Comments on: Zen Love or Tough Love?

By: Grazyna

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By: Scarface

Scarface — Sun, 24 May 2009 10:05:20 +0000

When it comes to Love I just had a big shift on that, and realization. My defenition of Love (for others) used to include the following qualities: acceptance, understanding, compassion and so on. Now I noticed that I couldn’t always life by those qualities.
Then I lately had the experience off feeling One with my(or better the)Self. And I saw the Self is alone, the Self is One, the Self is

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 23 May 2009 18:29:30 +0000

Soto rocks!!! Eat it, Rinzai!!!

By: Erika

Erika — Sat, 23 May 2009 18:23:17 +0000

hey Gayla,

It makes me happy to hear that you are enjoying your current situation. If you feel like sharing more concrete details about how the situation is set up, and what you like about it, I (and I'm sure others here) would love to hear more.

I must say though that I've become fairly skeptical of "harems" as a viable long-term option. In fact, the whole concept of "

By: Dan_Brodribb

Dan_Brodribb — Sat, 23 May 2009 17:44:37 +0000

Kimberly and Kali,

There's a difference between the word "zen" as it's commonly used in books like 'The Zen of Falling in Love" and "The Zen of Zombie' and the traditions and practice Zen Buddhism.

I don't think there's any need to get worked up over it. Guys who drive trains aren't getting mad about the guys who do math in cubicles calling themselves 'engineers.' Similarly,

By: Erika

Erika — Sat, 23 May 2009 17:19:54 +0000

Hi Kali,

Lol, it doesn't sound like your time in the monastery was much fun ...

No, actually, I didn't take her words as saying that I am ignorant ... what I'm pointing out is that using words like "ignorant," whether they are directed at someone or not, will tend to keep us in the realm of judgment rather than the realm of understanding each other. My perception is that

By: Kali

Kali — Sat, 23 May 2009 13:44:00 +0000

“Just makes one appear ignorant,” doesn’t mean she called you ignorant, Erika. I think that’s your interpretation.

It is too bad you didn’t respond to Kimberly’s remarks about Zen. I was quite looking forward to that one. I don’t know about you, but when I think of my time in a zen monastary — my sweet, relaxing, soft, and soothing time there — all I seem to recall is 4am wake

By: Erika

Erika — Sat, 23 May 2009 00:15:01 +0000

hi Kimberly,

Sigh.

Thanks for commenting and ... I try to avoid words like "ignorant" because they tend to be heard as judgments and to trigger other people.

As for your question about EFT, yes, it absolutely can lead one's potential love interests to call. This goes back to the subheading of this blog: "We are here to awaken from the illusion of our

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 22 May 2009 19:16:09 +0000

BTW: Your post rocks!

Love,
~Gayla

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 22 May 2009 19:08:31 +0000

Hi Erika,

The Zen passages inspire me... It seems we have culturally placed so much importance on security AND that we associated it with one person who must always keep up with our complex and changing sensitivities AND we feel that the only way his job is really done is when he supplies the "right" response for our sensitive and complex security needs.

I've walked around