Comments on: How a girl keeps a guy around Part II – a more satisfying answer

By: Puavictim

Puavictim — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 04:36:00 +0000

wow, awesome post! I love it!!! The discussion is awesome. Enjoyed reading every comment just as I enjoyed reading the post.
As far as the comments, everybody had good points, and I truly mean that. GoneSavage… damn, you described every stage I went through in my relationship. I am in stage 3. Please ease up on Erica with the “chivalry”. She knows what she wants and she goes for it, and I

By: Michael

Michael — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 11:55:00 +0000

I work with a woman who exemplifies several of the things in your post, and I have to say it is tremendously attractive. Men are drawn to her something fierce. Her feelings and way about her leak down into her body language even. It’s a great pleasure to be around her and bask in the way she has about her. For me, it almost feels restorative.

A story comes to me about having

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 05:31:00 +0000

how about chivalry in a long term relationships not the first 2,3 dates.

MH

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 02:16:00 +0000

I read your post but not all the comments. First of all it seems everything you write is contradictory. Your a girl trying to behave rationally and a pua that can’t close.everything I read generates an auto eye roll response.

By: Dan (the real one)

Dan (the real one) — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 00:46:00 +0000

Makes sense Entropy - I don't have anything against chivalry (like I said I think it's a neutral force). If you had purposely avoided paying probably would have lead down an awkward path.

Erika - I'd love to hear more about this issue from the female perspective, because obviously the feelings it generates in women can be a very important thing.

By the way other Dan - can't you

By: Michael

Michael — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 00:45:00 +0000

Hahaha, I actually had to look up chivalry in the dictionary. Did you know it’s related to the word chevalier? And the useage of the word in different meanings goes back to the 14th century? Wow. Some definitions were: courtesy, honor, and gallantry, gentlemanliness, politeness, politesse, generosity.

Hell, these days, we’ve got so many guys out there in public who act like they

By: Entropy4

Entropy4 — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 23:09:00 +0000

Holy shit, where did all of these comments come from?

I'm only going to comment on the chivalry thing because I think it's getting blown WAAAAAY out of proportion here.

As a man who took Erika on dates, and as a man who doesn't typically do the chivalry thing, I think I can make some observations about what she means.

I'm typically not chivalrous at all with girls (I

By: Dan

Dan — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 20:54:00 +0000

oh yeah, and by the way, Erika, I have been on occasion been told I have a strong feminine polarity.

I'm not bothered by it so much anymore, but used to upset me so much the only way I could cheer myself up was going out and buying a new pair of shoes.

By: Dan

Dan — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 20:37:00 +0000

I've been following this thread with interest.

I read Gone Savage's blog and I think: "He's a trouble-making douchebag, hiding his sleaze behind semantics and pretty sounding words."

I read Erika's blog and I think: "She's a passive-agressive hypocrite, making judgmments from behind her NVC shield."

And yet...

I've never met either of them. The only thing I

By: Erika

Erika — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 15:37:00 +0000

Oh, I can explain it plenty, and probably will on a future blog post, but I’m out of time right now. What I’m saying is that its importance is not logical, it’s emotional. It’s a masculine/feminine polarity thing for me, it’s also an abundance thing. A guy with an abundance mentality in my experience ENJOYS taking a girl out to dinner and drinks. He enjoys giving to her. Of course I give back to