Good for you on getting all those proposals, it sounds like you authentically drew people into you!

I do wonder about some of the men, what could some of them expect if they had never been romantically connected to you? At the moment they asked you did you feel a strong connection, and did you feel tempted by all of them? Or did some still seem like friends

They're intended to be followed.

The conflict comes in because the present self makes the rules for the future self. By that time, the new present self can usually outmanuver the memory of the past self.

While rules are intended on being followed, I would also say that when you get down to it,

Nah, I took them down because I had finally given myself enough empathy that I finally felt understood. And then what happened is what always happens when people receive enough empathy … I started feeling tons of spontaneous empathy for Entropy.

People in the Western world are completely trapped in a Matrix of rules. I live in Brazil right now and everything is "raw" here!
Men like to be fucked in the ass and are mostly bisexual, women love sex and would laugh about rules like not kissing on the first date (if they know what dates are at all) and when girls turn 16 here, they already have

What you're pointing out is the difference between rules and values.

To me, honesty and integrity and being impeccable with one's word are values. It's not possible to be congruent without them. It's not possible to have good relationships without them. Same goes for compassion.

Rules, by contrast, are things like "you

Really, though, how do you balance doing your own thing with not being a complete asshole and leaving those with whom you interacted in worse shape than you found them? That's a concern that you should have; just look at your previous post.

Avi

Thanks for your comment, which feels very sincere and is much appreciated.

It has varied a lot actually. Some I've known for years but never been deeply romantically involved with. Some I had only recently met. It seems to be a vibe thing on my part more than anything else.

cheers,
Erika

And heck, even guidelines can sometimes create too much thought and worry. Oh, by the way, I'm so curious about how out of the blue the marriage proposals were. Did they know you for a while in each case? Did they give you a reason?

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