Thanks so much for the comment and welcome to the blog :-)

What you pointed out is awesome and was actually going to be part of the “longer answer” that I still haven’t managed to write yet.

I absolutely 100% agree with you that humor is one of the best possible ways to address negativity. Humor is in itself a “reframe,” really.

Truth is, I *love* the humor on RSDN. It’s part of what keeps me going back there again and again. Sometimes I’ll read a post and be smiling all day. I haven’t laughed so much in years :-)

More on that later, but thanks for bringing it up.

love,
Erika

What a lot of guys happen to do when they step over the indifference threshold after consciously putting themselves into situation that beget a lot of social pressure and rejection, is they almost get careless with their self-amusement.

I agree that a lot of the comments you’ve gotten are total bs negativity but some that you might consider as a “cry for love” I thought were hilarious.

Probably those comments were just meant to be jokes, black comedy.

The internet doesn’t really allow for the whole context of a post to show.

So I’d say sometimes just smirk at the comment and don’t judge the person as a luv starved individual.

:)

Just a thought, love the blog and this was really cool because I have to love more people that don’t love me.

Like my friend’s girlfriend that hates my guts, instead of fueling it I can just accept it and show her some human to human love.

– VB

Yeah, you are so right. The people who seem hardest to reach are those who are in the most pain. They attack only because they feel attacked.

When I remember how painful it was to live in the personal hell of the ego, I automatically have way more compassion.

Thanks for posting that.

Those quotes actually reminded me of something that i learnt a little while ago. To think in loving ways and to send love to everybody especially those that seem they deserve it the least.

Its such a mental reframe, what you just did.

Because it takes it off YOU. Instead of kind of be self absorbed. You get to see the bigger picture. You find the people most critical of others .. are MOST critical of themseleves. Poeple most accepting of others are most accepting of themselves.

Thank you for reminding me about this. And also reminding me to reach out and have empathy for those around me.