While I appreciated this article, I found the errors quite distracting. Proofreading is love ;)

Rachelle,

I’ll just say this, with deep heart and respect: I really appreciated reading you and feeling you, and as much as one can understand where someone else can come from via words on a comment thread, I believe I get you and how/why you wrote your earlier words and the ones you just wrote now. They feel good/right to me, and I appreciate you for it. So thank you for that.

As for the difficulty of integrating career/purpose with family/partnership, it has been one of the greatest challenges of my life, something I never quite foresaw, and which has been kicking my butt in more ways than I never dreamed. But throughout all of it, my commitment to growth, my marriage and my growing famiy, along with integrating it together with purpose and career, has never wavered (even if sometimes it looked more like stubbornness or madness than commitment, check out an essay from my wife on this called The Doctrine of Stubbornness http://goo.gl/dlQCl). Basically, I’m in the cauldron of transformation and with each step, I seek to stay in integrity with all of it. It’s not easy and I will likely continue to make mistakes and learn, but I don’t walk away and I don’t quit. So it may look from the limited lens of FB that what I’m doing is off, but I can tell you with full willingness and honesty that I do my best to doing it well and with integrity, and with everyone involved, as I’m growing and learning — as we all are.

Thank you for bringing the conversation to this point and giving me an opportunity to say all of this above. That makes me appreciate you even more.

A bientot et avec amour,

Philippe

I’m glad we’re on the same page on these values at least :)

Hi Rachelle,

Wow lot of assumptions in there. I mean we could talk for days about every sentence you wrote before we’d really understand each other.

I personally appreciate Philippe’s honesty very much in voicing an inner conflict that many people are either too unconscious or too scared to express. By giving voice to it, he helps many others feel safe expressing themselves and getting clarity about values.

And yes in my value system, giving our energy to the collective instead of perceived “personal interests” (of which we actually have none in truth) is far more important than you seem to suggest. My guess though is if we actually sat down and had a real conversation, my perspective on this would no longer seem so strange …

cheers,
Erika

Listen, I have already expended far too much time and energy on this, and I told myself that I would not put one more ounce of my valuable time towards something that has no weight or merit in my life.

In this point of our collective evolution, we proceed ourselves by our virtual representation of our “selves”… therefore I have only to base any opinion of you, Phillipe, on what you have presented on fb (your virtual representation). I do not know you personally. At the time I deleted you, you were presenting the idea of “playing small” by staying home with your family and not being able to be who “you” really where – full manifestations of what you perceive yourself to be – whatever that title is… implications being there was internal conflict between staying home and being a father/husband as opposed to being able to go out and spread your gift/love/seed – insert your own description here. There is an energy that can be sensed and felt regardless of the constraints of time and distance – hence the possibilities of distance healing and the like. The energy I was getting from Philippe was very heavy/misguided and yes, sleazy. I have only to rely on my senses. And since I have devoted my life to releasing any energies that are not conducive to my optimal growth and well being, the only option for me was to remove – hence the delete.

Since we are mutable beings, and our boundaries are pliable, I have taken the stance of presenting the best representation of myself – I am selective about who and what I let in my life – as we should be. It is unhealthy to have chakras that are fully open at all times (this is why they are symbolized as the lotus, with the ability to open and close as needed) as we are left vulnerable to absorbing unnecessary negative energies. And this is not to say that being vulnerable is always a bad thing, nor pain, nor anger – which yes, I can comfortably say I do have ALL of – and I have embraced each as such. Sometimes the greatest moments of growth spring directly from/after the greatest moments of pain. Childbirth as the biggest example – don’t really need to elaborate much beyond this.

I just don’t personally jive with someone who puts a greater priority to spreading love to the outer community over first taking care of his own inner circle. It evokes a feeling of someone who is at unrest within themselves, and looking for immediate gratification through sexual fulfillment. And from some of Erika’s past posts on this site, such as the one about here ex (don’t recall the specific title offhand) her virtual representation tells me that she is a woman that has been scorned/emotionally damaged, and is vulnerable to sexual predators. She also presents herself as an open book when it comes to sex, so what man wouldn’t be all over that! And when you haven’t had sex in two + years, what man saying the right things wouldn’t get those apprehensive hormones and juices flowing…. we (our bodies, specifically) ARE animals and have animalistic desires. Any man who says (paraphrasing, don’t remember verbatim) “I’m down to go downstairs and FUCK” – is not the gracious gentleman and lover. He is a man, that wants to FUCK. In the cyber world, you are what you present.

That being said, I refuse to have someone tell me that I can only achieve optimal growth by opening myself to multiple sexual partners. And comparing it to apartheid and the Nazis, which is really just ludicrous in my book. These tragedies where about social elitism and selectivity; people believing that anyone who did not share the same heritage/culture/ideals (whatever) were unworthy/subservient.

Which is what I feel you are presenting, Erika – that anyone who is limiting themselves to one sexual partner is in some way not up to par with your standards. And that, to me, is a cult like mentality.

I am open to my modifying my initial perception of someone at any and all times, however, distance not permitting, I choose not to. And that is the beauty of free will and personal choice. I would rather expend my time and energy on my core family and surroundings and then beyond for what’s left to give.

So with that, as two conscious individuals, feel free to whatever it is you feel necessary to continue on your path(s) of personal growth and evolution. And I will do the same… And as for this conversation, call it what you will, and come to whatever conclusions you would like to about me – I have, after all, put it up in in the virtual world for viewing. I will be making no further responses after this.

Blessings, Namaste to you both!

seems we humans only lash out when we are in pain. I did a couple times with Philippe and I feel sad about it. in my pain, I could not see him. only when I got present with everything and my pain subsided and we talked about values could I see him again as he is. beautiful soul

Ah Rachelle, your post reminds me so much of David’s with a good deal of assumptions and caricature. You do seem to like the evil archetype you made up of me more then any remote desire to get to know me. And this brings the value of your words way down into irrelevance.

See, it’s clear as day that both of you have chosen to believe in a fantasy — without much proof — rather than making the efforts to disprove it by getting curious. It shows a strong bias towards early judgment which then in turn shows as a deep lack of ability to perceive the world well — otherwise you would see deeper and better than the words you have been writing, and in that case you would actually manage to nail me in some ways while at the same time realizing that the same faults (which you didn’t actually nail but might have) are also inside of you lying dormant, ready to be awakened by the right events. And from there your words would have compassion, generosity and love (while yours — and David’s — are devoid of it). This unfortunately leaves few explanations other than something deep inside of you is hurt or in pain, and your and David’s post are simply an expression of it, and your lack of perceptiveness shows how strong your shell is, preventing not only any ability to perceive, but also a great deal of love and compassion from going in either direction.

Oh well.

And I might totally be wrong and you are really a wonderful person. But wonderful people get loving and curious in the presence of strange and extreme, not nasty. So you tell me.

Kuddos on the animal rights, I’m right there with you…. make sure you are going a step further by not supporting the byproduct market of the meat and dairy industry, leather/suede / mass manufactured honey etc products… and purchasing products that are cruelty free. Corn syrup, overabundant cattle corn, supporting the organic market, non-gmo and right on down the line! We need more on this side of the fence, so keep recruiting!

As far as the rest, I’ll only post here to say that I hope that your sexual endeavors bring you everything you are looking (or not) looking for!

Blessings!

I am not a body I am free.

And I don’t think you know anything about this man. All I hear are assumptions. I’ve been deleted by many people on Facebook myself … for example, for standing up for animals. I lost 10 friends in less than 24 hours two days ago due to a post confronting people about the truth of eating meat – that the practice of eating meat reflects a lack of self-love. That my posts or my presence triggers discomfort in a lot of people means nothing about its value or its truth.

Again, my friend, I thank you for participating in the conversation. You’re welcome back anytime. :)

Funny thing, in reading some of Erika’s other posts I was getting the pressing feeling that she had been influenced by someone in the community that would break her of her celibacy. Someone that had to be extremely influential and charismatic. Ironically (and this most certainly will come across in a negative manner, apologies upfront, but needs to be said) not knowing either of you, it’s funny that I stumbled across the “Saving the planet one “orgy” at a time” and this post only to find Philippe Lewis was involved.

I do not know either of you personally, but I actually deleted Philippe from my friends list on fb about 6 months back as I could not stomach the sleaziness of how he presented himself on a social platform.

David Pullen, I am with you 100% that this man is a stealthy fox at manipulating words and pulling his charm to work his way into as many woman’s panties as he can muster. The feeling that this man evokes in me is complete and utter discomfort…. via internet ALL the way on the opposite coast of the country, mind you!

Erika, of course your feeling an extreme intensity post sex – it’s called dopamine, norepinephrine, testosterone, oxytocin and serotonin… it’s what keeps the body wanting more, it’s a biological/physiological reaction to sex.. sad that several years celibacy was thrown out for this guy….

And I’m sure he’s got you eating it up with a spoon, while he’s got another notch to mark in his bedpost. What a shame.

Moving on……