Comments on: Vicky Cristina Barcelona – Can Triads Work in Real Life?

By: Erika

Erika — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 16:15:06 +0000

hey Matt,

The ACIM quotation that comes to mind is "You do not ask too much of life, but far too little."

In some ways this process is about eliminating expectations, and in other ways it's about having much much higher expectations of life and other people.

I agree with you that ultimately one realizes that the "other" is not separate

By: Matt

Matt — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 04:56:43 +0000

In my current thought, there is only one version of trust, and it does not rely on another person to attain it. To hold anyone to anything is to remove freedom of choice. It is containment rather than freedom. Our choice is the bedrock of our freedom. To remove one is to remove the other. If someone violates my trust, they have in essence violated nothing except my expectation of their

By: Erika

Erika — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 02:17:45 +0000

This is why it is SO important to be impeccable with our word.

To say what we mean, and mean what we say.

By: Erika

Erika — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 02:09:32 +0000

Thanks for the comments, guys.

Johnny, I do note that you are in a very stable primary relationship, though, and that the stability of that probably meets a lot of emotional needs that would not be met through haphazard polyamory ... yes?

Matt, I agree with you for the most part and I'm not a big fan of rules. At the same time, and this is something I've been

By: Matt

Matt — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 01:51:34 +0000

If competition was dropped and if fear of surrender was dropped, love would display itself in whatever ways it would will. I am seeing more and more that our ideas of what sex should be and what marriage should be drive our behavior. The behavior is not intrinsic to the act of loving. The more guilt is removed from the equation, I find that the more rules go out the window.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 22:38:09 +0000

I dunno, I tend to believe it's more trouble than it's worth.

My experience has led me to believe that the majority of bisexual women, especially the ultra-fem ones that most men would be into, are made that way via tramatic experiences with men at an early age. Usually abuse which was either physical or psychological. That keeps them firmly on the fence between men and women.

By: Johnny

Johnny — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 16:54:22 +0000

Triads and larger communal groups are completely viable, presupposing no one's upbringing/ego-issues cannot be overcome.

That 'dissatisfaction' is ALWAYS due to poor expectation management - generally on multiple sides - and can be avoided through open communication and honesty.

Women in First-World nations are culturally raised to believe in lifelong monogamy,

By: Benedict Smith

Benedict Smith — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 15:52:59 +0000

i think women can dismiss the physical things that may occur outside of her relationship with a man, but when it seems to be an emotional connection…..things fall apart.