Comments on: What to do when there’s a conflict between what he wants and what she wants

By: Honey

Honey — Wed, 06 May 2009 16:31:00 +0000

How you describe the different/potentially opposing desires, I agree completely. Things are either important enough to break up over or not important – enough that you are willing to compromise with the other person. If you go by those two categories, then it becomes pretty clear when compromise is called for (most of the time).

By: Linmayu

Linmayu — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 07:08:00 +0000

I don't think I've ever had a guy listen to me so much that I lost respect and attraction for him. If anything, him listening to me intensifies the attraction and goes a long way towards getting me to fall for him.

Now, if he wanted me to make the decisions on absolutely everything, like he was a little boy and I was Mommy, then I would definitely lose respect...

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 06:55:00 +0000

Hi Erika,

Referring to what you have spoken about getting to know your yes and your NO in one area: it is a learning to get to know myself, to know what is guidance I have directly from God about anything I do... and what is an energy, thought, agreement, contract, to do something other than what is Divinely guided.

To follow this guidance without question takes practice

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 06:30:00 +0000

You will have to live dangerously. You will have to move towards the unknown, and you will have to love persons and not things. You will have to be ready not to possess anybody, because the moment you possess the person is not there. Only a thing can be possessed. OSHO

When you look through the eyes of logic, you will know a few things, but those few things will not give you the vision

By: Erika

Erika — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 03:14:00 +0000

Lol, Anonymous, good point :-)

That said, it doesn't really work not to listen to her at all, either ;-)

By: Frank

Frank — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 22:36:00 +0000

In my opinion the so called big things can really make or break a relationship. If someone has a “strong idendtification” like whatever, having at least 2 children, his values can have more pull than the relationship itself. Especially women seem to have this one, whereas some men could do good without children.
The big things should be taken care of before marriage (if you have to marry

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 19:28:00 +0000

The math gets more complicated when you factor in that she loses respect & attraction for the guy when he listens to her too much.

I realize that such things would never happen in your ideal relationship. But they do happen here on Earth.