Sure thing, gurl. It would be an honor to be part of your blog! Hell, if your inquisitive enough you may find out some more dark stuff from my life, I think I spilled a lil bit here but nothing that would get me in too much trouble. Especially now that I know Hitchette is or was an attorney! *zips lips* ;)

@Deirdre,
That calmness you feel is what I like to call the “Calm before the storm” depending on the situation your in, if it is at all negative to yourself or to others please be aware that it can get out of control. The situation I shown with my friend in the process of being raped, I believe was pure instinct rather than a triggered emotion. On your comment:

“Maybe triggers aren’t so much a protective mechanism, as I’ve often thought, but rather a way to bring to the surface our emotions, so that they can be dealt with and we have an opportunity to evolve.”

I don’t believe it is a protective mechanism at all. The ancient toltecs taught their people about these mechanisms or triggers. What their method of teaching speaks of is that we must imagine that we have a skin disease with wounds that are infected. What do we do when we need to heal the skin? We go to a doctor. The doctor goes into our skin, uses a scalpel to open the wounds. Then the doctor cleans the wounds, applies medicine and make sures the wound remains clean until it heals and it no longer hurts us.

Now Erika, please correct me if I am wrong but the scalpel would be the truths that the HBR system will uncover within each client. These truths can range from the triggers we hold inside us, the limiting beliefs, anxiety…etc (anything negative). Now if tapping is utilized along with meditation practices and remapping this would be the applied medicine, yes?

Edwin TheCROW

And EThe Crow….come chat on my blog when you can??? Liveyourdreamblog.com – I’d be interested in you writing a story if you’d like, sounds like you have some interesting life experiences??

Ms. E – happy week to you!!!

Talk soon,
Jacqueline

I’d love to work with you and believe that everyone should be compensated for their services in cash, trade, etc… as it’s an exchange.

Love n Light
D

Hi Deirdre,

Thanks for sharing the story about the natural healer. Yep, the only way for me to help the maximum number of people is to quit my day job. Now that I’m doing that, more than ever, this blog will need to be supporting me financially. I will continue to offer free tips and hints, but the truth is that people can make MUCH faster progress working with me one-on-one than they can make trying to do this by themselves.

And, yes, you are on the right track with your comment about triggers. And, yes, it’s great to bring more conscious awareness into the process, but you are right that it’s “not really enough.” HBR is designed to get people out of their heads “analyzing” their triggers, and simply get in there and erase the triggers.

If anyone would like to see 12 independent reviews from my very happy clients, please email me at Erika@ErikaAwakening.com, and I’ll send you the link to the website where you can read them.

cheers,
Erika

Hi David,

Welcome to the blog and thanks for sharing your trigger. Yes, situations with an ex can be very triggering, and very often is really touching on pain from the long ago past. I will say this: I have seen many situations shift and heal by doing what you are suggesting, that is, work on yourself first before trying to work it out with her. If you were my client, I would explore with you the memories, beliefs, and feelings that are triggered by this situation, and we would clear out all the old baggage. You would then be in what I call the Space of Empowerment. Calm, quiet, peaceful, non-blaming … and able to make clear choices that serve your highest good and the highest good of others.

That resonate with you?

cheers,
Erika

Also, I think wanting to be really informed about whatever issue I’m discussing can come from a defensive place, via a trigger, like you know, I know all about this and you don’t therefore I’ll squash your argument like the wacky drivel that it is.. heh. Rush Limbaugh knows all about this kind of stance, but it doesn’t make him any more “heard” by “the other side” or whatever.

Anyway..
“If we go within and clean out our own belief system and our own negative emotional triggers, everyone in our life will change. ”

That’s what I want to focus on, instead of the No! Listen to me I’m right! stuff. It’s just like, I feel challenged listening to people who are feeling triggered and their reaction seems all out of proportion to me, or I just feel turned off by their defensiveness as I’m sure they do to mine, so our communication it now ineffective because, as Erika said, everyone is now reacting, rather than communicating the important things they entered into the dialogue to communicate in the first place.

“Your anger is coming from the IDEA that it’s possible for one person to hurt another person … and that idea is FALSE. It’s impossible for anyone to hurt someone else. But … your mind has accumulated evidence for that “untrue” belief for many years. So with HBR we would need to go in and clean out all that emotional debris that created that belief. And then … you will start to see a world where nobody is hurting anyone else, and the anger will disappear.”

Maybe triggers aren’t so much a protective mechanism, as I’ve often thought, but rather a way to bring to the surface our emotions, so that they can be dealt with and we have an opportunity to evolve. Emotions are, in a way, our bodies ties to the soul. But typically the way we regard triggers is like, wait, I’m triggered therefore YOU are wrong. And then we have a mess of triggers overlapping all over the place. I for one would rather go somewhere constructive with it, and everything I’ve read about HBR feels completely sensible as a way to get to your own peace, etc. Because even if you’re aware of a lot of your triggers and pitfalls, that’s not really enough is it? We need to go in with that knowledge and clear.

I’m getting there… :)

I read somewhere once about a guy who was a natural healer – you know, one of those people who has a gift for healing. He would heal people in and around his community and everyone knew him as an amazing healer. However, he didn’t believe in charging people for his services, even though everyone told him he should. So he also had a day job, which ultimately kept him from expanding his realm of healing to even more people.. He refused to quit, thinking it wasn’t right to charge people for healing and it shouldn’t be mixed up with money. How’s that for a limiting belief? So he spent a lot of time making his living in a job that, you know, just about anyone could’ve done, while depriving more people than necessary of the benefits of his REAL work. Thankfully, Erika’s not doing that. And while it may feel frustrating to some that there’s are adverts in her posts, it’s actually very responsible to her own talents and very generous to her community.

Anyway, great post and comments. Lots and lots of food for thought here all around.

Recently I moved within 6 blocks of my X and I’ve been helping a friend at a store some 90 ft. away from where the X work. Lot’s has been coming up. Reached out a few times to attempt at being friends but not sure how to navigate that since I never had resolve or closure in how it ended (she kinda went MIA after almost 2 years of being together). We havn’t seen each other since Last November – and a series of very odd emails with a 3rd person had us emailing in March. Anyway, it’s – complicated and Triggering. Lot’s has been coming up and it’s been difficult for me. Thinking it better to work on myself then to re-attempt meeting with her to remain friends with this person.