Five reasons I don’t date anymore.
I do not date anymore. Ever.
GASP. Weren’t you a dating coach? Haven’t you met Mr. Right yet? Blah blah blah.
Folks, we have more important things to attend to around here. Like getting miracles for our clients and customers.
I stopped dating for a very good reason. Every date I went on was turning into a free coaching session for HIM. And my time is too valuable for that.
2012 has been a year of miracles for me. I just finished the last of the seven chakras with the release of the 30-Day Crown Chakra Opening Challenge (learn more here).
The two most amazing miracles I will note for right now are these:
1. I made damn close to a quarter million dollars in the first six months of this year (after nearly giving up on my business entirely two years ago, recall this article lol?)
2. My skin had a miraculous healing. My skin was one of the casualties of the horrible conventional lifestyle to which I had succumbed before my near-death experience. My skin problems started right after a horrible relationship break-up, the worst of my life. It has been steadily improving since I discovered EFT tapping in 2007, but there have been many times when I thought that it would NEVER heal completely. But in the past four weeks, the healing has gone to a whole new level. My skin feels so soft now that I am caressing myself all the time, just to feel its silky smoothness. It really was the final aspect of healing for my body (other than the total reversal of aging, we will get to that in a moment).
Last night, I had a stunning moment of clarity, and I don’t think it’s a coincidence that it’s coming at the same time as these other miracles. I finally stepped off my last hamster wheel.
And now I say to the Universe if you ask me “why are you not dating?”
1. I don’t need to. I’m making a quarter million dollars in six months sitting at home in my pajamas. If a quarter million dollars can show up on my doorstep without me making one single sales call, then my partner can do the same. It’s called the law of attraction, and if you know how to use it, you can do anything.
2. I’m not in a rush. Did I mention the Eternal Youth Challenge yet? Lol, you may ridicule me all you want. I turned my business around, I healed my skin. I will achieve eternal youth. Laugh until it happens, because it will. So why do I need to be in a rush? Time waits on me :)
3. Oh, you think I’m lonely? Nope, I used to get lonely and do like everyone else, run out and do a bunch of meaningless social activities to try to fill the emptiness. I don’t get lonely anymore. And I rarely go out, either :) God is with me at all times, and we have an amazing relationship. Problem solved. This is what it means to master inner game. Nothing left to chase because you found it all within yourself. When you master inner game, that is all you need. Full stop.
4. This really can’t be just “any” man. It’s got to be the right man. I’m not interested in a fixer upper or a guy I have to coach. I’m only interested in a man who can inspire me to new heights. That’s going to be a God of a man. Anything less simply won’t do. Next.
5. The Universe is better at deciding this than I am. Day by day, I am getting to be a master of letting go and letting God. Fuck dating advice. Let God handle it.
And that’s it. Of course it’s going to happen. Of course it’s going to be more amazing than I ever dreamed possible. God loves me. God loves you. Of course He’s going to hit the ball out of the park on this one lol :)
Plus, I am in the process of mastering time. Literally. I mean fuck inner game, mastered that a long time ago. We have bigger ambitions around here now. We are mastering time. Eternal Youth, here we come.
If I can get rid of chronic pain and skin problems that I thought I’d have forever, and take my business from virtually zero to quarter million dollars semi-annual that fast, I can do anything.
Mark my words.
Did I mention that he needs to be a God of a Man? ;)
Love,
Erika Awakening, High Priestess of Miracles here at TAPsmarter
p.s. Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going now to make love with My Creator. Who needs sex when you have this? Lol … and oh, we are just getting started :)
Hi Erica Awakening,
I believe the law of attraction is that there is no law. Attraction does not follow rules, guidelines or restrict itself. It acts at will and without reasoning. Attraction when not appropriate can only be suppressed through the structures that we associate with laws but still exists despite it not being palpable. I myself am not at your social worth, nor do I have the academic or financial credentials that woman seek. I am however passionate enough to whisk a woman off her feet, into my arms and through the door. I am kind enough to ensure that her mother knows how great she looks and respectful enough to know that her father never wants to see me touch his daughter. I am also brave enough to slap a man across his face for being disrespectful to the woman I’m with.
Despite these qualities, I am not with anyone now because I am also unemployed, live with my parents and rebuilding my financial security after going through a divorce. At the present moment, I am unattractive or un-dateable to women because of the realistic standards that you spoke about. I am now considered what you titled “a project” or a “fixer upper”. I accept this fate and realize that I will not date again until I present a sense of stability by becoming employed and regain a home for myself. I hope someone would not be “attracted” to me for just these things because it is not the essence of who I am, it would instead just be the fortune that has been blessed.
Thank you for allowing others to share their opinions through this forum. I wish you continued success and good health.
Sincerely,
Joe Larazza
Hi Joe,
I appreciate your vulnerability and sincerity here. I hope you will find your sweet spot of feeling empowered. It’s true many associate shame with the details that you are describing. I don’t know if you’ve tried EFT tapping for shame. I have been flabbergasted how much shame I and others have that needs to be cleared.
Here are a couple of articles I wrote about it:
http://tapsmarter.com/eft-tapping-shame-stigma/
http://tapsmarter.com/eft-tapping-to-release-shame/
Thanks for stopping by and commenting.
– Erika