Hi Raul,

Welcome to the blog and thanks for your questions. Yes, I can help you.

First, honestly, looks really are secondary to the attraction process. I’ve seen some very “good looking” guys have lots of trouble with women, and I’ve seen some very “not good looking” guys be wildly successful with women … just look at some of the “rocker” guys, they don’t even have to be famous lol. To see more about my philosophy on this (and I’ll be writing more articles soon), go here: http://www.spiritualseduction.com/attraction-is-not-physical-its-a-vibe-thing

Second, does she have to be a public figure? No … just a confident, secure woman. In my world view, ideally she can at least relate to your passion, and possibly even share it with you.

Third, it sounds like you are getting a lot of indicators of interest from women (touching, winking, flirting). You don’t need to know if she really wants to give her number. Check out Part 1 of my Vegas Guy Seduction Series (you can find the whole series here: http://www.spiritualseduction.com/vegas-seduction-part-8-why-you-must-have-empathy-to-be-a-master). Notice how I did NOT show interest, and he came over any way? If you want a “feminine energy” woman, you must be a “masculine energy” man, and that means you take care of the approaching and the escalating … if you are not in the habit of doing this, it’s going to require some trial and error, some practice, and some calibration. The frame you want to have is not “is she interested in me?” (which is looking to her to lead the interaction) … but rather “am I interested in her? if yes, then I must have the skills to get her.”

If you would like coaching around these issues, please sign up on my coaching page: http://SpiritualSeduction.com/coaching

cheers,
Erika

That could be, Brian. I personally believe that we all attract people who tend to mirror us. Meaning, that the less we play games, the less we attract people who play games. And so forth. What do you think?

When mixed signals occur I just take the ones that serve me for good. If I make a mistake I just go for the next one, it’s the simplest way to get win/win situations and to create the habit of possitive expectancy.

There are women that make all that sexy subcommunication consciously because they love attention. Is there some non-verbal clues, appart from just approach and test, which indicate that in fact they’re consciously acting ?

Thank you, Turntable. That felt really wonderful to hear :)

Hi Jim,

Thanks very much for your comment. You raise an issue that is quite common … what it sounds like to me is that YOU have inner conflicts, and those are being reflected back to you as mixed signals from women. If we were to use Holistic Belief Reprogramming to clear out the guilt and inner conflicts about sexual escalation and being a man, and all the anger at yourself for not doing what you want to do, and a bunch of other baggage … things would start to change for you …

And yes, thank you for the encouragement. It’s people like you who leave comments here who help keep me motivated to write more articles :)

Hey Brian,

Thanks for your comment. I suppose it depends how conscious a woman is …