Comments on: More for my Female Readers: Why Saying "No" Is So Important https://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important/ How to Attract Money and Miracles with Erika Awakening Thu, 14 Aug 2014 05:32:47 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.5 By: Anonymous https://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important/#comment-5885 Wed, 22 Apr 2009 04:45:00 +0000 http://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important-2/#comment-5885 Make sure to check out this book

Mating in captivity by esther perel

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]]> By: Anonymous https://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important/#comment-5864 Tue, 21 Apr 2009 16:12:00 +0000 http://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important-2/#comment-5864 “I like your quote, “dating is a game where each player is trying to make the other commit while keeping his options open.” It’s true, except there’s a missing part in there–the part where two people actually fall in love. To me, that’s the whole point of the game. And when the other person is in love with you, they don’t WANT to keep their options open–they want to do whatever it takes to be

]]> By: Linmayu https://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important/#comment-5863 Tue, 21 Apr 2009 06:53:00 +0000 http://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important-2/#comment-5863 Dan, 8 sounds great. ;)

Here’s a few of things that will make me or any woman feel second-class on a date, all of which have actually happened to me in the past few months:

1) Completely zone out because the restaurant has belly dancers on a big TV screen.
2) Use me as a listening ear for everything that’s wrong with the world, and don’t even make half an effort to get

]]> By: Anonymous https://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important/#comment-5861 Tue, 21 Apr 2009 04:21:00 +0000 http://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important-2/#comment-5861 also do you think the guy should bring up the question of commitment/exclusivity first ? after having sex the first time?

from my personal experience, whenever I acted relationshipy too early on, I never got the girl…whenever I treated her like I only wanted casual sex for the moment I got laid.

thanks again

M.H.

]]> By: Anonymous https://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important/#comment-5860 Tue, 21 Apr 2009 04:19:00 +0000 http://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important-2/#comment-5860 that’s some reasonable answers Erika, but if commitment is not necessarily related to exclusivity, then what is true commitment to you?

what is your clear definition of commitment (please give examples) us guys want to learn!

thanks.

mh.

]]> By: Erika https://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important/#comment-5859 Tue, 21 Apr 2009 01:44:00 +0000 http://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important-2/#comment-5859 MH,

I agree with you, I don’t see it as a demand at all, especially if he’s willing to let it go at that. It would only be a demand if he then tried to pressure her. If he’s willing to walk away, it’s not a demand.

The trouble is that two days in there is unlikely to be much buy-in on her part because they haven’t had enough emotional experiences together. But I’m sure

]]> By: Erika https://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important/#comment-5858 Tue, 21 Apr 2009 01:21:00 +0000 http://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important-2/#comment-5858 Anonymous 2:08,

There is a difference between commitment and exclusivity. They can go together but not necessarily.

I’ve been open to the idea of polyamory based in a solidly committed relationship, but to be honest my recent experiences have led me to be highly skeptical of that option.

I do see the occasional polyamorous relationship that seems solid, but

]]> By: Anonymous https://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important/#comment-5857 Tue, 21 Apr 2009 00:55:00 +0000 http://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important-2/#comment-5857 “…our hypothetical guy isn’t saying what HE wants. He’s making demands on somebody else”

what if what he wants IS a committed relationship? what if he is willing to be exclusive himself? why is it a DEMAND if a guy wants it, but if a women start hyperventilating about the guy not being committed to her then he is an asshole?

“dating is a game where each player is

]]> By: Dan_Brodribb https://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important/#comment-5856 Tue, 21 Apr 2009 00:06:00 +0000 http://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important-2/#comment-5856 “at what time in the relationship do you want the guy so say “I want you to be exclusive with me?” or you want him to say ” I will be exclusive with you?”

I don’t think it ever works that way, MH. There’s no timetable on these things.

The reason this quote doesn’t work from your 740 post…

“on the second date he told you that if you want to see him again then

]]> By: Anonymous https://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important/#comment-5855 Mon, 20 Apr 2009 21:08:00 +0000 http://erikaawakening.com/more-for-my-female-readers-why-saying-no-is-so-important-2/#comment-5855 “Anonymous 7:40, I’d probably think that was too fast. But experienced daters who’ve been intimately interacting for six months or more can certainly make that decision”

“Anonymous @7:40: To me, the only right answer to that one is, “OK, it’s been nice knowing you, good luck on your search for Ms. Right. :)” Sure, I’d respect him, he’s made it clear what he wants, but I’d walk away

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