The Enormous Power of Reframing: My Heart is Breaking Open

Yesterday I wrote about feeling sad and like my heart was broken. Then I canceled a date and went into deep sleep and meditation (for those who’ve never tried it, I highly recommend Holosync).

I woke up feeling refreshed and picked up my iPhone to find a huge number of new emails and notifications. There was an enormous outpouring of support on Facebook, including several private messages, and several people picked up on a common theme:

Josh said: “We will all have experiences meant to ‘break our hearts’—not in half but wide open.” – Don Miguel Ruiz, ‘The Voice of Knowledge: A Practical Guide to Inner Peace’

Philip said: breaking open….is a beautiful thing even through the tears…and the universe will wipe your wipe your cheeks, om shanti

A said: yes… they break open. sending you love! ♥

See the reframe? My heart is not broken, it is breaking open.

Immediately, this reframe felt true. Notice in my blog post that I did not say that someone or something broke my heart. I just felt heartbroken. It doesn’t feel like present moment sadness. It feels like lots of old sadnesses, from a past long ago forgotten, that were never expressed and released.

This reframe also feels more empowering. I’m not shutting down. I’m breaking open. My heart is releasing the old garbage to make way for infinite amounts of love and lightness. The Universe is preparing me for a love greater than any I’ve yet seen.

Anyway, the power of reframing is one of the seduction community’s major unrecognized gifts to the world. In First Report from 21 Convention, I mentioned that reframing is a way of progressively cleaning up our belief systems so that we live our way into a much more fulfilling reality.

How can we tell the difference between a limiting belief and an empowering belief? By how it feels in our bodies. Limiting beliefs feel … well, limiting. They feel like constriction and pain and doubt and hesitation. Empowering beliefs feel heart-opening. They feel like “I can do anything I set my mind to, and there’s not a damn thing anyone can do to stop me.”

Anyway, I am loving this Heart Breaking Open reframe. Thank you, Facebook Angels.

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Erika Awakening is a Harvard Law School graduate and former practicing attorney. She left the rat race to become a location-independent entrepreneur, holistic life coach, blogger, speaker, healer, and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT tapping) expert. Erika Awakening is one of the world's foremost experts on eradicating limiting beliefs and lifestyle design on your own terms. Learn more about Erika Awakening

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  1. Anonymous says:

    lol what I loved about david d's books especially was the ummm tabel with succesful dude personalities…ya know badboy, artist, adventures blablabla..

    I wanted a tabel about that for women too…hahaaa!

    you're definitely an artist personality to me with all your little problems…


  2. Wooo hooo! Congrats..I tried to post on your page..but no dice? My compputer is acting amuck!! Times of great sorrow have the potential to be times of great transformation. But in order for transformation to happen we must go deep, to the very roots of our pain, and expeience it as it is, without blame or self-pity.
    This pain is not to make you … Read Moresad, remember. That's where

  3. This was an incredibly lovely entry. I admire that you're so open with your feelings, allowing others to internalize your realizations and walk away from the experience with something.

    Hope you're feeling better :)

  4. and Emotional Freedom Technique uses NLP …

  5. Anonymous says:

    reframing doesn't come from the seduction community – it comes from NLP.

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