Comments on: Postscript re "Love is a gift"

By: Erika

Erika — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 16:17:45 +0000

Sweetheart,

It's called communication.

Entropy has a conscience, but if he doesn't really look at the implications of his beliefs, he can unconsciously continue destructive patterns.

So I'm spelling out the implications of those beliefs. I don't believe that he can justify his "love is a gift" mantra if he really looks at what that means

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 16:09:50 +0000

Erika,

Maybe I am perceiving this the wrong way, but you seem to be slightly argumentative about this situation. It does not seem to be a matter of who is right and who is wrong, it seems to be a matter of incompatibility.

I would propose that you are both correct and you are both wrong. To Entropy, love is a gift. That is his reality. To you, love is a commitment.

By: Erika

Erika — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 22:07:22 +0000

Thanks, Daria, for sharing your resistance.

I felt resistance to this too for a long time, and then I realized my resistance was part of being a "cactus," as Rori says.

Our culture may have trained us that everybody has to take care of themselves, and to some extent of course that's true.

But if we really want to enjoy love and intimacy, it's not

By: Daria

Daria — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 20:38:44 +0000

okay... i feel a lil confused because well... i see the love is a gift.

i dont feel you owe anything to a cat, though definitely i don't advocate not feeding them.

but cats as adults could be able to provide for themselves (maybe not after not learning how, but maybe yes)

so I do agree that indeed it might not work out, and you might not feel like feeding them