Hi Joe,

I appreciate your vulnerability and sincerity here. I hope you will find your sweet spot of feeling empowered. It’s true many associate shame with the details that you are describing. I don’t know if you’ve tried EFT tapping for shame. I have been flabbergasted how much shame I and others have that needs to be cleared.

Here are a couple of articles I wrote about it:

http://tapsmarter.com/eft-tapping-shame-stigma/

http://tapsmarter.com/eft-tapping-to-release-shame/

Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

– Erika

I believe the law of attraction is that there is no law. Attraction does not follow rules, guidelines or restrict itself. It acts at will and without reasoning. Attraction when not appropriate can only be suppressed through the structures that we associate with laws but still exists despite it not being palpable. I myself am not at your social worth, nor do I have the academic or financial credentials that woman seek. I am however passionate enough to whisk a woman off her feet, into my arms and through the door. I am kind enough to ensure that her mother knows how great she looks and respectful enough to know that her father never wants to see me touch his daughter. I am also brave enough to slap a man across his face for being disrespectful to the woman I’m with.

Despite these qualities, I am not with anyone now because I am also unemployed, live with my parents and rebuilding my financial security after going through a divorce. At the present moment, I am unattractive or un-dateable to women because of the realistic standards that you spoke about. I am now considered what you titled “a project” or a “fixer upper”. I accept this fate and realize that I will not date again until I present a sense of stability by becoming employed and regain a home for myself. I hope someone would not be “attracted” to me for just these things because it is not the essence of who I am, it would instead just be the fortune that has been blessed.

Thank you for allowing others to share their opinions through this forum. I wish you continued success and good health.

Sincerely,

Joe Larazza