Saving the Planet One “Orgy” At A Time :)

How It Feels to Get Sexual With A Group of Eleven People (And What It Means for World Peace)

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Philippe displaying the weekend party’s “lost and found” panties :)

So how does it feel to get sexual with a large group of people? Well, it depends on how much consciousness and presence you bring to the situation …

We had a really powerful response to our monogamy articles. As the views I’ve presented are rather novel and unconventional, it is no surprise that some people have had a knee-jerk emotional response which tends to be accompanied by comments like this:

“if you think [A Course in Miracles] is nothing but a license to orgy 24/7, then I think you are missing something.”

“there are people in this world I would absolutely never merge sexually with. Would you have sex with a rapist? would you let someone rape you if they attacked you and beat you? probably not… why would you want to merge energy with someone of that energy? and as I said I am open… the only fences I have are against energy I wish not to engage with.”

These comments are full of fear and over-reaction, and that’s okay. We are going to need to be patient here as we unwind all the fear that ego consciousness has used to turn sex into an exclusive, scary, and threatening activity.

orgy saving the planet polyamorySo ridiculous parodies of the perspective I’m sharing aside … Let’s talk about how an actual group sex event went, because I co-hosted such an event last weekend with my friend Philippe Lewis. And let’s talk about why this kind of event – besides being really sexy and fun – will, in fact, save the planet.

First off, if you’re going to participate in an event like this, why not make sure the organizer is highly conscious and skilled? Philippe Lewis has a gift that he is sharing with the world, and the events he organizes are EPIC. He has much greater experience with this than I do, so I left the guest list and most of the logistics entirely in his hands. I could not be more delighted by the results.

We had eleven people all together, and an almost perfect gender balance. Most of the participants are couples who have opened their relationships and are actively exploring polyamory. Even just sitting around for dinner and snacks on Friday evening, I knew this was going to be a deepening experience because of the intimacy skill level of everyone who came. One couple was talking about how they had resolved conflicts with roommates in an open-minded and non-judgmental way. One man was sharing with me the story of how he opened his relationship after his girlfriend confessed to “being in love with two men.” It was not some mad rush to get naked and fuck. I felt delighted by the presence and connection and intimacy that all of the guests brought to the party from the very beginning.

Toward bedtime, the group cuddling began, entirely clothed. Everyone was hugging and cuddling with everyone.

I had not come into the event with any particular agenda or even hope about what would happen. I just wanted to connect with everyone. Yet Philippe and I have been connecting mostly online for over a year and we had met in person once with no particular chemistry and no hooking up. This time felt different. As we were all cuddling together, I noticed that I was feeling drawn to him sexually. And this fit with the energy of the group because everyone that first evening seemed to be coupling yet open. Philippe’s wife was not able to get to the party, so our coupling meshed with the group energy in that present moment.

As the weekend progressed, the focus continued to be on emotional intimacy as well as slowly increasing physical intimacy. People were not just sharing their bodies. We were sharing our hopes, our fears, our challenges, our philosophies on life. And having eleven people was far more co-creative and enriching than a couple usually is, because we were receiving that many more perspectives. There was a beautiful fluidity to how the energy flowed among us all weekend. Sometimes we would connect with one, sometimes with another, and everyone was fully included.

On Saturday, five people got naked in my shower and enjoyed an afternoon of washing each other and gradually increasing the intimacy. I enjoyed seeing the artistic image of so many naked bodies through the vapor-glazed glass. I wish I took a photo! Later we all played together on the bed. I didn’t feel comfortable taking my clothes off yet, but I didn’t mind that two of the other women were naked with their breasts in my face as we gradually turned up the volume and three men massaged me in the “play room.”

Everyone who knows me knows that I am a slow burner sexually but yes I was starting to feel like having sex after all this. I realized what mostly holds me back these days is fear of disease. Well, we had a welcome circle on Saturday evening where we all talked openly about our fears, and it turned out I was not alone. There was a “safe sex” questionnaire and a “safe sex” discussion. It turned out that most of the women at the party were in a similar boat as me, just starting to explore polyamory and definitely still working through our fears. I felt some relief knowing that other people felt just as I did. I could imagine, with no fear of STDs, having sex with everyone there. That’s how much emotional intimacy we were building. And based on the questionnaire that we all answered, that would actually be perfectly safe. :)

More flirting happened and I have lost track of exactly how it all unfolded. We were in the living room. Philippe and I were having a very deep conversation about God and “fuck yes” and living full in our power. Another beautiful woman was coming in and out of our conversation. She and Philippe were also flirting a lot all weekend, yet with this easy ebb and flow there was no cause to feel jealous on my part. I was actually enjoying their flirtation.

The conversation got very animated and passionate, and somewhere in the middle of it, Philippe said to me: “I’m a ‘fuck yes’ on taking you downstairs right now and fucking you.” Lol, and to be honest, I felt tempted. I didn’t feel ready yet though. I was in my own ebb and flow rhythm, sometimes feeling saturated by taking in so much newness and backing off a little bit to let it integrate.

It was not until late Saturday evening that I found myself in the play room with Philippe and two other couples who are in long-term relationships. They were each having sexual intercourse on either side of us. What a beautiful moment, I felt such gratitude for them sharing their relationships and their sexuality with us. I felt grateful to Philippe’s wife for sharing him with the world. And I was feeling … very turned on!

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Philippe and I in the shower on Sunday after most people had gone home

Finally, some of my clothes came off. And Philippe took me into the shower. Some people tried to follow us lol but he closed the door saying “This is a very delicate operation!” Lol. In the shower, under the streams of warm soft water flowing over us, Philippe gave me a G spot orgasm that turned into a beautiful teargasm and emotional release. After that I felt so limp and relaxed, I could barely move. We went in the hot tub for skinny dipping stargazing into the crystal clear sky. And then we rejoined the group in the living room, fully clothed.

Philippe came to my room late that night as I was getting ready to bed and we talked for a long time fully clothed. It felt like we would become lovers soon and I wanted to scare him off if at all possible, so I told him all the reasons he should not date me. Lol. He was totally non-plussed and seemingly not deterred at all. It felt like a relief to me though to be honest. My biggest thing is not wanting to get into any kind of relationship with a man who is not going to hang in there for whatever might come up after we have sex. I have had enough relationships with men who lack the skills to stay present and allow this kind of energy to transform, and I’m not interested in doing it ever again.

In the morning, he asked: “so is there anything else you want to do to try to scare me off?” Lol, and it became a joke between us instead of something scary. Then I made cappuccino while he has “the relationship conversation” with this other beautiful woman at my kitchen sink within earshot … and I felt no jealousy and really appreciated all the beautiful open honest communication and no hiding anything.

philippe lewis erika awakeningBy Sunday evening, most of the guests had gone home except for me, Philippe, and our event photographer from Jazzwall Arts. So this was the perfect opportunity for a photo shoot in my shower. Although I had my first nude photo shoot in Costa Rica earlier this year … this was my first nude AND sexual photo shoot. And it felt so liberating to be able to do this and appreciate the stunning beauty of the photographs WITHOUT worrying very much about what other people might think of me. Unfortunately, we are only including the PG-13 images here because we don’t want to get banned from Facebook :)

Once upon a time, I was a lawyer and a very successful one. I actually used to worry about stupid shit like “I might have Senate confirmation hearings someday and Good God I can’t let ANYONE take naked photos of me.” Fuck that shit. That is called LIVING IN FEAR, my friends. And really who wants to do that? Sometimes you just have to say “what the fuck” lol. If the job requires you to be anything less than your FULL AUTHENTIC SELF, it’s not a job worth having. And it took me almost dying for me to get that. But I do get it now.

Hope you enjoyed this “orgy” story. Not as depraved and superficial and disgusting as you thought, eh? :)


My takeaways from this amazing polyamorous event:

1. I absolutely would do this again and I hope it will be soon! It felt so sexy and fun and expansive.

2. There was way more emotional intimacy than I have experienced in traditional dating situations.

3. There was far more open and honest talk about STDs than I have experienced in most traditional dating situations, and there also appeared to be an extremely low STD risk in the group.

4. The emotional intimacy skill level of the participants was far higher than I have experienced in most traditional dating situations.

5. I want more! Oops, did I say that already? ;)

6. Yep, this is the path to world peace. This kind of intimate conscious connection and opening of relationships is definitely going to expand mutual understanding and a sense of “we” instead of the usual “you versus me” dynamics of monogamous couples with all the jealousy and other baloney that goes along with exclusivity.

If you missed the earlier articles about monogamy, check them out here:

Five Reasons Why Monogamy Is An Absolute Bar to World Peace

How Monogamy Is Like Racial Segregation

How Specialness Ruined Sex for Everyone

And our latest:

The Quiet Desperation of Monogamy

Photos by Jazzwall Arts – check out his Facebook page here

Event co-hosted by Philippe Lewis – read more about him here

Love,

Erika Awakening, Teaching People How to Create Everyday Miracles at TAPsmarter

Erika Awakening is one of the world’s foremost experts on eradicating limiting beliefs and living life on your own terms.

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Comments

  1. I think everyone needs to find what makes them happy. If this makes you happy then good for you. My husband and I had both been burned and cheated on. We both had some trust issues. Because of that, we have a bond. That’s not to say he doesn’t joke about bringing someone else into the bedroom

  2. Definitely not my thing, but I had an interesting time reading this! lol

  3. Calipso Jose-Manuel Boullette says:

    wat. da. fak. did. i. jas. reed.

  4. I have always wondered how one goes about finding these groups. I live in greater Los Angeles and have never been able to find them and I know they exist. I would prefer more singles than couples – as I am single – but am certainly open. Really, just open to making friends who are open to a intimate connections without the attachments and exclusivity agreements. I am open to suggestions if anyone knows how to find these friends.

    • Hi Stephen, I found them or they found me on Facebook. I don’t know about LA but I think Kamala Devi is in San Diego and has a very strong community there, she might be able to help you find people closer to LA. Some of the peeps who came to my party drove up from LA. Seek and you shall find :)

  5. Thank you Erika for the sharing. in fact, i would love to see your photo too. your blog probably does not need to be PG-13 compliant so perhaps we can be more liberal in sharing pictures?

    i have never been in a group situation and have always wanted to experience the connection with like-minded, conscious people. will be lovely to hear more.

    • Erika Awakening says:

      Hi Andy, thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. The blog could get banned from Facebook for explicit photos so they are not going to be shared here until the policies change.

  6. Michelle Miyagi Cloudinfinity says:

    This is beautiful Erika :) I am so happy for you <3 Thank you for sharing. Sharing in this conscious, loving way is quite amazing. So much more loving than the typical deception involved with "having your cake and eating it too." Being intimate, honest, connecting with heart, mind, soul, body, tenderly at your own pace…and reverently surrendering to the deep unity of sexual expression. What could be wrong with that? Love you <3 so beautiful <3

  7. De begunstigde AI says:

    Doesn’t anyone dare to speak his mind? Or for ever hold it’s peace?

    ‘I’ was looking forward to reading your aftermath-article, dear Erika. Glad you wrote it in the most honest way possible, a line which is visible in all of your articles. Thanks. We – ‘my’ wife and myself – also know what needs to be done to become completely free and non-dual thinkers. We have arrived at that very brink. Your article helps overcoming my fear of jealously, when my eyes are looking at some brother boning my wife! Because then the exclusivity has been violated… the non-existent exclusivity that is. LOL.

    What drives us; the greater good. You definitely get the drift. Did the ‘others’ get that too?

    Cya
    Alex

  8. Alina Ildiko Ionescu says:

    Erika, you are a one brave, wonderful woman and I'll be forever grateful for what I learned from you! I don't think I know anyone who is as honest as you about so many topics and fearless about sharing your experiences with the world. You truly inspire me! ♥♥♥

  9. J Mathias Bennett says:

    Well done Erika Awakening!! You keep rockin' it! <3 Mathias

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