How to Attract Women: Take Your Game to the Next Level with EFT Tapping
I met a guy last night who could use some EFT tapping. EFT tapping is also known as Emotional Freedom Technique.
I’m at the bar and he’s a friend of a friend.
We got into one of THOSE conversations that I dread these days. He’s asking me a string of “interview” questions, like where I work, where I live, etc. This is creating zero attraction.
So when I notice myself feeling impatient and bored, I know this is the time for some “scary honesty.”
Me: Let me ask you a question. Is the conversation we are having even remotely interesting to you?
Him: [Confused look.]
Me: I mean, I don’t want to talk about my job. It’s boring to me. I’d much rather talk about what’s exciting to you in this moment, right now. What’s going on for you right now that excites you?
Him: Well, I’m asking these questions so we can get to know each other. I’m trying to find common ground.
Me: Ok, I get that. So you’re trying to connect with me?
Me: Ok, and what I’m saying is that I’m going to feel way more connected with you if you stop interviewing me and start connecting with me right now in the present moment. So tell me what’s really going on for you. If you were really honest, what would you say?
Him: That you’re hot, and I want to take you in the back and start making out with you.
Me: Ah, much better! Thanks for being honest. So now what is stopping you from doing that? What are the beliefs you have that are stopping you from doing that?
Him: I can’t do that. It wouldn’t be appropriate.
Me: Fuck “appropriate.” Appropriate is boring.
Him: I like it when girls swear. That’s hot.
Now we are laughing, so at least the conversation has come alive. I ended up giving him the pickup artist website cuz I wish every guy I met was going there to learn this stuff.
Anyway, I asked him what were all the beliefs stopping him from taking me in the back and making out with me, and they were stuff like this (in EFT these are called “tail enders” — they are the things that are holding you back from doing what you really want to do in life):
– It doesn’t seem appropriate with a girl who is wearing professional clothes
– I’m afraid you’re going to slap me.
– I might be totally blown out
– I worried you’re not attracted to me.
– etc etc
In other words, he’s not congruent cuz his intention of making out with me is being nullified by all his conflicting beliefs. So now if this guy were to use EFT tapping on all of those “tail enders,” the next time I meet him he might actually be able to pull it off.
This is called harnessing the power of your subconscious mind.