and actually you just inspired my next video :)

Lol … you’re right, it IS sad … that people accept so little and think they are still asking for too much. 99.99% of the planet is “settling” … and won’t even be honest about it. That ain’t gonna be me.

“You do not ask too much from life but far too little.” – A Course in Miracles

Thanks for commenting :)

Well it’s sad that you fill your head with mystical nonsense, but I can understand that some people would rather bury their head in the sand than face the truth.

I am entitled to miracles. God’s Will for me is perfect happiness. And … I need do nothing. :)

I came across a very insightful article once on a random Internet search. I’ll link it here: http://thinkerspodium.wordpress.com/2010/02/10/a-short-civics-of-sexual-envy/.

(Not by a self-help “expert”, mind you, just a normal everyday person who had thought a bit about life.)

Here he describes the kind of men who don’t have much of a sex life, and who suffer pangs of jealousy whenever they see women who they are attracted to having sx with other men, or when they see other happy couples enjoying eachother.

These men perceive themselves as “victims”, when in fact, they are victims of their own entitlement complex.

They believe they are entitled to sex, by mere virtue of existing. They don’t comprehend that sex is a gift, to be shared between two willing parties, based mutual love and respect.

No one “deserves” sex or is “entitled” to sex, no matter how nice, well-mannered, charming, funny, etc. they might be.

The way this mentality works in women is a feeling of being entitled to a long-term relationship, marriage, committment, etc.

Women think that if they find a man they like, spend a lot of time with him, sleep with him, that they are then entitled to all the rest. They don’t realize that committment, like sex, must be earned. It’s not an entitlement or a right (such as, say, the right of the accused to a fair trial).

It’s a response, just like sex, to the value one person perceives in another. A response like this, for it to be genuine, necessitates a cause. The cause is the virtues a person has cultivated.

It was painful for me to read this article and realize that the neurosis it described applied to me. But I can’t rebel against the plain facts. I’m trying to improve myself and get over my entitlement complex.

Erika, let’s say Mark did get back with you and delivered on his promises. Would that not feel somehow fake? Like he’s just honouring the contract without any real feeling. I wouldn’t like to be in a relationship with someone if they didn’t really care about me.

A perfect opportunity for me to share this quotation from A Course in Miracles, which I’ve been applying to myself as well.

Only the self-accused condemn. As you prepare to make a choice that will result in different outcomes, there is first one thing that must be overlearned. It must become a habit of response so typical of everything you do that it becomes your first response to all temptation, and to every situation that occurs. Learn this, and learn it well, for it is here delay of happiness is shortened by a span of time you cannot realize. You never hate your brother for his sins, but only for your own. Whatever form his sins appear to take, it but obscures the fact that you believe them to be yours, and therefore meriting a “just” attack.

– A Course in Miracles

“Moving on” has never in the entire history of the illusion of time and space, EVER solved any problem. Ever. See previous article:

http://erikaawakening.com/twelve-reasons-why-avoidance-just-getting-over-it-and-moving-on-is-a-stupid-thing-to-do

You had sex with him a couple of times almost five years ago. You need to move on with your life. As long as you don’t then you’re waiting for something that will never come.