Good luck trying to get people to stop having sex…

Perhaps investigate the book called “Ethical Slut”. I haven’t read it all yet, but it contains helpful instruction to those who wonder about jealousy, etc…

I agree with you Michelle. I wouldn’t have about 1 year ago. But that all changed when what I had that can only be called a sort of angel experience shifted my view. It occurred with such conviction in it that I started to investigate it and realized just how warped our beliefs are when we base them on exclusion.

Those are interesting questions you raise :) Thanks for commenting.

This is an interesting article as I have always tried to justify monogamy and “push that idea” with my partner. Through reading your article, even though it seems to radiate a bit of an angry tone (who knows, I may not have read it had it not), I do see truth in it. While I wouldn’t necessarily say it’s like segregation, I do agree it arises from fear… fear of losing something, etc. My issue is, when is being “open” with intimacy just another excuse to put your power outside of yourself (ie multiple sex partners, projecting your own issues, etc.) vs. Actually just loving and appreciating others while being completely at home and balanced in your Self? This is where it seems this position could be taken into a direction that does not serve anyone instead of everyone.

I would say Michelle that it absolutely can be an addiction, that I have seen it used that way … and I remain in the unknown about whether sex plays any role at all in what real love is. It seems entirely possible to me that real love has nothing to do with the body and does not involve sex.

What I’d say about monogamy is that it may be a failed attempt to cabin the guilt that goes along with treating others as a body. People feel guilt about sex so they attempt to limit it to one person, and that doesn’t work and never will work.

I don’t have all the answers, but I am definitely open to the possibility that sex simply becomes obsolete here …