Comments on: Taking off our masks: have you outgrown pickup?

By: Andrew

Andrew — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 16:34:21 +0000

"I'd much rather someone say, "You know I'm not going to do this because I don't believe in violence, but honestly I am so angry that I feel like beating the crap out of you."

Why? Because the very second they acknowledge their own feelings, they feel less angry. They may even start laughing, realizing how ridiculous it sounds. "

I think its

By: lilreddgirlie

lilreddgirlie — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 02:53:46 +0000

Hi Hrystiyan...

that e-mail didn't work! (it bounced back)

Daria

By: Hristiyan Atanasov

Hristiyan Atanasov — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 23:31:50 +0000

Wow Daria so I was totally off ah?

email me at hristiyan@loveofbalance.com and we can talk

more if you want

By: Daria

Daria — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 06:56:15 +0000

Lilreddgirlie says:

Hi Hrystian and Erika...

Thanks. Btw Lilreddgirlie is me Daria... hehe...

Thanks Hrystian. Turns out he Did call me, just had the wrong number. And I DID sleep with him on the last nite because I felt turned on.

I think part of why I didn't feel turned on the first time was hormonal... last part of the month for me and

By: Erika

Erika — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 01:14:33 +0000

GS,
It makes me so happy that you decided to take a NVC class. NVC is so life enriching!

Lilredgirlie,
I'm with Hristiyan. Trust what your body says way before anyone else's logic. Test men and test men and test them again. BEFORE having sex. If they are for real, they will stick around.

By: Hristiyan Atanasov

Hristiyan Atanasov — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 20:01:52 +0000

Oh simply trust yourself.

I think that you totally did the right thing by not going to bed with him if your body was not feeling turn on. And the fact that he is not calling you right now only shows that your body was right.

Your mind is telling you this is the perfect guy but your body is not buying it. I would trust your body way before your head especially when it comes

By: lilreddgirlie

lilreddgirlie — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 06:27:47 +0000

Hrystian thank you for addressing my situation!

I feel SUPER SHOCKED and interested in your description of the guy being "way to smooth." He was SO Smooth...

And now as I'm sitting here in my hotel room feeling moved and thinking about him (he hasn't messaged me) I feel all tight in my chest and SO MUCH attraction for him. I feel that yes maybe a part of

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 20:23:35 +0000

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By: Erika

Erika — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 17:43:06 +0000

hi Matt,

Well thank you for that, especially for encouraging my Shakti energy, which is indeed looking for an outlet for expression :-)

Hristiyan,

Thanks for being so honest. I'm so intrigued that you are having a bit of a hard time letting in the appreciation ... could be something for EFT ...

By: Matt

Matt — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 16:51:01 +0000

I loved this post, Erika.

Masks always hide, as that is their purpose. It takes a lot of courage to dig out the "bullshit," confront it, and go into why one would need a mask in the first place. It is all about fear of being real with others, which stems from the fear of having someone find out who you really are. What if we are nothing is the fear that underlies it all.