Why I don’t worry about gossip, my "image," and other external things

I had an interesting conversation last night with a very well-known PUA. I respect him a lot and am very open to his ideas.

The conversation reminded me, however, just how radically different my approach is from nearly every other teacher in the community.

Some examples:

Several people recently have told me there is a lot of negative gossip about me in the community. Some told me in a protective way. Others told me in an attempt to create drama and get under my skin.

Gossip is not something I’m going to spend any energy on. I simply turn to these words from A Course in Miracles:

Nothing real can be threatened.
Nothing unreal exists.
Therein lies the peace of God.

The most attractive people in the world are internally guided. They do not concern themselves with other people’s opinions of them and they do not judge others. Anyone who does something new in this world is a threat to the ego, but the ego is not real. The ego will bitch and complain for a while whenever one of its constructs is challenged, but ultimately the ego is powerless. It will fall away. So we persevere regardless of anyone’s opinion of us.

Now, not caring about other people’s opinions does NOT mean we don’t care about the people. Compassion looks past the egoic nonsense and sees the human being underneath. That’s how I see all the gossipers. I know gossiping doesn’t help them and doesn’t hurt me. They may or may not be at a point in their evolution to see that themselves, but I’m not going to concern myself with where they are in the evolution of their belief system. I’m simply going to love them and look past the crap.

Another example is that several people have told me that my talking about E. has helped him and his business. I don’t know whether that is true or not, but people tell me that as if I should be upset about it.

Why would I be upset about that? I wish E. every bit of health, happiness, and success that I wish for myself. My intention has never been to harm him in any way, only to express my pain so that it could be healed and never again repeated. And that intention has been fulfilled. When I look into my heart now, I feel a huge amount of love for E. and am not able to get angry even if I try. It’s as if the past has been erased, except for the sweet memories, and that was my intention here. Only that. I wanted to feel peaceful about it, and now I do. I hope he does as well.

Life becomes a lot easier when we are no longer concerned about things like gossip and our image, and when we are no longer concerned about our “ranking” compared to someone else. Comparison is an ego device. It will keep us perpetually enslaved, perpetually on the hamster wheel, if we allow that. What need have we to compare ourselves to others once we have fully accepted the spiritual equality of all beings?

On a regular basis now, I don’t feel any need to do anything because I feel so good. Just today, I was washed over with wave after wave of what I can only describe as tantric energy, it feels like rush after rush of endorphins for no reason at all.

This is the state of bliss that my clients achieve too, if they commit to a long-term program with me. We resolve the negative karmic energy in the person’s belief system, and once it’s gone, it’s gone forever, leaving bliss and peace in its place. Once a person has achieved this state, what is there in the outside world that could ever again be worth striving for? There is no void to fill, so striving falls away.

And yet, paradoxically, this is when we become the most attractive. When we stop striving, we start being. Being is presence. Presence is the essence of seduction.

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

Erika Awakening Coaching Page from what others are offering. Once you and I have worked together to clear out your internal barriers, you won’t have to concern yourself with tactics and techniques. That stuff will all fall away, and you’ll find that people are simply magnetized to you because you have become the essence of Love and what you can give has now become unlimited. You have become a fountain in the desert, and people will come to you for water to have the living force restored to them as well.

Anyway, we are having a wonderful time in Vegas so far. Stay tuned for some adventure stories … :)

About the Author:

Erika Awakening is a Harvard Law School graduate and former practicing attorney. She left the rat race to become a location-independent entrepreneur, holistic life coach, blogger, speaker, healer, and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT tapping) expert. Erika Awakening is one of the world's foremost experts on eradicating limiting beliefs and lifestyle design on your own terms. Learn more about Erika Awakening

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  1. Saltzer,

    I'm going to respond to this by starting a new post.

  2. Anonymous says:

    Erika here is a fable that reminds me of what happened between you and E. I think it reaches farther than that to all PUAs and potential PUAS.

    A Scorpion wants to cross a river, but he can't swim. He goes to the frog, who can, and asks for a ride. Frog says, "If I give you a ride on my back, you'll go and sting me." Scorpion replies, "It would not be in my

  3. Gayla D'Gaia says:

    Nice! Sounds like a point of integration. This inspires me wholeheartedly today! Whew! I was getting on the hamster wheel of comparison and it was taking my energy down… this lifted me up again…

    Thanks Erika!

    Hope Vegas ROCKS for you, in the best possible way.

    BTW: Your whole message today is packed with juice! Juicy truths… truth is very sexy…

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