After 17 years of marriage to someone I have known nearly thirty years, I experienced the maddening experience known as “falling in love.”

I told both my wife and my friend how I felt, but other than that did nothing.

My marriage nearly ended – it had been on the way down for a long time. My heart exploded. I experienced an explosion of creativity that I thought I had lost the potential for and my life changed completely. Every day for two years it often has felt like I could not endure. It still feels this way some times.

I was honest to everyone and I kept to my vow and the reward is that feel I am a man of honour.

My relationship with my wife has improved markedly but I can no longer see my friend. It has been too intense. I love her as much as I ever did but I now know my wife loves me and I can’t leave my family – we have kids – and I love my family in a way that is different but no less important to me. And given that, my friend has her life to live.

But I will love her still and send her my prayers every day…

Having visited the strange terrain of a marriage myself I can appreciate your concerns.

I am curious about the unknown ahead. What can work without introducing more problems than forced monogamy might? That's what marriage is after all, except for the small percentage of people that have a glow about them well into their eighties recently reported.

Or maybe forced is the wrong way for me to look at it. Maybe spiritual makes sense. We give up complete sexual choice, like monks, to focus on a relationship. They have it with divinity, and the rest of us have it with a partner.

The most important thing I'm learning is that there is no guarantee. A marriage is no guarantee of permanence, nor is polyamory a guarantee of freedom.

And I would say that anyone who doesn't hear the Voice is not yet of sound mind.

We all have access to It, but very few of us listen.

Spoken like a true cult member.

My favorite part of the article is where it details how one of the course creators claims that jesus was speaking to her in a voice that only she could hear, and told her she should take notes. Ha!

Most rational & mentally sound people would rightfully believe someone who claims to hear the voice of jesus is not of sound mind.

:-p

What kind of b.s. is this? Does it come from A Course in Miracles, which you seem to revere like an evangelical reveres a bible?

Here's an interesting little bit of history behind A.C.I.M. and the story behind its creation. Sounds to me like the authors were at best suffering from a delusional mental illness, and at worst perpetrating a fraud on the masses.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Course_in_Miracles

At the core it is just another cult, really not much different from Scientology, Jehovah's Witnesses, and the like.

"You never hate your brother for his sins, but only for your own."

How obnoxious. I do have what I want, thank you very much, and if I had followed your philosophy & example I would never have found it.