” IMO, the same principle applies to girls.

Or as Jesus said, “To those who have, more shall be given.”

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Oh, and also please see my Erika Goes to Vegas update HERE. We have some very exciting blog times ahead, my friends :-)

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Meanwhile, in a very interesting turn of fate, the guy from the original How to Seduce a Celibate Girl posts has returned to the scene and may be coming to Vegas with me. What an adventure life is turning out to be!

Love,

erika awakening