Is it ever “not worth it” to resolve a conflict?
Today I took down five of the articles that I wrote about Mark PostMasculine when I was in my phase of healing myself. I took the same articles down before, and then put them back up because I was pissed off. That was because I had taken them down for the wrong reason. I was taking them down “for him” instead of taking them down as a recognition of my own boundaries and values. Today I took them down for the right reason: under my value system, the articles were bearing false witness. I no longer wish to hold a grievance against him or myself.
There can be no case against a child of God, and every witness to guilt in God’s creations is bearing false witness to God Himself. Appeal everything you believe gladly to God’s Own Higher Court, because it speaks for Him and therefore speaks truly. It will dismiss the case against you, however carefully you have built it up. The case may be fool-proof, but it is not God-proof. The Holy Spirit will not hear it, because He can only witness truly. His verdict will always be “thine is the Kingdom,” because He was given to you to remind you of what you are.
- A Course in Miracles
The other day, Mark PostMasculine wrote his Guide to Resolving Conflicts. Most of that article was solid, and I agree with it. I am very happy to see Mark PostMasculine delving into the Shadow Self and the work of Carl Jung, which is a foundation of my system of Holistic Belief Reprogramming. However, we are going to keep ourselves and Mark honest at the same time here. The part about some conflicts “not being worth resolving” is not accurate nor does it reflect the level of self-honesty that all of us need to be practicing. It may be a statement of despair because we do not know how to resolve the conflict. It is not a statement of the truth. When we have truly become masters of conflict resolution, we can resolve ALL conflicts. In fact, world peace will never happen until we are 100% committed to this view (to join the 30-Day World Peace Challenge for free, click here).
Radical forgiveness is not forgiveness as the world perceives it. The world believes that wrongs can be committed, and that if enough wrongs are committed, the offense becomes “unforgivable.” Then the person must be written off, ignored, imprisoned, shamed, or even killed because of what they “did.” In this version of forgiveness, what seemed to be done can never be undone. There will never be world peace under this view of “forgiveness.” It is due to this view of “forgiveness” that countries all over the world are still fighting “battles” that started centuries ago, even though nobody can even remember anymore why they began to hate and why they are still hating. It is ALSO due to this view that some diseases appear to be incurable. The Universe is a hologram, and to the extent that we believe any mistakes cannot be undone, we will see this dismal pattern everywhere.
Radical forgiveness recognizes that everything that appeared to happen was a figment of our imagination, a nightmarish projection of our subconscious mind. It never happened in reality. And so there is no cause for grievances or grudges. There are no “broken plates” that can never be repaired. There is no place for blame or victimhood or continued suffering or continued contempt and disrespect for another person. “The past is over. It can touch me not.”
“To forgive is merely to remember only the loving thoughts you gave in the past, and those that were given you. All the rest must be forgotten.”
And as for “Is it worth it?” to resolve a conflict, well, the answer depends on whether you understand the cost to yourself of not forgiving.
“There are no small upsets. They are equally disturbing to my peace of mind.”
Forgiveness has no cost. It is simply a recognition that every “negative” event that ever seemed to occur never occurred. It is a taking of absolute responsibility for everything we have created as our own perception and projection. Broken plates that are “not worth fixing” are ego lies. The exclusion of any brother or sister from total forgiveness is nothing more and nothing less than a refusal to forgive ourselves. The cost of which is extremely high. Never will we experience peace while we are excluding any brother or sister from forgiveness so complete that when we see them again, we wish nothing other than to give them a big hug as we recognize our own divinity in them. That’s the God’s honest truth right there.
That’s why I took the five articles about Mark PostMasculine off of this website. What he appeared to do to me has not occurred, and I would not bear false witness against him because doing so is bearing false witness against my Self.
I didn’t say this would be easy, Neo. I only said it would be the truth.
Erika Awakening, High Priestess of Miracles at TAPsmarter
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Erika Awakening is a Harvard Law School graduate and former practicing attorney. She left the race race to become a location-independent entrepreneur, holistic life coach, blogger, speaker, healer, and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT tapping) expert. Erika Awakening is one of the world's foremost experts on eradicating limiting beliefs and lifestyle design on your own terms.
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