By the way, the audio doesn’t have to be unique – it can just be you reading the chapters. Or you can hire someone on a site like Voice123 to read the chapters for about $20/hour.

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What I would love to hear is what is common to new people that you’ve met that made you have open to them from the start. I enjoy deeper more meaningful conversations as I really feel I’m getting to exchange something of value – the unique stories and views of life that we have. Thats why I’m a little bit sad and uneasy when new people I meet stay with their social mask on the whole time.

So – best qualities to have to get them to open and get a better conversation going so you don’t have to feel like an interviewer/entertainer.

Thx

I’m sure of some of the things that you’ll be writing about and I’m anxious to see your elaboration on them. I think what would benefit a lot of the people in this community would be any sort of way to actually find out what they’re actually missing and not what they perceive is missing. Of course, that might also cause this whole thing to come completely unraveled ;)

Perhaps a lesson in forgiveness of not only other people, but of yourself as well would be something a lot of people could use your perspective on.

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Happy money making

Quick.

I would definitely be interested in what you have to say about this deep comfort and connection. Theory and practice both would be great, but I would lean on the practice side, unless you’re really going to do the theory proud. There are so many kinds of theory, social, psychological, yogic, spiritual. So many developmental lines to follow.

Something that sometimes can get lost in this pickup or “becoming more intimate or successful with women” territory is that some of us aren’t in it to get into sex, ya know? There’s a lot of really rich territory to explore and experience with women that we don’t sleep with. Not all of us are rampaging cocks. It’s not always only about getting the girl.

I have a lot of female friends. A lot of them struggle in their lives, just to have intimacy and be intimate … I get that the struggle is part of the feminine, but for a lot of them, it’s not just their energy, it’s a REAL struggle in that when they really want it, when their energy is there … and some of them still don’t know how to make it and have it. It’s ridiculous!

I don’t want them to have to continue to have this experience. I want to know how it works, so there is a place for them, a kingdom, or a refuge from the elsewhere. Not to get them in the sack, but because when there is that intimacy, it’s a beautiful thing, and is one of the things worth living for. One of the things that is worth continuing to live for.

Connecting socially without meta-talking about it is huge. I was having a conversation with one of my best friends the other night, and got off on a jag of being deep and grieving, and then called it off myself after it felt like too much. She began to cry … because the people she speaks with socially on a day-to-day basis usually aren’t engaged enough to know it’s time to knock it off and swing in another direction. For sure, it’s really valuable when we can talk and talk till dawn. Lord knows, my best female friend and I frequently have to head for the cellphone charger when talking. Studying language has been huge for me. Understanding how language is already partially hypnotic, and what happens when we are engaging in that without realizing it, has helped me a ton. Non-Violent Communication has also been huge. Just last night, during a conversation, I was able to notice the invalidation strategies of this one girl as she was using them … even as she didn’t consciously realize it. With NVC, I do find it has a tendency to dampen the electric charge of masculine and feminine that can be present in interactions … but it’s still huge.

Then we have the energetic realm. I wholeheartedly agreee with your post re: how energetic work may be the best tool we have to remove static from a man’s person in a way that can impact interaction. To my knowledge, some qigong and yoga teachers, maybe a so-called “tantra” teacher here or there, and mostly David Deida, are the ones who have written about this in a coherent applicable way. I believe Deida was asked in one of his audio interviews, ‘when should someone enter into a yogic relationship?’ or something like that. If I remember right, his answer was ‘Not at least after a few months of dating.’ He has made it clear that entering into that kind of agreement between practicioners is a pretty serious commitment … and yet it’s obvious that the principles that he teaches are in effect from the first moment of an interaction, and he really doesn’t teach how-to about what happens between first contact and the beginning of the yogic agreement. I guess some people are developing this in relationship to his work, but comprehensive “yogic game” as it were needs to be more than a conference call here or there.

All I know is that there is a moment where it works. When that friend of mine is standing or sitting in my living room, silent, after talking about around something that’s been bothering her. When I’m right there, in that moment, only in that moment, in this body, completely open to her hurt, and searching for it, and I look at her. And she looks at me, and I know, and she knows, and she knows that I know. And in that moment, where it’s as if time almost comes to a complete stop, where all thoughts of could have, should be, wish it was, hopes, fears and everything else in that cloud of thinking and running away from wanting things to be different for the other person and all of it is gone … in that moment … we both know that someone has finally SEEN her … we both know that someone has finally felt her.

And then she bursts into tears.

That is a moment worth living for. That is a moment worth writing a manual for.

And when there is that otherworldly seductive electric charge to it … it’s even more worth it.

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Also, I’d really like examples of using NVC to deepen intimacy. I had something else, but it escapes me.

xoxo,
Erika

would be many examples followed by your commentary. maybe some essays here and there.
a combination of theory and practice. questions to ask oneself as well. that’s how i would do it….

teaching is one of mankind’s nobler activities. Good luck.

I love your Blog I hope the book will be ready soon.