GoneSavage posted a great blog entry the other day about a speed dating event.

Suddenly, in walks this man. He’s as well-dressed as anyone else and there’s nothing special about his looks. When he enters the room, he stops, smiles, and lets everyone notice him. Then, he confidently and deliberately walks right up to the hottest girl, passionately looks her in the eyes and said “I think you’re sexy, and I just had to come meet you. No one else here really captures my interest, and I’d rather spend my time getting to know just you. Let’s go get a drink somewhere else.”

And do you know what she said? She said, “I’d love to.” And they left together.

For me, this shows the power of decisiveness.

Decisiveness is a sign of congruence. It means a man’s intentions and actions line up in a harmonious way.

By contrast, nothing kills attraction faster than wishy-washiness and indecision.

So, whether you are a man or a woman, it’s important to know what you want, and also to know that you absolutely, positively will not settle for less. That you would rather walk away than settle. Always.

This is what Project Congruence: Turning Chodes Into Men is all about. And I’m happy to report that a bunch of people have volunteered to help me with filming, editing, and participating in these new videos that will demonstrate how to save yourself YEARS of effort in becoming congruent and internally harmonized.

So that you can be the guy who walks into the club and walks out with the girl.