Comments on: The Quiet Desperation of Monogamous Relationships

By: Matt

Matt — Tue, 10 Jun 2014 19:25:21 +0000

The challenge of marriage is reclaiming freedom, especially once lost. Marriage itself becomes a practice that can lead to deeper intimacy if both partners are willing to take on the challenge of growth. Matt is caught in a power struggle of control. He will have to face his fear of rejection from his wife in order to break the hold and move forward.

By: Erika Awakening

Erika Awakening — Fri, 25 Apr 2014 04:02:19 +0000

In reply to JEN.

lol … “this woman”? … are you referring to the celibate, disease-free author of this blog? Yea, the only thing worse than monogamy is promiscuity. Choose which version of personal hell you like better. Or opt out of all of it, which is what I have done – http://erikaawakening.com/getting-off

By: JEN

JEN — Fri, 25 Apr 2014 03:31:15 +0000

This woman is fucking gross. I shudder thinking about all the herpes and crabs up in that crotch.

By: Shekinah Leigh

Shekinah Leigh — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 06:52:57 +0000

Luckily not all monogomous relationships are like this…some people find they can go deeper and explore more than they ever could before. It really depends on what your true nature is and how you like to express it…

By: Graeme Sudholz

Graeme Sudholz — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 06:06:19 +0000

That relationship is in trouble, and NOT because it is monogamous. A good relationship therapist will sort them out in no time flat.

By: Erika Awakening

Erika Awakening — Mon, 14 Apr 2014 08:26:07 +0000

hi Charlotte, I am part of the vanguard for getting people self-employed. I think traditional employment relationships always also become co-dependent …

By: Rich

Rich — Fri, 06 Dec 2013 04:58:32 +0000

In reply to Claudette Anderson.

Independent Contractor, right? They pay you hourly, double salary, overtime, no benefits. They can cut you loose after a project, or offer you a full time job later. Elance would be one way. Alternatively, with non-exclusive… many people work multiple part time jobs at once.

By: Claudette Anderson

Claudette Anderson — Thu, 05 Dec 2013 11:09:08 +0000

Hi Erika, interesting article. Thanks. I was wondering what does this non-exclusive arrangement look like when it comes to employment?

By: Erika Awakening

Erika Awakening — Thu, 05 Dec 2013 03:01:55 +0000

In reply to Saul.

Hi Saul,

Thanks for visiting us and commenting. I’m writing from the perspective of the hologram, where the intention behind what we are doing matters a great deal. True as long as we have time/space restrictions (which ultimately we won’t, but for the time being …), we are not literally going to have physical sex with everyone. The decision we make in our mind, however, about whether we are at least going to be OPEN to everyone or CLOSED to everyone is where everything else we see in the hologram begins … So as I wrote about in this article, the decision to cut ourselves off from the rest of society is also the same decision that creates war, sickness, death, and all of our other ills.

Monogamy is NOT a personal choice. It is made for the entire hologram, and nobody can afford to be arrogant enough to cut themselves off from the whole …

http://erikaawakening.com/five-reasons

By: Saul

Saul — Thu, 05 Dec 2013 01:50:07 +0000

In reply to Erika Awakening.

That’s an insane argument! I’m poly myself, so I get your point about inclusion, but the reality of the situation is that love and sex can’t possibly include everyone. Even people in poly relationships often only have sex two-at-a-time. Are they excluding their other lovers? Are they excluding everyone else who wants to participate? Yes, let’s try and be more open about love and sex, but choosing to have sex with someone inherently means excluding 6 billion others.