microbiomejournal.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/2049-2618-2-41

time.com/3587838/bacteria-spread-kissing/

I’ve discovered my white coat hypertension is a reaction to _people_ – some no reaction at all. Like another form of muscle testing as if my body know who is a threat.

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Mmmm … yes yes yes

(Dating still produces not so wholesome images in my mind of two Dates, the fruit, doing stuff to each other ;-) )

Yes, coming back to the slower pace at which Nature moves always feels right. It’s strange how long it takes for us to realign ourselves to a more natural rhythm.

These periods of “celibacy” are very necessary. Often because the body/mind/soul/spirit needs to cleanse itself. Often that is a purging of the frantic romancing. Especially in a woman’s body which is simply not designed for anything frantic.

I heard it recently, from one of those deeper, maybe even original, sources of Tantra, a tradition not available in the west. That a Woman’s Soul needs the warmth from a Man’s Soul. That there are draughts in a Woman’s Subtle Body which are meant to be closed by a Man’s Embrace, and sometimes just by a Man’s Presence.

I heard that and it clicked. And it clicks with everybody I have mentioned it to since. It clicks because it rings true on a deep level within.

So, yeah, a Woman’s Soul must be warmed up by a Man’s Soul if they are to connect and co-create/co-evolve. From this perspective it is easy to see and accept how a relationship can only evolve and enrich itself and grow and grow over time.

It is obvious that a big deal is made out of slowing down in the article above. Which is fine … yet, no need to create any hard and fast rules. But in general women prefer that slower pace. And most men never experience the deeper, wider and wilder turn on a woman enters when a man seduces her with his presence rather his lust.

Reminds me how when I occasionally give trainings to men about how to relate to and touch women, my most repeated phrase is “Slow down …. No, slooow down …. Did I mention to slow down ?! “.

And ties perfectly with one of my most favourite Tantric Sutras, “Anything slowed down becomes sacred.”

So Sacred Romancing seems just as appropriate. And even more Tantric … As Tantra is really just a method to get us beyond, just a bridge to helps us cross over. Yeah, it has that huge interest in the west these days, but it really is time to deconstruct the misconceptions and just get real. And there is no need to be slow about getting real … ;-)

So, is it possible to slow down without indulging too much in Tantra-tinted fantasies ? – that is the question.

There is an aliveness that comes with slowing down that is like nothing else. It just happens that last Monday I decided to do a really slow session in a martial arts class I lead. It was a bit of an experiment. My concern was they may get bored. But I really wanted to try it with a group. (Maybe that slowing down is in the air lately).

It ended up being one of the most amazing classes I have ever given. They huffed and they puffed but eventually they got it. And the moment the deeper tensions begin to release and especially when a related emotion is softened and melted away and let go, and when the new freedom and spaciousness appears, the feeling is undescribable. I kept thinking that it is better than sex … though the situation was not appropriate to be voicing that.

I am thinking lately that Slowing Down is the Royal Road to Self-Knowing. And, of course, there is nothing original about that one but it is a kind of an important insight for myself personally. Especially as men want that Self-Knowing at any cost, while for women Loving will always be the higher priority.

Anyway, hopefully some of this thinking aloud is helpful.

My response which is going to sound typical to you is: make love first slowly as you both have been anticipating this for a while (at least as far as I can tell) and then do it again twice on Sunday. The only problem with this is afterwards. If there is emotional hangover/bangover or if that feeling wears off yet again, there might be a void from that time in between the sheets (or the floor/fireplace/air mattress/office den/coffee table/whirlpool) and that point in time where you both try and figure out where the relationship stands. I know you don’t have most of those typical hangups because of your EFT program which is a huge turn-on (and the reason you got so many guys in lust AND love with you even though I’m probably overstepping my boundaries by writing so).

With whatever little experience I have I don’t know if any amount of EFT tapping or mental conditioning can prepare you for that. This last sentence might be exposing my own naivéte. Hope this helps to the slightest degree…
Love you. Love your stuff.

One thing that I have found to be unique to Hebrew scriptures but ignored almost completely by both Christians and Jews is the very nature of people. Christianity and all the Pagan religions I have studied see no difference between between the soul and spirit. In the ancient Hebrew teachings we are made up of three parts, and unless all three are functioning together we are not really alive. These three are body, soul and spirit — soul and spirit are separate entities each with its own separate consciousness. This concept is found in both the Old Testament and the New Testament, but is completely absent in modern Christianity and from most, if not all modern Jewish teaching, both having replaced this with the Babylonian, Persian and Greek views, all of which seem to believe soul and spirit are exactly the same thing.

By this old Hebrew teaching the soul is our feminine nature and the spirit is our masculine nature. The marriage and sexuality is a very common theme in these writings, applying no only to our relationship to God, but also to the relationship between the soul and spirit housed within the house of our body. In the New Testament the soul is also referred to the old man of the flesh, or the old man of sin, and the spirit is referred to as the new man of the spirit, so there is a certain lack of consistency between the various sets of symbols, indicating that none of them alone is adequate to properly illustrate the spiritual concepts. Also we find at times that the physical body, otherwise called the flesh, seems to be referred to as a third consciousness in this relationship and having its own agenda.

What you have found and described here is the ideal with the “soul” and “spirit” communicating to bring about complete, and proper intimacy that we are to share with each other, and/or with God, in a proper relationship which keeps the flesh in submission to the proper order vs. the demands of the flesh for its own satisfaction with little or no regard for the proper order or true intimacy with the soul, spirit, God or our physical parnter(s).

True intimacy takes time, and there are various levels illustrated in the symbols, most of which will never all allow the physical intimacy if they are to be done properly (parents/children, brother/sister, extended family), and all of them to be experienced by us in some form before we are ready for the total intimacy of the husband and wife which is the only relationship in which the physical intimacy plays a proper role according to the symbols, so we should never be in a rush to go to the physical intimacy, but it sure feels good, and in our society to day we would rather have the instant gratification available by ignoring true intimacy and go straight to a form of intimacy that is only fulfilling to the flesh and ignores the needs of both the soul and the spirit. We really are that shallow all too often.

My response which is going to sound typical to you is: make love first slowly as you both have been anticipating this for a while (at least as far as I can tell) and then do it again twice on Sunday. The only problem with this is afterwards. If there is emotional let-down or if that feeling wears off yet again and there’s a void from that time in between the sheets (or the floor/fireplace/air mattress/office den/coffee table/whirlpool) and that point in time where you both try and figure out where the relationship stands. I know you don’t have those typical hangups because of your EFT tapping which is a huge turn-on (and the reason you got so many guys in lust AND love with you even though I’m probably overstepping my boundaries by writing so).

With whatever little experience I have I don’t know if any amount of EFT tapping or mental conditioning can prepare you for that. This last sentence might be exposing my own naivéte with this e-mail advice I’m sending. Hope this helps to the slightest degree…