Comments on: Why Monogamy Sucks, Part 3

By: Erika Awakening

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By: fun-da-mental

fun-da-mental — Tue, 30 Nov 2010 16:30:23 +0000

Erika said: “…Let’s notice what happens when you allow yourself to get involved in a “special” relationship. Especially when you make promises of exclusivity to another person….”

When a ‘relationship 1 to 1’ happens, there is no problem at all. Let it just appear, and disappear naturally.

Then, the ‘ego-demon’ appears in the form of a though in mind: “What if this person leaves me? I will be lonely and miserable again.”

And instead of just FEELING this fear, the ego wants to ensure itself, by making a CONTRACT!
– “I promise you my exclusivity! (And you have to do the same to me..!!!)
– “Let’s marry!” (Let’s make a contract which insures that we stay together forever, so that I will never have to feel lonely again..!!)

The cause of all this chaos and misery is as always:
Fear of death!
The ego does whatever it deems helpful for is survival… and of course it is a hopeless case…

So what is this ego which is afraid of death…?

By: Tegan

Tegan — Tue, 30 Nov 2010 00:03:56 +0000

Erika you’re awesome.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Sat, 27 Nov 2010 21:10:45 +0000

The concept “special hate relationship” is intriguing.
I think that to reverse that would be a fast track to
non-suffering. However you do that, as there are many
ways to do it.

Yes!

Elizabeth

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Sat, 27 Nov 2010 21:07:47 +0000

Erika’s arguments are like a moving target! The point keeps changing! But that’s OK, I enjoy people who can baffle me.
The less you know, the better off you are to act from the space between fear and desire.

:-)

Elizabeth

By: Erika Awakening

Erika Awakening — Sat, 27 Nov 2010 04:33:30 +0000

In reply to Brian.

Good. ‘Cuz OUR happiness depends on it ;)

By: Brian

Brian — Sat, 27 Nov 2010 04:18:07 +0000

Ok. Ok.
You win.
You can now rest your case. lol.

By: Erika Awakening

Erika Awakening — Sat, 27 Nov 2010 04:08:14 +0000

You are not special, dear one. You are exactly like everybody else. And if you hate anyone, you hate yourself. Period. Sorry, “I” didn’t write the rules. We did, before we incarnated here.

By: Erika Awakening

Erika Awakening — Sat, 27 Nov 2010 04:06:47 +0000

How many times must I say this, dear one? You can only perceive “condescension” if you believe it is possible for one person to be above another. I don’t. I definitely believe one person can teach another, as Christ teaches me. But we are not separate, so even if I’m teaching you, I’m really just teaching myself.

And how many times must I say … I did not “advocate” polyamory in this article … if you are polyamorous and believe that any of your partners are “special,” the ego has you by the throat just the same as in monogamy. Monogamy by definition is ego because you cannot choose one partner over everybody else without making that person “special.”