Yeah, I know … I haven’t been writing much lately … I’m in feminine goddessy mode right now … been playing a lot with Oracle Cards, sleeping, meditating, yoga, getting ready for imminent huge changes in my life …
So this article is going to be short …
I hear a lot of ridiculous things in the PUA community, so ranking this one as “the most ridiculous” is probably hyperbole. Still, I must say that this one — which I hear from guys all the time — is symptomatic of everything that is wrong with the way some outer game teaching approaches seduction.
Does this sound like you?
“But I can’t tell a girl I just met about the community. She’ll think I’m a loser. Or a player. She will think I’m creepy, or worse. I need to hide this from her.”
I see … so what you’re telling me is that you are spending at least 75 percent, maybe even ALL, of your free time studying and practicing pickup. It’s probably THE most important part of your life right now, and the foundation of who you want to become.
But you’re going to omit this — or even lie about it — and hope that you’re going to be successful with women.
Guys, this is MADNESS. I teach this in my 15-Week Miracle coaching program, and I wish more people understood … anything that you are HIDING is a symptom of shame, guilt, and other negative emotions about YOURSELF. If you think you can hide that kind of negativity, you do not understand how emotional sub-communication works. And I’ve got some very BAD news for you – I guarantee you are coming off to women as incongruent, untrustworthy, or worse …
If you want to be congruent, who you are on the inside MUST match up with who you present yourself to be on the OUTSIDE. And that means you MUST make friends with all aspects of yourself until you LOVE all parts of yourself.
This means you must RE-FRAME everything about yourself as a POSITIVE thing. Because, not to be cheesy, but this IS how God sees you.
And if you want women to see you as a God, and you want to love her like the feminine Goddess she is, you had better be seeing yourself and everyone else through the eyes of God.
That means HIDING NOTHING. You find a way to see your self-development as a positive thing, which it is, and you find a way to express it to other people that they also see it as a positive thing.
If you don’t know how to do this, STOP trying to handle this by yourself. Get some first-rate coaching, for goodness sakes.
Then you can breathe a HUGE sigh of relief, because there is no longer anything to hide. And you can finally BE YOURSELF, but not being yourself in the old way that didn’t work. I’m talking about being yourself in a way that gets you an amazing life. Not working so hard trying to be something you’re not, but relaxing into and CELEBRATING the Divine being you really are.
Okay, enough said. Now that I’ve shared this public service announcement, I’m going back to being a feminine goddess today :)