Comments on: How dissociating from feelings sabotages your love life, and what to do about it

By: Daria

Daria — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 21:52:25 +0000

Dear John…

the "neutrality" thing is not a cold neutrality but an inspired "neutrality" more like LOVE than "neutrality" really…

By: John

John — Sat, 10 Oct 2009 23:55:06 +0000

As I said elsewhere…

I have a question about this "neutrality" — Is it that feelings about the memory are gone (which seems to me like someone is choosing to not care about a relevant past experience), or that the feelings have changed so that for the particular time you work with the memory or feelings you create this momentary 3rd-party observer experience? Does that

By: Erika

Erika — Sat, 10 Oct 2009 01:00:28 +0000

Thanks for the comments :-)

Anonymous, you heal it by becoming an energy transformer. You learn techniques to transform energy instead of staying in the old cycle of blame, shame, and guilt.

My primary tools are meditation, practicing presence, Emotional Freedom Technique, non-violent communication, and A Course in Miracles.

By: Fraser

Fraser — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 23:51:08 +0000

quality post, definitely something to think about.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 19:31:51 +0000

I totally understand that when someone triggers something in us or pushes one of our buttons its an opportunity to heal that button but once you embrace that opportunity, what then?? How do you heal that?