When “Willpower” Does Not Work – How Do We Heal Addictions?
One of many things I do in my powerful 15-Week Miracle Coaching program is help people let go of their addictions. Recently, one of my 15-Week Miracle Coaching program clients was able to let go of his addiction to pornography that had plagued him for years. In my system of Holistic Belief Reprogramming, we don’t do the conventional “cold turkey” approach. The failure rate of rehab programs shows us that “cold turkey” doesn’t really work for most people. And of those people it does work for, very commonly they just find a new addiction where they can continue avoiding the “repressed emotions” that are driving the addictions. I have seen someone go “cold turkey” on drinking alcohol only to start using chewing tobacco … Yikes!!
So in Holistic Belief Reprogramming, we don’t even try to use “willpower” to overcome an addiction. Instead, we get present with the messages of the addiction and we release what is driving the desire to disconnect through the addictive pattern. If you’d like to learn more about this process, sign up for my 15-Week Miracle Coaching Program. With the high cost of addictions, including the very high cost of residential rehab programs, DUIs, wrecked cars, wrecked relationships, and the list goes on and on … the price tag of my coaching programs no longer looks very high.
What Do We Mean by Healing Addictions?
Understand when I talk about “healing addictions,” I am using that term a little bit differently than most people do. I am not talking about a heroin addict whose life is totally out of control, although the same principles would apply. It’s just with someone whose life is that much of a mess, we probably have our work cut out for us in terms of emotional release. I’m talking more about the everyday “addictions” that everyone has. We can be “addicted” to anything. We can be addicted to Facebook, to television, to drama and anger. We can be “addicted” to porn or sex or a particular sexual partner. We can be “addicted” to playing a certain role like mother, wife, father, husband, or whatever our career “title” is. We can definitely be addicted to social approval. We can be addicted to anything. When I talk about healing addictions, I’m talking about anything external we use to disconnect from our feelings or to feel better temporarily.
Interestingly enough, I was not “trying” to cut back on drinking alcohol because it’s never been a problem in my life. Kind of like I was not “trying” to cut back on eating when I lost weight with EFT tapping in the fall of 2012. I had those few extra pounds for a long time, and it was not really a problem for me. I just didn’t like it. I’ve had my glass of wine a day (and sometimes a little bit more) ritual for a long time and often would drink more when I go out socially. In fact, I’ve had a long love affair with wine that dates back to when I waited tables in college and learned about the art of making wine. My brother is a winemaker. I have a wine cellar. I enjoy the taste and the art of wine … and I don’t really see any need to eradicate it from my life.
It’s more that I feel curious about it. Lately, I’ve noticed some changes. The first change I noticed was during the ski season. It used to be that I would always get an “apres-ski” drink after getting off the slopes. This past ski season I noticed that I didn’t want to drink that early in the evening most of the time.
Then there were also sporadic time periods during the past year when I would not feel like drinking for a week or so. At first, I attributed that to major energy clearings that had me not feeling 100 percent.
Now I realize something bigger than that is happening. Because the “not feeling like drinking alcohol” is growing. Most nights, it’s been getting down to half a glass and some days I don’t feel like having any wine at all. Sometimes I take a few sips from the glass and then it does not feel good any more and I put it away. What I’m noticing in my body is more and more desire to stay fully connected to myself. As soon as I start to feel disconnected, I don’t want any more wine. A bottle of wine is lasting longer and longer in my refrigerator.
How did this happen? Well, it happened by practicing in a committed way my system of Holistic Belief Reprogramming. Holistic Belief Reprogramming is an advanced version of EFT tapping. Most people are avoiding their feelings and their Shadow self. The urge to disconnect through addictive patterns comes from this avoidance. The feelings start to rise to the surface, we don’t want to feel them, so we reach for our addictions. Be aware there are plenty of “addicted” people who do not use any drugs or alcohol. I have seen totally sober people be just as disconnected as someone who is extremely drunk.
Healing Addictions Is About Staying More Connected to Ourselves Instead of Dissociating
Some of the disconnection patterns are very sneaky. Like people who engage in “spiritual baloney” that is not grounded in the real world. Their spiritual “ideals” are a way of disconnecting. I recently spent time with a very “spiritual” non-substance-using person who was utterly disconnected from his feelings. Thus, he was not able to connect with me emotionally and his unacknowledged anger was spilling out all over the place in passive-aggressive ways. Similarly, people who “go up in their head” and “figure things out intellectually” are habitually disconnecting from being present.
People who habitually use porn, or internet surfing, or talking on the phone, or staying “really busy,” or being a workaholic or overachiever, or traveling incessantly … all of these people are engaged in addictive patterns, whether they admit it or not. People can be addicted to food, sex, approval, Facebook, exercise, or just about anything else that is “external” to us. They are all engaged in a practice that ultimately will prove unsuccessful – avoidance of their feelings.
The only way to be present and release addictive patterns at their root is to get back in our bodies and our feelings. Over time, with a committed practice of Holistic Belief Reprogramming, we are releasing layer upon layer of toxic emotions. Some of my powerful EFT tapping video programs for releasing toxic emotions are these:
1. Release Anger with the 30-Day Anger Releasing Challenge at http://tapsmarter.com/anger
2. Release Guilt and Self-Punishment with the 30-Day End Guilt & Self-Punishment Challenge at http://tapsmarter.com/guilt
3. Release Shame and Unworthiness with the 30-Day Worthiness Challenge at http://tapsmarter.com/worthiness
4. Release Fear with the 30-Day Becoming Fearless Challenge at http://tapsmarter.com/fearless
5. Release Toxic Emotions from All Seven Chakras with These Powerful Chakra-Cleansing Programs:
- Root Chakra – How to Attract Money with EFT Tapping
- Sacral Chakra – http://tapsmarter.com/better-sex
- Solar Plexus Chakra – http://tapsmarter.com/power
- Heart Chakra – http://tapsmarter.com/soulmate
- Throat Chakra – http://tapsmarter.com/communication
- Third Eye Chakra – http://tapsmarter.com/intuition
- Crown Chakra – http://tapsmarter.com/crown
Healing addictions with Holistic Belief Reprogramming does not happen overnight. Then again, I have not seen any program on the market be able to heal addictions overnight. And even programs that are relatively successful such as AA require people to go “cold turkey.” What I love about Holistic Belief Reprogramming is that we are getting to the ROOT of the addictive pattern and removing the negative emotions that are driving it. With this approach, there is no need to go “cold turkey” … the pattern eventually just melts away all by itself.
Now if for any reason, my urge to drink alcohol were to increase again, I would not judge this and think I’m “going backwards.” I would just keep using the same techniques I teach to my clients for getting present TO the pattern. And I would release the emotions that arise. I can pretty much guarantee that the urge will go back down again after I have done this. When we can accept the ebb and flow of what is happening instead of fighting it, we can allow ourselves to have an organic and gentle healing process.
Unlike most programs, what Holistic Belief Reprogramming offers in the arena of addictions is a REAL solution for healing addictions. This is because we are not treating symptoms. We are addressing the root cause in order to heal the addictions. I’m not saying it’s going to be easy or happen overnight. Healing addictions for real can take some real commitment and persistence. My EFT tapping video programs, when used with commitment, will go a long way toward releasing the toxic emotions that are driving your addictive patterns.
If you want to learn my secrets for healing addictions, sign up for my 15-Week Miracle Coaching Program here. As we said before, the costs of addictions are so high that they make my coaching programs look cheap by comparison …