Right now I’m doing something that is anathema to most people. Aside from my coaching schedule, which is booked solid, I am doing nothing.
I don’t feel like eating, don’t feel like dating or socializing, don’t feel like exercising, don’t feel like having sex, don’t feel like going out, don’t feel like traveling, don’t feel like spending money, don’t feel like marketing anything or developing anything … there are a few things I’m doing to keep commitments I’ve made and keep my life running smoothly, but other than that …
I’m mostly just meditating, sleeping (I meditate while I sleep using Holosync, a miraculous technology that I now insist that all my long-term clients use on a daily basis), and having my Holistic Belief Reprogramming (HBR) sessions with my clients …
My life is being emptied out …
And in the past, this emptiness would have been the source of tremendous anxiety for me. I would be worried that “nothing is being accomplished.” I might have judged myself as lazy or worthless.
Nowadays I know better.
“What you leave as vacant God will fill.” – A Course in Miracles
If you insist on filling up your life with senseless activity and constant rumination and mind chatter, you are not leaving any space for miracles to come into your life. Miracles happen in empty space, where the ego’s clutter has been cleared away.
Look at the world of self-improvement. It is, for the most part, a mess. There are thousands of books to read, thousands of techniques to apply, thousands of “rules” to learn. And most people on the self-improvement hamster wheel never get anywhere. They just get more and more frustrated until it finally turns into despair. Then, if they are lucky, they hit bottom. And that’s when real change can happen.
So many men come to me and ask frantic questions. “What can I DO to get girls to like me?” “What can I DO to get over my approach anxiety?” “What can I DO to be having sex all the time with beautiful women?”
They send me long, “spaghetti mind” emails, filled with anxiety, always looking for some silver bullet.
I don’t answer questions like those, because they are the wrong questions. I don’t give advice (unless it is coming straight through me from the Holy Spirit and I am *certain* my ego is not involved) because MOST advice-giving and advice-receiving is part of a co-dependent pattern where the advice-seeker is giving his power away and attempting to receive answers from a source outside of himself, instead of going to THE Source of all answers, which is within.
Think of it this way. Your mind is like a closet. Most people whose lives are not working are frantically trying to fill up that closet. Perhaps if I just get this one latest technique or this one latest outfit, THIS will finally be the answer to my prayers. The closet gets more and more packed with crap, until one day you open the door and stuff starts pouring out onto the floor.
When the truth is that your closet would function a LOT better if it had very few things in it. If you kept ONLY the things you really need, and discard the rest.
Your life feels like a mess because your mind is a mess, and what you have inside will be reflected in your outside world.
If you’re lucky, you have an experience like I did, where you end up in a hospital bed within inches of death, and then it becomes clear that the stuff you crammed into that closet (like my honors degree from Harvard Law) are WORTHLESS. Absolutely MEANINGLESS.
Or maybe you are a guy and one day you look in the mirror and see yourself wearing designer labels, and necklaces, and a purple boa, and a top hat … spouting ridiculous pickup lines … and you finally say … “What the fuck am I doing? Who the fuck am I anyway, and what am I hiding underneath all this crap?”
Maybe you are a woman who has been on the hamster wheel of so-called “feminine energy,” and one day you look in the mirror and ask yourself, “How long am I going to stay on this hamster wheel of trying to be the ‘perfect’ feminine woman before I become honest with myself and admit that, not only is this NOT working, I don’t even like myself … I’m not being myself. I’m not loving myself.”
One day the wake-up call will come, and that is the day you may very well sign up for a Holistic Belief Reprogramming session, or perhaps even my 15-week Miracle Coaching program … because you realize that after ALL THIS SEEKING, spending money and countless hours, after all this posturing to be the “perfect” man or woman, you STILL do not have what you really want …
It is in this moment of abject despair that there is finally enough of an OPENING for you to begin to question the assumptions underlying your seeking.
“If I actually get what I think I want, is that really going to make me happy?”
And if you’re honest, the answer to that question will most likely be NO.
Sex isn’t going to make you happy. The perfect guy isn’t going to make you happy. Honors and accolades and fame and money are not going to make you happy.
Happiness comes from WITHIN. Love comes from WITHIN. Empowerment comes from WITHIN. Peace comes from WITHIN.
So through all this seeking outside of yourself, you are seeking it where it DOES NOT EXIST.
Your journey must turn inward, if you are ever going to have what you truly want. And you must be willing to let go of what you thought you wanted, in order to open up space for what you really want.
I promise, if you do this, the things you thought you wanted will show up. One day of inspired action, which may follow a period of doing nothing for weeks, will accomplish more for you than your previous years or even decades of “trying.”
Do less and accomplish more. It sounds so easy, and it is.
Give your mind enough space, and you will never have to go from A to Z in a linear fashion ever again. Your mind will become trained in making QUANTUM LEAPS, otherwise known as MIRACLES.
But you must be willing to let go of everything you thought was important to get here. You must be willing to question EVERY value that you hold, even the ones the ego holds most dear.
You must become a blank slate again. You must let go of “getting” things through the body …
I am in a state of emptiness. I don’t feel any energy for conflict. I don’t feel any energy for doing anything. Even when I start to get triggered by something, it dissipates almost instantly. I’ve been through the “triggered” response enough times. I remind myself that whatever it is, isn’t very important.
“If I defend myself I am attacked.” I will not defend myself today.
Back to meditating.
What miracles will be born of this doing nothing? I don’t even have the energy to imagine. Intentions are gone. Vision boards are gone. Effort is gone. Preconceived notions are gone.
I am in good hands. I am in God’s hands. I trust Him to deliver me.
“Into this empty space, from which the goal of sin has been removed, is Heaven free to be remembered. Here its peace can come, and perfect healing take the place of death. The body can become a sign of life, a promise of redemption, and a breath of immortality to those grown sick of breathing in the fetid scent of death. Let [the body] have healing as its purpose. … Let it receive the power to represent an endless life, forever unattacked. And to your brother let its message be, ‘Behold me, brother, at your hand I live.’”
You think immortal youth and happiness are impossible? They will be, as long as you insist on asking questions that have no answer, as long as you continue your frantic doings in the world, seeking after meaningless goals.
Let all that go.
Be willing to let it all go.
“An empty space that is not seen as filled, an unused interval of time not seen as spent and fully occupied, become a silent invitation to the truth to enter, and make itself at home.”
“What you leave as vacant God will fill.” – A Course in Miracles
My brothers and sisters, I invite you to rest today. And awaken to the real world.
I invite you to let go of boas and top hats and pickup lines and stilted notions of masculinity and femininity and return to the Garden of Eden with me, NOW, NAKED, DEFENSELESS, clothed only with self-love and self-acceptance.
This is the end of all your seeking. This is where Heaven is. You can have it NOW.
About the Author:
Erika Awakening is a Harvard Law School graduate and former practicing attorney. She left the rat race to become a location-independent entrepreneur, holistic life coach, blogger, speaker, healer, and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT tapping) expert. Erika Awakening is one of the world's foremost experts on eradicating limiting beliefs and lifestyle design on your own terms. Learn more about Erika Awakening
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