There’s actually nothing wrong with still loving your ex. Truly loving actually makes us feel good, and demands nothing from the other person. The problem is not that you are still thinking about him or her. There’s only a problem if it’s making you miserable.
And frankly, most of the “advice” out there on the internet is only going to make you more miserable. I should know, because I used to follow that advice.
But I don’t anymore. I still love my ex. We had an amazing relationship, and we still have an amazing connection. The difference between now and a few years ago, is that now this love feels good. And demands nothing of him.
And I want to offer to you today that whatever you have been taught on the internet about how to “get over” him or her is not helping you. Whereas there is something that WILL help you … feel GOOD … which at the end of the day is all that matters.
What is that something? It is becoming empowered. Learning to love yourself. And creating the life of your dreams. Which, if that life of your dreams involves making money on the internet and having freedom to live every day as you choose, you are in the right place.
You see, something happened for me during the last two years. I had been following all that BS advice about dating lots of other people, and it was not making me happy. As a well-respected dating coach for men, I found myself coaching these guys on dates, and it did not feel good at all. I was thinking, “damn if I’m going to be doing all this coaching, at least I want to get paid for it.” So I stopped dating entirely.
GASP!! Of course, every dating coach out there will tell you this is insane. How can I ever find Mr. Right when I’m not dating at all?
Well, I have a different take on this. I’m putting my faith in a different road. I follow the maxim of A Course in Miracles that says this:
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all of the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. It is not necessary to seek for what is true, but it is necessary to seek for what is false. Every illusion is one of fear, whatever form it takes. And the attempt to escape from one illusion into another must fail. If you seek love outside yourself you can be certain that you perceive hatred within, and are afraid of it. Yet peace will never come from the illusion of love, but only from its reality.”
It is my strong belief that God is delivering my partner to my doorstep, without any dating necessary, and that my job is simply to continue healing myself and feeling better and better about myself.
Which brings me to today’s suggestion …
Instead of putting all your energy into posting on blogs and forums where you torture yourself about your ex and waste all your time and effort, I suggest you try something new:
Learn how to become empowered in your own life. And a great way to do this is learn how to make money on the internet. Let me tell you, few things will make you feel more empowered than becoming the master or goddess of your own destiny …
This morning I woke up to unexpected cash in my in-box and a bunch of new sign-ups on my list. I’ve already made over $100,000 this year. Do I feel empowered in my life? You betcha. After I finish this article, I’m going out to the ski slopes to take advantage of a gorgeous spring storm on the mountain. Above my computer is a picture window with majestic evergreen trees covered in snow, and there’s a glorious hot tub nestled in the trees out back. I don’t have a boss anymore. When I feel like going to the spa and getting a massage, I do it. I have a beautiful relationship with God. My days are structured by the flowing dance of life, ebbing and flowing like ocean waves. My raft is carried by the current of life, and everything is easy and effortless. My life is quiet and peaceful, and I love it. I spend my days mostly helping other people to attain this level of empowerment, and it is DEEPLY satisfying.
I have the feeling of being in love ALL THE TIME now, even though a physical partner is not present. And this has taught me that the feeling of being in love didn’t come from my ex, it came from ME. And nobody can take it away from me.
So back to my suggestion: come join us. Take all that energy that you’ve been putting into your ex, and start putting it into creating the life of your dreams. There are still a couple of days to join the Pajama Party movement at a really low level of financial investment (after this Wednesday, there will be an extra $197 charge to join us).
Do you really want to spend another day lamenting in an internet forum? Because that energy you spend on that today, you are never going to get back. And I promise you … there IS a better way :)
About the Author:
Erika Awakening is a Harvard Law School graduate and former practicing attorney. She left the rat race to become a location-independent entrepreneur, holistic life coach, blogger, speaker, healer, and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT tapping) expert. Erika Awakening is one of the world's foremost experts on eradicating limiting beliefs and lifestyle design on your own terms. Learn more about Erika Awakening
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