So as you can tell from the past few posts, I’ve been immersed in my own Deep Inner Game work the past few weeks.
Much of the seduction community focuses on outer game, or on relatively superficial inner game. And a lot of that stuff works, to some degree, for some guys. My experience has been, though, that the most profound shifts in my outer life have manifested after these deep periods of inner cleansing (what I call “vibe purification“).
What is vibe purification? It means going deep into our shadow self to pull up the parts of our life and ourselves that we least want to deal with or look at due to the painful suppressed emotions. We pull the negativity into the light, where it disappears.
Sometimes things are going to get worse before they get better … this is a very important mantra to remember when we are stirring up and addressing the darkest parts of the shadow self.
Until the shadow self has been owned and integrated, these dark parts continue to be active in our lives but outside of our conscious control. They get projected onto other people instead of transformed. That’s why we see people having the same destructive patterns repeatedly. That’s why we see guys in the pickup community who never seem to improve, or who have sticking points that they can’t get past. That’s why we see women who have the same unsatisfying go-nowhere relationship over and over again.
We need something that can break the cycle and transform the energy. That’s why I write this blog. Because after much searching, I finally found practices that actually work. Practices that have resulted in real and lasting change and ever-increasing levels of happiness and peace. Practices that have taken me deep into the unconscious mind and the spiritual world, where real change is possible.
Anyway, I’m feeling very torn this morning. I’m feeling torn because back in January, I had a glimpse of what is possible between a man and a woman. A state of true nirvana. Deep communion and blissful connection. Playfulness and laughter and affection and excitement. A sense of infinite possibilities for co-creation. A state of being that, once experienced, can never be forgotten. So there’s a part of me that feels, “wow, I’m just not going to settle for less than what I know is possible. Ever.”
And then there’s the part of me that woke up in the early morning hours today with such a deep sense of urgency. The practical part of me. The part that says, “you” (notice how the two parts are different — one speaks as “I” and one speaks to me as “you” … interesting) … anyway, it says “you need to make a decision and get moving and you can’t afford to wait around any longer hoping for permanent nirvana.” Wow, that doesn’t feel very good.
Anyway, I’m trying to hold space for both parts right now, in the hope they will be integrated somehow …
That’s another really important part of the vibe purification process, btw … allowing all aspects of ourselves to speak and be heard. It’s the stifling and suppressing that create problems for us. When all inner voices have the unfettered space to be heard without being judged or silenced, they will integrate spontaneously into unified, congruent intention. And that’s when we manifest what we want in our lives without any effort at all.
About the Author:
Erika Awakening is a Harvard Law School graduate and former practicing attorney. She left the rat race to become a location-independent entrepreneur, holistic life coach, blogger, speaker, healer, and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT tapping) expert. Erika Awakening is one of the world's foremost experts on eradicating limiting beliefs and lifestyle design on your own terms. Learn more about Erika Awakening
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